Women - Whores or Angels?

Little miss, I would keep that cutie patootie little round booty
of yours and we could sell your wings and go on vacation. LOL Originally Posted by bojulay

These wings are priceless, babe

Angels Originally Posted by LittleMiss

I have to agree !!!

I once went to an Aids benefit at a dungeon. I was pretty much freaked out by the various methods to be submissive or dominate. But I got to know some folks and they seemed happy and peaceful. Not my thing, but I did design some toys for them! Originally Posted by Yxes

I took a date to a dungeon once with a couple of other couples. It struck me how cool everybody was while not engaged in dungeon activity. I figure they have to be completely open, honest and wiling to communicate and listen to anything to be able to safely and enjoyably do what they do, and it makes them really cool people just to hang out and chat with. Too bad that was out-of-town; I really would have liked to go back there for the people, even though BDSM generally isn't for me. (Our dates were really into it, though...would also go back to see the looks in their eyes again.)

I have a hard time even spancking a lady's butt. I have to watch her cues very closely and I have never come close to their limits before I pull back. Its just not in me.

I have a hard time even spancking a lady's butt. I have to watch her cues very closely and I have never come close to their limits before I pull back. Its just not in me. Originally Posted by pyramider

Spank the taint instead.


Somebody had to say it.

I am cut from the same cloth as the OP, apparently. It really disturbs me to the soul level to see some folks derive great pleasure (sexual or otherwise) from causing pain to others. I have learned not to outwardly condemn others for their sexual preferences, but I must say, if I read that a lady is really into this kind of play, she instantly becomes quite unappealing to me. And "gentlemen" who report these kinds of activities in their reviews lose a great deal of the general respect I had for them.

Honestly, it is a big part of the reason for my "stepping away" from this hobby.

I agree whole heartedly with the OP. When the opportunity presents itself I will open a door or hold it open for someone to walk thru, be it male or female. Not saying I go out of my way but in the natural course of daily activities. And as far as degrading or humiliating activities go, I don't condemn but I sure as hell don't get it. When I see a provider I always try and act like a gentleman and treat her with the respect she deserves. It is a tough enough job for her to pretend to like me for the time we are together without being disrespectful. And I actually feel lucky when I find one that does like me just a little and welcomes me back.

Spank the taint instead.


Somebody had to say it. Originally Posted by bojulay

No, tickle the taint.

I consider myself a gentleman and until earlier this year, did not truly understand the allure of domination/submission. While I have been enlightened since, I think that there are those that sensationalize reviews of fetish sessions for attention or shock value.

A very sweet provider and I built a strong foundation of trust and over time she helped me understand that this is not about control or humiliation. I have found that i am invigorated while in the Dom role and that my compassion and consideration actually serve me very well.

Personally, I would not write a review about a Dom/Sub session as I feel that what is experienced between two individuals in this realm is something that can't always be duplicated. By describing the details, I would feel I would be cheapening the experience and setting up potentially unfair expectations for other hobbyists that might visit her.

Master Shlub

Get the safe word out there. Gives a whole new meaning to the word "no". Really, it can be fun, exciting...atomic foreplay...drawing blood is drawing the line for me, tho.

IMO, mental degradation is worse than physical. Like shlub said, just because she does it with one guy doesn't mean she'll do it with you.

I agree with the OP, I cannot condone this type of behavior. Whenever I see that in porn, guy choking the girl, slapping her face or her breasts, verbally assaulting her it's an instant boner killer. A good part of that is because I have a friend that was physically abused by her boyfriend....now her husband unfortunately. Like you I was brought up to be respectful of people, especially women. I will never ever call a provider a whore or a slut and I detest the people that do. But to each his own, if it's consentual between the 2 parties (or however many are involved) then I guess it's ok for them.

Our society accepts rough in sports, guys beating each other down in a ring or knocking each other around on a football field, and when you think about it those are a lot worse than a little rough play BCD. Originally Posted by bojulay

Anybody remember the show The Practice? This statement reminds me a lot of what Alan Shore said to a D.A. about a hockey player that was being charged for assault and battery due to a fight with another hockey player on the ice that went overboard.
http://youtu.be/RL0eWn5Nfwg

I have a friend that was physically abused by her boyfriend....now her husband unfortunately. Originally Posted by rc83

I've never understood that. I've met some genuine sweethearts in this biz and they always seemed to be attached to the biggest putzs. I've had discussions with other guys about this and have to wonder if some ladies WANT to be treated like shit for some reason.

have to wonder if some ladies WANT to be treated like shit for some reason. Originally Posted by hercules

I've seen this a few times over the years. I don't believe they want to be treated that way, but they have this belief, usually hopeless, that they can be the ONE to change this guy into the loving man they know is deep inside. What leads them to believe this perfect man is buried in there I can't imagine.

That guy is NOT in there of course, but they cannot stop trying to "save him", even if it costs her beatings or, in some cases I've been around, her life.

All that said, there is a difference between being treated like shit and mutually agreeing to some more extreme role-playing.

"To pretend is to know oneself." Pesso

Im definately an angel! But sometimes even the sweetest girl wants to be treated like a whore BCD!
Now Im NOT into a lot of pain. Spanking, light choking, hair pulling aggressiveness can be very EROTIC but with a sensual touch not a violent one.