Providers Contacting You?

So we're supposed to contact them?? I've just been sitting by the phone all day. No wonder I never get laid.

I never contact a gent first. It's just not my place to do so.

I'm friendly and don't have an issue with chatting if a friend messages me first, but I have way too much respect for them and their lives to ever risk causing them an issue. Originally Posted by Laura Lynn

My sentiments EXACTLY! If a gent wants to see a lady, HE should be the one reaching out. I find it quite tacky. To each their own though.

I rarely get them, probably because my schedule makes it a low-probability proposition that they'll get a response back.

But if they catch me on the right day with the right pitch, I've been known to take advantage of the opportunity. I'm usually a short-notice guy, so it's nice when the stars align and I know a woman is available when that window oh so briefly opens.

I get a text or pic from time to time. It's ok with me personally.

It's annoying Makes me not want to see them

One thing I've never heard from the lady's perspective is, does it work? How many messages do you send? How many respond?

If a provider you have previously seen reaches out to you that she is "available"...I just say take it as a compliment. She obviously felt comfortable with you and would see you again.

I don't see it as her being 'desperate' ..after all this is a business and for some ladies providing is what they do full-time. Other ladies have RW jobs and providing is just a side thing for extra $ and/or fun...

Some ladies will never reach out to you and you have to initiate..that's ok with me as well..it just depends on the provider.

Good luck...it appears that you are a decent hobbyist. Just remember to always be polite and treat the ladies well....

Sounds like it's an Individual preference. If I had an SO it could cause some serious problems, but I don't. Plus I let it be known to providers I see that its something I don't mind.

Last night after I had already responded to this thread once, I was deep into a large aquarium re-plumbing project when a neighborhood provider called and offered me a drive by BnG at the incall rate. It wasn't a tough decision. Quick shower, she showed up. It was like one of the meals you sit down to and say "I didn't realize I was this hungry". A pause that refreshed is an understatement. Maybe 45 minutes from "Hey what are you up to" to "thanks to see you later".

Could have just of easily been a "damnit that sounds good but I'm at the grocery store"

HAPPY STEAK AND BLOW JOB DAY EVERYBODY. I wonder what the special is today at the vegan place. If I didn't have plans I'd go find out.

Even with an SO it doesn't cause a problem if you don't use your RL phone or email.

No, it's definitely not cool for a provider to send any kind of unsolicited communication to a client. Especially if they have only seen each other one time. I think there's an exception if they have a long standing relationship, and the client asks the provider to keep in touch. I've had several clients request that I occasionally send them a message, as they know I live alone and have a health issue that sometimes keeps me bedridden for days, (it's OK, I LIKE staying in bed lol,) so if they don't hear from me for a few weeks, they contact me, and I don't get online every day, and can go 12 hrs or more without checking the phone.
So, NO, of course don't contact a client! Our business is all about discretion. We're not boyfriend/girlfriend or even friends. Yes, we CAN become friends, but even if they ask me to keep in touch, I just don't feel comfortable, but I'm happy to email or text them back. It's nice to have regulars who are also sort of friends and who express concern about your health. I even gave one a key once. A very classy, respectable business man, so I don't think it was a mistake.

I auto block anyone I've seen until I'm ready to see them again

I don't think it's cool.

Most of us make as much per day or hour as lawyers do. I see no reason to be doing this effectively and be short on cash or have money related emergencies.

I don't think it's cool.

Most of us make as much per day or hour as lawyers do. I see no reason to be doing this effectively and be short on cash or have money related emergencies. Originally Posted by NikkiWhite

Nikki, I totally agree but just this ONE time, you are totally welcome to contact me. by
email, phone, text, ups, usps, carrier pigeon, smoke signals.. sign language, yahoo messenger, ....................you're kinda hot!

I don't think it's cool.

Most of us make as much per day or hour as lawyers do. I see no reason to be doing this effectively and be short on cash or have money related emergencies. Originally Posted by NikkiWhite

Spoken by an individual who's self esteem depends on the degradation of others.

Shit happens, people get sick, kids get sick, cars break down..... and so forth.

IF, they have an understanding that it is cool, then so be it.
But IF you have NOT discussed it with him before hand, then a text/call is out of the question.


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I have had many contact me via text. Some I am fine with, others not.

As long as it's not a text saying I have a free trip to New York to be a guest on "The Maury Show", I'm good.