Iced in and growing tired of football.
I see so much pulling of women's hair and slapping of their asses in porn -- activities that aren't hard enough to qualify as S&M but that do appear to please either or both of the participants.
I've never tried either -- too much fear of hearing "ouch," or "don't do that" and screwing up the session. I don't think it would do much for me, but if a woman likes it, I'd certainly do what I could to please her. Are they something that women in general enjoy? If you do either during a session, what's the etiquette: ask beforehand, wait for her to ask for it, or just do it?
There needs to be chemistry, familiarity and trust. I hate a "limp" smack on the ass but get pissed when it's done and it hurts. No bruises allowed. I never thought of it as an art, but you are right, it is.
