I must say I am a bit taken back at the amount of people on this board who seem to think real & functional relationships do not exist for those of us in this industry. Not quite sure if it's a narrow minded thing or what, but I can assure you that there are plenty of ladies out there with partners who know exactly what they do, are okay with it, and are not pimps. Perhaps not so much in Texas? Most of my girlfriends who are escorts are married or in relationships.
I don't exactly know what there is to explain, I mean, my relationship is probably no different than most. My partner knows what I do, it does not bother him for he knows it is simply work. He and I share the same mentality when it comes to sex, he knows I separate my work from my personal life, which is probably one reason there are no jealousy issues. He is not insecure, at all, he trusts me and I him, and he respects the hell out of me. If I had a funny/weird experience at "work" and I want to share it with him, it doesn't bother him, he will just laugh with me. He is not with me for "the money", as we have separate bank accounts, (though I do hijack his credit card sometimes), and he is most certainly not a 'loser'. He is a proper professional with a great job and makes great money alone, so he doesn't need mine. We both have similar interests, both love to travel, (and both have to travel for our jobs), we cook together, watch telly, play xbox, have great sex, raise kids...all the things that 'normal' couples do. He is my lover and my best friend, and I could not ask for a better partner, honestly.
So "managing my unique" relationship, as Sarunga put it, is not difficult at all.
The key to a functional relationship in this hobby IMO is finding a partner who is open-minded, and doesn't focus on who you are "at work", but rather focus on building something meaningful between the pair of you. Be who you need to be at work, and when you are with your S/O, just be you...
Hope that helps?Originally Posted by Valerie
Could be just the US men, culture differences?????Perhaps, but I've dated men in the US as well who were fine with it, the reasons those relationships ended were for other reasons not related to my profession....I understand how the biz can damage a person, I've totally been there myself, just try not to become too jaded and don't believe all the pimp/loser bollox, besides, no one wants to become the dodgy cat lady
This biz has kinda damaged how I view relationships over all. What you described your relationship to be sounds like what all women hope to have or fantasize about.
Thanks for sharing give me a lil hope....
Maybe I wont die an old lady with 10 cats after all.....
To think that anyone who would be a partner to a provider is automatically a loser or a pimp is just ridiculous, and ignorant...So now you're hating on every person in Texas?
There's a big world out there, filled with all sorts of people (imagine that!)...Not everyone shares the same narrow-minded views as the people in the state of Texas
If you think there are zero providers in the world with functional/happy relationships, then you are delusional. Originally Posted by Valerie
So now you're hating on every person in Texas? Originally Posted by oilfieldscumI gave her the benefit of a doubt by "assuming" that she was excluding those born in Texas from her ridiculing comment, and was speaking of those who burden those of us who were born here with their presence, even if for a limited period of time. Otherwise there are options:
Could be just the US men, culture differences?????Likely more of a Southerner thing although in the US we're pretty prude about sex in general (but we love our violence, damnit!).
This biz has kinda damaged how I view relationships over all. What you described your relationship to be sounds like what all women hope to have or fantasize about.
Thanks for sharing it gave me a lil hope....
Maybe I wont die an old lady with 10 cats after all.....
Perhaps, but I've dated men in the US as well who were fine with it, the reasons those relationships ended were for other reasons not related to my profession....I understand how the biz can damage a person, I've totally been there myself, just try not to become too jaded and don't believe all the pimp/loser bollox, besides, no one wants to become the dodgy cat ladyI'm a bit confused! Aren't you married to wakeup? Trying to understand this board is impossible!
