Married Men in The Hobby / Men in a Committed Relationship that Seek Providers.

1. Menopause
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5. Mine
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NamedUser69's Avatar
What made u seek something outside of your marriage? Pussy

Do your S.O. know you in the hobby?
Pussy

Do you guys normally leave your ring in the car before seeing a provider?
Pussy

Why get married if your just going to cheat?
Pussy

Do you use your money or your S.O. money to pay a provider?
Pussy

What lie works best when trying to sneak away from your S.O.?
Pussy

I have so many questions. What are your thoughts on married men in the hobby?
Pussy
Men are wired different (I feel). Like the poster above me. We want to walk down the hill..not run. Even married. It. Never. Stops.
St.Mateo's Avatar
I got into this because I was working all the time didn't have time to have a relationship that would need the time. It started just occasionally then you get hooked. Not married but can say if I was or had a significant other I wouldn't be doing this. Just my view but everyone has their own reasons for being here or for that matter anything you do..
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What made u seek something outside of your marriage?
Long story short: My wife was only putting out every couple of months, and then twice a year, and now, never. That's why. She refuses to work things out but wants to stay married and so do I for my kids' sake. Got tired of jacking off and I want to keep my family together. Hookers were the answer. Not as good as being with a woman you have feelings for ( and using rubbers SUCK!!!) but better than just jacking off.

Does your S.O. know you are in the hobby?
No, she doesn't have a clue. Believe it or not, she is a really jealous type. Doesn't want me even looking at other women. I guess she thinks I'll just sit around jerking off forever.

Do you guys normally leave your ring in the car before seeing a provider?
I never wear it at all anymore, so not an issue.

Why get married if your just going to cheat?
Because people and circumstances change, that's why. If she REFUSES to hold up her end of the "deal" what in the fuck am I supposed to do? Divorce? Then my family gets destroyed, I barely get to see my kids, lose half of my shit, have to pay child support AND pay for a place for them to stay, all the while trying to scrape up enough cash to move on with my life. I would MUCH rather only be with one woman. I know. I know. Some people think that's bullshit. But it is true. I like the comfort and feelings that build up from a steady girl rather than fucking a bunch of random chicks. But my wife doesn't give me the option of being monogamous, so I buy hookers.

Do you use your money or your S.O. money to pay a provider?
Sometimes I'll get money as a "gift", or win some, or I just scrape up enough until I can get a hooker.

What lie works best when trying to sneak away from your S.O.?
I don't have to lie to her to go and see a provider. I work fucked up hours and can leave for a while to go and "play."... Originally Posted by albundy
Exactly where I am at with this. Well put!!

I'm not getting any at home either, and jacking off works most times but not all the time. Having companionship with a provider with great IOP is a good way for me to somewhat fill in the void. Especially when I'm able to find the right provider that I click with. Plus I get to venture into a self-gratifying fantasy type of experience that would otherwise be uncommon in most normal relationships.
This is MY thread, Originally Posted by Nina the Dicknapper
It is NOT your threAD anymore, you just started it is all
tortpicker's Avatar
OK, I'll play along, too:

What made u seek something outside of your marriage?

I married my second girlfriend after dating the first for 6 years and the second for three. I was so shy growing up I never went to dances or social events. I always loved women, but was way too shy to ever be able to put myself out there. I had what I suppose is the classic mid-life crisis when I hit 40 and realized that we all get only one life, and I'd never been with a blonde chic, a Hispanic, a spinner, an Asian, a chic with huge fake boobs... well, you get the idea. I feel like I missed out on a big part of being a guy and I wanted to rectify that situation.

Do your S.O. know you in the hobby?

Hell no, and if she found out she'd probably divorce me. I'm her first and only man, and she has issues with any sexual release not coming from her. In fact, she knew I used porn when we first started dating, and we tried to incorporate it into the mix sometimes, but it was terrible. She would end up just sitting there making comments like, "Oh, so why do you like that? I don't look like that." "If you think I'm going to do that you're crazy." "Trust me, she's not having as much fun as she's letting on." Instead of enjoying it with me, she was taking everything that wasn't like our relationship as a personal affront and judging me for it. I see hobbying as not fundamentally different from jerking off. We all do it, and it's nothing against the SO. I feel like it enhances my life and makes everything more enjoyable.

Do you guys normally leave your ring in the car before seeing a provider?

I always wear the ring, and I think most providers that I've been with just assume I'm married. Like that would make them turn me away. Have these words ever come out of a provider's mouth: "Oh, you're married? I'm sorry, you have to leave. I don't cater to married men."

Why get married if your just going to cheat?

Had I known then I may not have gotten married, to be honest. I never entered into the marriage expecting to cheat. And, I don't really consider it cheating if I'm not actually entering into emotional relationships with providers. I have seen a few ladies who are special to me multiple times, but it's still not an emotional relationship. I don't consider having friends to be cheating, do you?

Do you use your money or your S.O. money to pay a provider?

It's our money, but I make the vast majority of it and manage all of it. That's actually the easiest part.

What lie works best when trying to sneak away from your S.O.?

I hobby during the work week, so I usually don't have to make excuses. It helps that I now own my company, so while I bust my ass as the hardest working employee working the longest hours, I can leave to go "to a meeting" anytime I want. I just have to make sure I have the obligations taken care of before I can hobby. Originally Posted by Ipthirteen1701



I feel pretty much feel the same way and have the same type of SO that you described. Well said.
guest071618-1's Avatar
Working in DFW, away from home need some pussy,
tried AMP which were sucks (I was trying get something for $100, rookie mistake),
Found Eccie,
Met x number of ladies in DFW and 2 of them got me hooked forever,
Now 1 retired/MIA.. and I am client for the other forever until I find someone else better or equal..

so that is why married men are in hobby...

Oops, I forgot that I am not married anymore.
Nina the Dicknapper's Avatar
It is NOT your threAD anymore, you just started it is all Originally Posted by Seeking ~P
Dont go there with me old lady. I shall not entertain you. Thanks for your unwanted comment
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  • BLM69
  • 11-07-2016, 12:54 PM
Dont go there with me old lady. I shall not entertain you. Thanks for your unwanted comment Originally Posted by Nina the Dicknapper
Old lady? She's only 40 lol
Nina the Dicknapper's Avatar
Old lady? She's only 40 lol Originally Posted by BLM69

If I'm still hoeing by the age of 40 something isn't right
..you must be one of her cheerleaders
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  • BLM69
  • 11-07-2016, 01:00 PM

If I'm still hoeing by the age of 40 something isn't right
..you must be one of her cheerleaders
. Originally Posted by Nina the Dicknapper
No baby, I don't WK nobody here, It was just my own response, carry on
Nina the Dicknapper's Avatar
No baby, I don't WK nobody here, It was just my own response, carry on Originally Posted by BLM69
Anywho NEXT....
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What made u seek something outside of your marriage?
hey nina, i'll reply with the assumption that any hobbyist can respond--
my significant other is my career. i have never been married traditionally. as for non traditional, i have been married to my career most of my adulthood.happily married, i might add


Do your S.O. know you in the hobby?
sure does, in fact, they have met a handful of times

Do you guys normally leave your ring in the car before seeing a provider?
have you seen 'lord of the rings'? HELL NO i dont leave my thumb ring in the car. my precious goes where i go (full disclosure, i couldnt take it off even if i wanted to)


Why get married if your just going to cheat?
easiest question for me.>> i dont cheat

Do you use your money or your S.O. money to pay a provider?
damn. easiest question followed by the hardest and trickiest question. i fear my answer will be a perpetual m.c. esher-type loop. or a chicken/egg
kinda thing but i will try: its definitely MY money but the only way for me to get $ is by being married to my S.O. and my S.O doesnt grow or become enriched without me.

What lie works best when trying to sneak away from your S.O.?
no fibs needed

I have so many questions. What are your thoughts on married men in the hobby?

personally, eccie seems like the wrong place to cast aspersions on others. i dont post much but i am constantly reading threads and i visit the chat room every now and then so i take it with a grain of salt. i think talking to someone via eccie is just like talking to someone in a bar. you are not really meeting them, you are meeting their 'representative'. kinda like one of my favorite quotes: " the closest we come to perfection is when we create a resume" i am speaking generally of course. because self-deprecation seems to work on here.

this topic makes me feel like when i go out with my friends that all eat meat and i am the lone vegetarian that tries to fit in and contribute to the conversations about swine and bovine.

i hobby BECAUSE i am married to my career. the very definition of irony. i travel a lot and my schedule varies. sometimes i am on call. i am not a big drinker so i dont go out to bars that much unless it a friends bday or something. strip clubs arent my thing. so when i am home i get in hermit mode in my studio thats windowless and clockless, which is the perfect environment to get distracted and get on eccie.
ive thought about the SD/SB. i actually want to try it. but i feel weird initiating the discussion
anyway, my 2 cents (plus a $5 tip)
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If I'm still hoeing by the age of 40 something isn't right
..you must be one of her cheerleaders
. Originally Posted by Nina the Dicknapper
What a childish response. I am sure Google, Apple and Microsoft Corporations are just waiting for your interest and to offer you a high end position. Keep alienating yourself and you will surely be swamped with appointment requests.