Impregnated

And why do married men go behind their wife's back knowing the destruction it will cause?

hobbying is like a need like a car or house it doesnt matter if they are married or single to me.

And why do married men go behind their wife's back knowing the destruction it will cause? Originally Posted by mirandalee

I can't speak for any married person but that is probably the same reason this 'couple' in their predicament in the first place AND will probably dictate their future actions.

I've been told that alot of providers offer bbfs for extra. this really needs to stop for everyone's sake!

I've been told that alot of providers offer bbfs for extra. this really needs to stop for everyone's sake! Originally Posted by Alyna

Why not do the right thing and stop providing altogether?

it up to lady in this matter and we dont know who she is in this matter

OP had a responsibility to not fuck around on his wife, yet he did.

You still see married men, right? Yet you are essentially clamoring for him to do the responsible thing.

He should have worn a rubber, but he didn't and I am assuming that she let him.


If you think about it, ultimately, the lady bears the full weight of raising the child. Any man can walk away. If the OP happened to be just a one time John, out of many, who fucked her and left without even realizing that she would get pregnant this guy would be free and clear.

My interpretation of what Spyder is trying to say is that regardless of the reason for the girl getting pregnant it would probably be wise for her to take the lead on birth control.
Again, the reason for this is that she is the one that's going to be stuck with the consequences for sure.

So, if I was a woman and was going to fuck 2-10 guys a day, I would damn sure be on some sort of birth control because, I have known men who got women pregnant that used condoms correctly.


If she knowingly gave him HIV then yes it would be her fault.
If she unknowingly gave him HIV, then it's not her fault.

People are doing things they should not be doing. Ex. Cheating hubby, Home wrecking whore, etc.

People are not going to stop doing those things.
If you really want guys to do the right thing... you ladies might go broke. Originally Posted by Skip_8

Everything you said, I agree with. My only problem with what Mr. Spyder said is the fact that he was trying to give this man an out on any responsibility he needs to take for his actions in this.

And because people won't stop doing the wrong thing, it would be best to start thinking about how to do them better, with possibly just a little more thought. Darling, broke is one thing I'll never be. I've got more than a few skills to pay the bills.

Why do you have to take a personal jab at me? This thread is not about me. I just merely stated what I believed to be true. I suppose selective reading is something people suffer from. Fortunately for me it is all there for you to go back and read. I stated that I would not be in that situation. I wrote about his moral responsiblity.But did you address any of that. No. You focused on the negative. I am just going to assume that the bad stuff I wrote upset you so much that your emotional side took over. Causing you to miss some very important things that I wrote.

I take full responsiblity for my actions. Always have and always will. I mentioned that I would not be in his situation. I would never go elsewhere to play if I were in a relationship. Whether it be an ex from my past. A coworker. Or an escort. I would keep Slim Shady in the safe confines on my boxers while around other women.

I was just giving my interpertation of the "rules". Originally Posted by SpyderToezzzz

I read your statements, and I commend them. And we think just alike in that respect (I should not have to be a companion if I had a man). And yes, I did focus on the negative. Like I said, there are no easy outs for this man, and pointing the finger at her as the only person at fault for her pregnancy hit a nerve for me. Anyway, I do apologize for jabbing you.

Yes, it's always mama's baby, daddy's maybe. But as the adult in this situation, and with so much to lose, I just think that he should have thought more about the situation, who she is, and deal with her accordingly. It's like seeing a hungry tiger in a cage, and making the decision to stick your hand in to feed it and wondering why you got bit.

Alyna -- you are very new to us and obviously very observant which is a great attribute. I do hope that is not some guy from here with a fist full of cash telling you that......

Tiffani said in part:
".....Yes, it's always mama's baby, daddy's maybe....."

In all my years never heard that before ---- what a fantastic set of words...


still anxiously awaiting any kind of update from the OP///

Unfortunately, I think BBFS is the dirty little secret in the underworld to this underworld. I've heard of several ladies well-known on the board offering it up to regulars and for extra money. I would never partake as an hour of enhanced pleasure is not worth the possibility of a lifetime of suffering or even having it cut-short if what I caught was incurable.

Skip 8 my question was regarding to your question on your other post lol...

I've heard of several ladies well-known on the board offering it up to regulars and for extra money. Originally Posted by Marcus78

And here I was thinking Eccie was the "safe" place to find a provider.

There are no safe places in Hobby world....everything is an illusion...a fantasy....and with irresponsibility comes danger and humiliation....

Given the above---The least you can do is wear a condom.

I have to agree with the.namssa on this one. If your going to practice BBFS with a provider you have to be willing to man up and accept what ever happens from it wether its she gets preg. or you contract a disease. Just be glad all that happened is she got pregnant and that you didnt end up with an STD and took it back home to your SO. Originally Posted by wcdann

Sooooo true...not to be a jack ass but STD or some worst...you guys were endangering each other having unprotected sex...

IF the OP has kids with his SO, then that is the worst!

And why do married men go behind their wife's back knowing the destruction it will cause? Originally Posted by mirandalee

hobbying is like a need like a car or house it doesnt matter if they are married or single to me. Originally Posted by foxyred73

You could also have a man whose SO just isn't as interested in certain things as he is. Maybe the SO will only do some plain sex once every two weeks and will never give a bj. How does the man get fulfilled sexually while still having the SO that he loves?

None of that explains the bbfs risk, which is crazy.