would you marry/have child by provider?

I would marry Brandee69 today and never look back!!!

Marry...no
"don't get married and don't have kids" Originally Posted by goofy11

Best advice right there

Given your line of work, why would you care if he cheated? Originally Posted by Trill Jackson

I quit working once we agreed we would be together...

Rebecca... your ex fiancé crazy for doing that! look at that ass!! damn!!! his loss! Originally Posted by spank_my_monkey76

LOL Thank you!

If my real life situation and her real life situation were different "Yes" I would marry a provider.

I would. Although, if this is how we meet, is he capable of being faithful?

Hmm. No, I would not. Lol. Can't we just have lust and love for one another without all that commitment? Because it is way more fun this way.

Can't we just have lust and love for one another without all that commitment? Because it is way more fun this way. Originally Posted by anita

Couldn't agree with you more

Sometimes people just connect. During my time as a provider, I have had 2 clients turn into something more. Both times they were great relationships that could have gone anywhere and neither ended because of my job. It makes a huge difference if a girl has another source of income. Just because we are providers doesn't mean we are not capable of being loving wives and nurturing mothers when we are ready.

I get the impression that a lot of you guys think all providers are one certain type of girl and its not true.

If I weren't already married and she quit providing, yes. I don't share well.

There are some wonderful ladies here. Smart, savvy, attractive, educated. And SEXY.

My only disclaimer is I'm too damned old to want another rug rat. I guess that kills the deal. Originally Posted by OldGrump

+1.

I'm currently involved with a provider I met (but she is no longer active). I look at it this way- this is how we met, and we wouldn't have met any other way (in all likelihood), so I just accept that this is what she did, and I don't let it affect me. We've grown super close and I could never ask her to change because of me, it would have to be something she does on her own. And, yes, if it came down to it, I would marry her. And I am faithful to her as I no longer participate in the hobby (just haven't disabled my account here because I don't come around often).

For me it's a matter of, I don't think I will do it a third time. No kids from either provider or from my first marriage....fuck it life is an adventure and I don't want to miss out!

Sorry, multi-quoting isn't working worth a damn for me right now. Please excuse the clunkiness of my post.

Given your line of work, why would you care if he cheated? Originally Posted by Trill Jackson

From the way I view it, if I was in a relationship and I was still providing...I would not feel like I was cheating on my partner. This is my job. This is no different, to me, than going to work for Corporate America. If you handle yourself as a provider professionally and look at this as a career, etc...then I don't find it the same as cheating. This would also mean that your partner would have to respect what you do and know that it is your line of work. With that being said, she is very right and entitled to care that her ex-partner cheated. Just my two cents, any way... Originally Posted by bambigirl

As an active provider who has had relationships while providing, I have to agree with what Bambi said; this is work and (to be honest) it doesn't feel like cheating because it's transactional in nature...if the hobbyists I see stopped putting money in they'd stop getting BCD attention out, crass though that may seem.

If I were to have uncompensated relations with anyone, then I could see the fellow feeling justified in seeing others. If I'm faithful outside of work, though, then I would expect monogamy from my partner in return.

So an active provider would be upset if her BF cheated on her? What if the provider knows about it? I think anybody who dates a girl who "provides" should be able to see other people too, If not what's the benefit of dating a woman who bangs 3 different guys a day? How is that appealing? Originally Posted by Trill Jackson

So, Trill, to me what your post says is that you don't really see what we do as work...and you've also got some hints of slut-shaming going on in that bolded bit. (And not all of us see that many guys a day, though there isn't anything wrong with those who do.)

As the guys who've been fortunate enough to have a civvy relationship with me would attest, there are many benefits to being with a sex worker - we're independent, we know our bodies and our likes/dislikes, we damn sure know how to make a fellow happy and we take great pride in our appearance. We're also often well-read, interesting and pretty cool ladies, on the whole...hence why we're good at what we do.

I would. Although, if this is how we meet, is he capable of being faithful? Originally Posted by anita

In my experience, no. I've tried relationships with both hobby and civvy guys and the bit I always kept coming back to with the hobbyists was...if he hid me from his SO, then what's to keep him from hiding someone from me? Add that to the craving for variety that most hobbyists have and it was a recipe for relationship paranoia. *shrugs*


Now, as to the OP.

There's no way in hell that I'd marry or (gods forbid) carry a fetus for a hobbyist.
I'm also uninterested in the marrying/childbirth aspect with civvies, though, so at least it's not based on what community they're part of.

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I would. Although, if this is how we meet, is he capable of being faithful?

Hmm. No, I would not. Lol. Can't we just have lust and love for one another without all that commitment? Because it is way more fun this way. Originally Posted by anita

Quite a question- would he be faithful? But your honesty questionable at best. Would you be faithful?

ya know my first reaction was no. but... i do know shit happens. could i as a hobbiest stay faithful? yes since i have no SO and i am the type that dosent cheat, im happy with what i have.

Kids... no i am almost 40 and after all the medical problems i have had i would not create a child just so they can have them as well.

i know people in the hobby that have relationships and they seem to be fine but i dont know if i could do it myself but i have been told never say never. Lets just say im on the fence and could be pushed in either direction.