relationship with a provider

This is not a dating site like match.com. Recently this dude wanted an appt and I looked at his reviews and pm'ed the provider to see if he was ok to see. she then asked me please not to see him because it was her boyfriend and they are having unprotected sex. Wow! This was not her first eccie bf. Seriously go to a dating site instead of putting everyone at risk for diseases. Originally Posted by Pepper_Springfield

WoW! I wonder if they talked about him seeing other providers.

Call me naive, but if they have unprotected sex, what does it matter if you two have protected sex. It's a risk we all share. I'm sure that not everyone here has protected sex with their significant other.

Do they share a disease?
Was she protecting you?
Does she think you are diseased? and she fears he may bring something home?
Or, was she jealous?

No, this particular provider ends up with different bf's here and of course when they break up the john is back and who knows how many people secretly do this. Playing with fire! and yes u do have unprotected sex w your so, but at least (outside our world) we know they are safe (well mine is, we get checked) But when you start doing it here, at some point someone could have caught something and this would begin to spread it. There are so many ways to get diseases. At the least, one should try to be safe. I feel bad giving bbbj because of diseases but when I did that everyone bitched me out. I didnt really have a choice if I wanted people to come back. Maybe thats her plan to keep them interested. Je ne sais pas.

I don't know either. All people are nuts, in their own way.

Eccie GF? I want one.

Trust me, not this one, I think she is a pathological liar and tons of drama!

Is it possible? Yes, but to have a relationship with a provider you have to really have thick skin, and a swinger type mentality. That applies both to the gent and the provider.
If your jealous type then you might as well not even think about it.
As a gent you must be prepared to hear about her and her rendezvous because it will pop up! Ladies must be prepared for the online flirt between the gent and other ladies, as well as the review writing which guys do. . . . especially if it's a slut like me

I've held out, until now, about response to this question because to be honest, I don't know. Logically thought through, it is a bad idea. What are you going to tell family and friends about how you met and what you do? So this either leads to being honest with a select few or lying to everyone. And the fall out from either way, again, bad idea.
Here is the kicker, I'm also a firm believer that the heart wants what the heart wants,
for better or for worse. If 2 people make each other happy, and truly love each other then why not. Is it practical, wise or logical no, but matters of the heart are never logical, practical or wise. It just is.
So is it wise no, Is it possible yes, Is it worth it? Well thats for the couple to decide for themselves.

Well thats my 2 cents................did I answer the question? (Damn, I feel like a politician now.)

I have been in all sorts of relationships with providers. As noted above, you cant be jealous or possessive. As I noted in another thread, you need to enjoy hearing the details and you need lots of flexiblity and patience. Secrecy also is very bad. Both parties need to be totally open with each other. If both are open and flexible, it can be lots of fun.

I have been in all sorts of relationships with providers. As noted above, you cant be jealous or possessive. As I noted in another thread, you need to enjoy hearing the details and you need lots of flexiblity and patience. Secrecy also is very bad. Both parties need to be totally open with each other. If both are open and flexible, it can be lots of fun. Originally Posted by whitechocolate

Totally agree.

wow
omg
what did i start here i never knew i was gonna stir up a hornets nest
lots of people have great suggestions and lots more had real bad experience and in the end most of the people were encouraging to take a risk when it comes to love.
some have been burned and some burned others
i guess that what they call life.....

in the end i thank every one who commented
you people r just cool like that..........

Threads merged.

I guess I've been doing this way too long because I could absolutely never trust anything a provider told me because we pay them to lie. I'm not blaming them it's part of their job. What do you think GFE means? To me it absolutely means "Lie to me baby. Treat me like you really care and want me". So how intimately are you going to be with a woman who gets well paid to lie.

As many of you know I'm friends with a lot more than my share of providers and I've seen many of them work their way into sugar baby type situations with naive men who think they are really special and that's their girlfriend. You're just special because now she has to work less. She's still going to do whatever she wants to do behind your back and lie to you so you will pay the rent. If it's on the up and up then she will get a real job and quit charging you or making you pay for everything.

IMHO the only way it could work if she is new to the business and really wants out. If you hook up with a veteran she's basically just looking for a little break from providing or to "retire" with one REALLY good customer.

...What do you think GFE means? To me it absolutely means "Lie to me baby. Treat me like you really care and want me"... Originally Posted by uparoundnoon

Agree. On my way to my hour(s)-long fantasies, I often recall the refrain of this Fleetwood Mac song, "Little Lies":

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kyE4CLM0QIA

Some ladies can throw my finely tuned "bullshit meter" seriously out of kilter!

you mean the young teenage hotties dont want a fat smelly gray haired 50 yrs old guy on top of them grunting n groaning ? say it ait so! LMAO

After having read this thread, I think I shall write a Country Song.

I have a melody in mind.

Who knows, it may even be a hit!!! Somebody hand me my pen, guitar, and a cold beer. It will be a work in progress.