Some Actual Food for Thought - Emotional Intimacy in the Hobby

I'm not surprised by the 48% cited in the study. I have to agree that the purpose of the hobby is to be able to spend time with a beautiful and sexy woman whom one is attracted to and be able to walk away. However, for me, I also enjoy being able to connect a bit beyond all carnal and bodily desires. The ladies I have seen more than once are truly engaging and intelligent which coupled with an amazing body is the most sexy combination one can find...

You could always start off slow and easy with a nice, long, slow and luxurious, sensual massage. Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

the way you express yourself and your internet demeanor has put u on my TDL for awhile. maybe ur right. I just have alot going on in the RW and don't know if i'll truly enjoy a quick escape without guilt. But i'm beginning to feel a sense of desperation

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I always knew you were a softy.
Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

Well I do have one hard spot.

What a complete waste ... go see a Provider and spend time talking about your wife, you asshole boss or your job. What kind of fucking losers do that. The whole idea is to go see a Provider to forget about all that crap and disappear from the world for an hour or two Originally Posted by StinkyFingers

You gotta remember a lot of these guys don't know how to talk to women especially baby boomers and Generation X guys. It's just not something they had to do growing up so I imagine they don't know what to say or they're just overly nervous and thus start some of the most basic ice breakers or conversations. Talking shouldn't be the main aim anyway when paying but being charismatic and a good conversationalist starts in the RW and most may not have those connections.

You gotta remember a lot of these guys don't know how to talk to women especially baby boomers and Generation X guys. It's just not something they had to do growing up so I imagine they don't know what to say or they're just overly nervous and thus start some of the most basic ice breakers or conversations. Talking shouldn't be the main aim anyway when paying but being charismatic and a good conversationalist starts in the RW and most may not have those connections. Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

You think any Provider gives a flying fuck or wants to hear about your bitch wife, shit job or asshole boss? ... that's really setting the mood (as in ... mood kill) for hot, erotic sex with someone you're paying to have hot, erotic sex. Talking is way over-rated.

You think any Provider gives a flying fuck or wants to hear about your bitch wife, shit job or asshole boss? ... that's really setting the mood (as in ... mood kill) for hot, erotic sex with someone you're paying to have hot, erotic sex. Talking is way over-rated. Originally Posted by StinkyFingers

I digress but it's not what I was implying; was just making a general observation; I'm chill but will admit I've had some of the hottest, select, and most popular ladies (as in plural) I won't commit to the cities either ;-) {ohhh I do love the raving about how beautiful they are this and beautiful they are that} straight fall in love with me; baby talk; commitment talk; even marriage talk as in just talk but you name it. It wasn't planned it was just organic as emotional & personal connections were inadvertently made that ran deep and in each instance way beyond provider client relationship; so yes we're in agreement watch all that talking it is overrated.

Now I just sit back and watch the reviewers arguing over this and that it's hilarious.

I hobby because I truly enjoy being with a younger (30ish) sexy lady that has energy, sex drive and will do what I so sorely need done for as long as it takes to get me to the closest place to heaven on earth which is a long strung out orgasm after being on the very edge for a very long time.

This is something I simply cannot get at home in along term totally sexless marriage that is otherwise perfect. Age, hormonal change, a long time together all feed into the above.

To me the most beautiful thing on this earth is a sexy sex driven lady in full orgasmic song. Shaking, quivering, breathing hard, writhing, tightening her thighs around my head (the big one) then slowly coming down only to get back there again.

I enjoy being in the midst of that scenario so much that I hobby and have been really fortunate to have been with some special very nice ladies that I just love to spend time with whether we're cumming or talking or kissing. Those I see more than once I really enjoy being with and the sex is the icing on a great moist soft cake of course its always warm right out of the tube LOL!

Going back more than 20 years to my first p4p experience, I've played in many ways for many reasons that changed as my situation changed. I can't say that seeking an intimate emotional connection has ever been one of them.

In my present season of life, being a 40-something divorced dad, having a physique I'm struggling to put back on the right side of "Dad Bod," possessing a severely jaundiced eye when it comes to dating and relationships, appreciating that time and energy for fun and adventure are fleeting, and generally feeling quite cynical about society's rules and expectations surrounding my sexual habits, it all really boils down to this for me right now:

If it floats, flies, or fucks, rent it.

I don't like romance anymore. I don't like seduction anymore. I don't like first dates and getting to know you. I don't like moving in for the first kiss. I don't like getting to second base, saying good night, rubbing one out when I get home, and getting excited for the next date when we'll go all the way. And I sure as hell don't like making love anymore.

I've done all of that shit. Many times. No more. I just wanna fuck. Dirty, naughty, loud, sweaty, fucking.

I appreciate providers who, for just an hour or so, can provide me with the illusion that they feel the same - cut to the chase and get to the fun part, and skip the tedious and ultimately doomed-to-fail relationship shit. Just say goodbye, and if we're both willing and can agree to terms at a future date, we'll do it again.

The ones that like the GFE (kissing) and even the bare stuff (BBBJ) usually are trying to emotionally connect with the whore. The other guys use women for their bodies. It's easier to do without the kissing and the bare stuff during the youthful days of the hobby but as one grows older that need to connect can grow stronger. However, it can be the total opposite for some men especially in a passive aggressive and guarded city like Houston. I prefer not to kiss because it takes away from the session and really doesn't enhance the session for me. It's all fake to me. I prefer a woman who likes to get fucked and knows that her job is to make it easier for a guy to get a good nut. If I want real love, I should invest in a good canine dog that can learn how to fetch a newspaper and guard my stuff when I am away. BTW, for all the trolls and dipshits here I blame the bonemaker fiasco to Houston's nasty, BSC-making water (marrying early, making wedlock babies, the fixation of bareback sex amongst hobbyists, and the cute papi treatment). LMAO.

I much rather. Originally Posted by albundy

He wants to HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. In other words, he is SELFISH.

. Guess it's all about emotion for me and a curiousness and inquisitiveness about behavioral patterns (including my own) across a broad spectrum; all against the backdrop of how I came up. Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

LMAO, you hobby for the sex! The other crap you can get from the civilian population or from a shrink.

He wants to HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. In other words, he is SELFISH. Originally Posted by WolfWhistle

If by that you mean that I want a wife that fucks ,instead of having to buy hookers.

Then yeah, I'm selfish, I guess.

But i'm beginning to feel a sense of desperation Originally Posted by maineblame

^^^^^^^^^

If by that you mean that I want a wife that fucks ,instead of having to buy hookers.

Then yeah, I'm selfish, I guess. Originally Posted by albundy

I am saying that you want your way period. It just happens that these hookers gives you the best outcome for yourself and that you are a gutless wonder deep in the core.

You gotta remember a lot of these guys don't know how to talk to women especially baby boomers and Generation X guys. It's just not something they had to do growing up so I imagine they don't know what to say or they're just overly nervous and thus start some of the most basic ice breakers or conversations. Talking shouldn't be the main aim anyway when paying but being charismatic and a good conversationalist starts in the RW and most may not have those connections. Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

LMAO. Baby boomers and Generation X people came before the onset of the internet and cell phones. I can understand why today's youngsters will lack social skills but I hardly see that in the "old timers." BTW, charisma is retained only by a few persons in the real world. Most people especially in the States are naturally gregarious but utterly clueless and cliché in their sincerity which makes them apparently so cheesy to most people. FAKE comes to mind.