Things that also exist: extremely high HIV infection in AA males, and high incarceration rate of AA males. It could *maybe* be argued that racism accounts for 100% of of the incarceration rate being SIX TIMES higher than that of white males, but racism does not explain why AA account for 44% of new HIV infections when they are only 12% of the population. I could also be argued that racism is less than 100% responsible for the high incarceration rate.
Another thing that exists: attraction. Some women just aren't attracted to certain types of men. Just like some men aren't attracted to some kinds of women. Are you attracted to old women? If not, does that make you ageist? Are you attracted to fat women? If not, does that make you a fat shamer? Are you attracted to men? If not, does that make you homophobic? No. You just like what you like. Attraction is not a choice. But you do have control over with whom you sleep. Some of the women are trying to take control over who they see and there's nothing wrong with that.
I can just imagine you checking out the W4W ads on Craigslist and getting mad when the hot bisexual and lesbians on there post "NO MEN! NO MEN! NO MEN!". Dude, they just aren't that into you. Chill.
Originally Posted by Longermonger
Any time we make a decision based on the race of a person, that decision IS a racist decision. Here in this hobby and in other areas of life, we have the right to do just that. But for the love of all that is right, can we please just own it?
Let's not try and justify it or make excuses for it, as doing that is insulting in and of itself. We're all, for the most part, intelligent adults and coming up with all of these pseudo reasons for it is absolutely sickening.
Even the most staunch "NO AA" provider will quickly drop her policy for some rich or hot celebrity, athlete, or businessman, but because that is not the typical client the the ladies happen across, their policy doesn't affect their bottom line. Even more so, at crunch time, when money is tight, many will suspend their policy out of necessity, and none of the "factors" mentioned are part of their decision as long as the client passes screening.
Consider this, I'm sure that many of us agree when looking at domestic pets, there are no inherently "bad breeds" of canine? Only "bad owners?" But when we look at each other, we are only too quick to suggest that our race is directly related to our behavior? Crime and violence have nothing to do with geography, race, gender, or anything else we try to blanket it with. It is an individual's makeup and decision making.
Keep your stats, wrap yourself in them if they comfort you, that's your choice. But please try and remember, raw data is the only true data. All other has been manipulated for cause. Just please, please, let us own our choices and stop trying to make it seem as if we're not guilty of doing what we have done.
Be well, be safe, and enjoy.