Are there guys who want to be with submissive providers or is it the other way around?

As a very submissive lady I would love to know if ladies get any calls where the guy wants bdsm with him being the dom? I've seen lots of men wanting a Mistress to dominate them but not so much the other way. I would love to know why y'all think that is. Originally Posted by Shortkake

I've always been submissive and it comes very naturally to me. I have a lot of people who want to tie me up and do naughty things to me!

When I read ads from providers whom say they are submissive, I always thought it meant "you" as the client, tell them "the provider" what to do during a session. Never crossed my mind that the provider wants to be tie up.

Given the level of trust needed for this activity. I'd figure as a client, you would have see that provider multiple times before the provider would consent to this. (5x's at least) Be a flat out long time client.

Now if a provider asked me to tie them up out of the blue on a 1st visit. Not sure I would feel comfortable or could even do it. Unless it was discussed during the planning phase to visit said provider. With all the particulars decided upon before hand.

Honestly, when I visit a provider, I just want to have a hot and steamy "vanilla" fuck session. (sex toys included for her and I if avaliable) But I would be open to tying them as I stated above.

Besides, I already get to tie up and do all sorts of naughty, hot and sexy things to my GF that really gets me off!!

I have a Domme for you who dominates females

As a very submissive lady I would love to know if ladies get any calls where the guy wants bdsm with him being the dom? I've seen lots of men wanting a Mistress to dominate them but not so much the other way. I would love to know why y'all think that is. Originally Posted by Shortkake

So here's the thing. As a subbie male who enjoys Dominant females, I almost always never see professional sub females in the scene.

However, there was a sub female named Submissive Blue in the 90s who was the only professional sub female and she made a good living. I think if you marketed yourself in the right way you could do it. Photos, website

I merge escorting with professional submissive sessions. Yes, there is great risk. But I subscribe to RACK, not SSC. I was a submissive in the lifestyle for years before I ever did this professionally. I do all sorts of kinky play with first-time clients. It is not something I would reccomend to a newbie.

The more you know and see someone the more you can trust to indulge in the role play. I enjoy being tied up, spanked, nipple clamps, and hope to try a gag ball some day. I am into sensual pain not harsh pain. I would say it is good to know your limits and set limits for each session. I would agree that it would be hard to go into extremes especially with someone you just met. Originally Posted by Submissive Angel

Totally agree...as the Dom, it all comes down to trust and communication. When those two things are done exceptionally well, it allows both parties to explore their own limits. I enjoy the responsibility of the Dom as well as have the trust of my Sub. And each experience is unique to the parties and what they are looking for. For example, I'm not into hurting someone but I enjoy finding that sweet spot where a little pain is converted to a lot of pleasure...like just the right spanking.

I'm a Sub. I Love it Love it Love it ! Very good posts- 'James' ! 'Go ahead' ! 'Got your 6'! Lena! & many more.
Fancy lady- I can't understand a damn thing- you say. Not one damn thing.
I have to be Dominant at times in a session because it is requested and usually SAFER for a woman to be in a position of power, instead of tied up, in case he wants to take- advantage of her in other ways.
Verbally , I love to be told EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTS , OR WHAT HE WILL DO to me , WHEN THAT DOOR CLOSES. MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Oh yeaaaahhh.

I love be somewhat of a subby boy. It dovetails perfectly with my major passion of foot worship, and I love ass worship to include my lover providing what I call 'sensual smothering'- my fav local girl, she loves taking the dominant role but she is what I call a compassionate 'dom' mistress! i wish she would get into the dirty talk/talking 'down' to me but the ability, or skill set to provide verbal humiliation in a session, it can be more difficult for some to do, even much more so then performing the physical acts, seems to be my experience! But given the choice, I will take her sexual skill set any day, and do without the verbal tongue lashing!

Interesting Solemate- & I'm glad you have found something amazing that you can fully enjoy.

Interesting Solemate- & I'm glad you have found something amazing that you can fully enjoy. Originally Posted by Zena

Lol, no doubt that I have and that I do!

Following on from other comments, one of my favorite things is tease and denial. Working her into a squirming frenzy and backing off, again and again, to the point where she's asking, pleading, begging for what she wants. "Please, sir/daddy, let me .../make me .../fuck me". Only had one hat really knew this and where we had enough play time to really make it work. Really can't do that in a 30 or 60 minute session.

As a somewhat experienced Dom who has had D/s relationships in the past (long ago and far away, unfortunately) I would definitely like to see more really submissive providers offering the kind of services described here - ropes, spanking (especially with implements), genuine, if temporary, submission.

To me the difficulty is not just about trust, but genuine safety - ladies and gents go to great lengths to protect themselves because there are real dangers and dangerous people, and for this kind of thing to work you really do need to hand yourself over for at least the agreed time, if not longer/more frequently.

What I would love is someone who not only will take a spanking, but will enjoy it (either for real or at least enough to be convincing), take some reasonable risks in turning over control and agree to have her limits pushed.

Totally not submissive... I enjoy the opportunity to take on a dom'ish role whenever I can. Pain doesn't do much for me either giving or recieving as I fall more on the sensual side. Sensual with sensation play and orgasm play, oh it's such a thrill and puts me on cloud 9 for a week, I don't even need to climax myself I enjoy the energy exchange.

Bondage isnt even really required for first runs, I think that's the time to figure out how her body responds sensually. Love starting behind her and kissing the neck and positioning her sensually and see how far into "subby'ish space" we can get.

I'm a Sub. I Love it Love it Love it ! Very good posts- 'James' ! 'Go ahead' ! 'Got your 6'! Lena! & many more.
Fancy lady- I can't understand a damn thing- you say. Not one damn thing.
I have to be Dominant at times in a session because it is requested and usually SAFER for a woman to be in a position of power, instead of tied up, in case he wants to take- advantage of her in other ways.
Verbally , I love to be told EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTS , OR WHAT HE WILL DO to me , WHEN THAT DOOR CLOSES. MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Oh yeaaaahhh. Originally Posted by Zena

That woman, Fancy Lady, always posts such bizarre statements in such poorly written English. The same thing,

BTW: I prefer to be dominant but will switch if I like the lady and she needs a thrill...And it is more sensual than rough.