I don't host very often, but on occasion or when traveling, I do.
As a good hostess, I always make sure to have refreshments available... but it's kind of disheartening to take the time to set up fruit trays and chocolates, bring wine glasses, etc - only to have the whole setup go absolutely ignored.
I totally understand that food is not what you're after, gentlemen, and I'm often in the same position when I show up at your place (I totally do not whet my appetite for *fruit* during the drive over). However a polite compliment and a little nibble would do wonders to restore my faith in my own hospitality
~Mme X~