I've had a few of these, and there's nothing wrong with them as long as you're both clear on the boundaries...the one constant in all of them...they find you, you never go looking for them...
If I call them, I'm paying, if they call me, I'm not...
Originally Posted by Wakeup
Wake Up is correct in that the boundaries have to be explicit, not implied.
I've had 2 long term FWB, both are married, both 'found' me. I've tried the unmarried FWB and at some point it gets awkward, never had an issue with the married ones.
FWB 1, husband works offshore, 2 weeks offshore and 2 weeks home. He's a lazy fatass and doesn't do shit when he's home. She's outgoing, doesn't work, goes to the gym 5 days a week and loves to party. Late 30's and the kids are all in college. She comes by 3-5 times a week, even when he's in town.
FWB 2, mid 40's, married to a guy 15 or so years older. She's the pretty, exstripper, party kind of girl. Doesn't get it at home enough, likes to drink at lunch with her girlfriends and stops by before she goes home. Always good for a late Friday afternoon romp or late night on her way home from girls night out.
There are a lot of women in similar situations. Don't go out looking to get laid, talk to women as if you are looking for a friend. Have fun, find out where they go, hang out, find them out in public a few times. It will all come together. They will breach the subject first if they are looking.