When you and a client *really* disagree

Depends on who you are with. I don't marry a man for his money...I get that here.

PJ....I mean selective hearing. That's when I just look at you with this blank expression, faux semi-smile, and nod yes to everything you say. IOW that is when I don't have a freaking clue about what you have just said, but am being polite lol. You should encourage me to do other things at that point, because I am bored out of my mind!

isn't that sometimes the beauty of a message board: someone may actually give you an unvarnished POV Originally Posted by atlcomedy

no, only acceptable if you "like" the personality. otherwise, fuck off my territory!

Now that wasen't very nice!

PJ....I mean selective hearing. That's when I just look at you with this blank expression, faux semi-smile, and nod yes to everything you say. IOW that is when I don't have a freaking clue about what you have just said, but am being polite lol. You should encourage me to do other things at that point, because I am bored out of my mind! Originally Posted by London Rayne

Well as long as you are nodding...

Word!

I admit to only skimming Nina's treatise's so I may have missed the really offensive parts...

Blunt & lacking in diplomacy...sure...but isn't that sometimes the beauty of a message board: someone may actually give you an unvarnished POV....isn't that better than a dozen "Yes-(Wo)men" telling you what you want to hear?

& Nina, (I'm too lazy to find the quote), but I take clients money all the time and complain about them. I just don't do it to their faces. This forum may be her outlet for complaining about what an ass this guy is. Originally Posted by atlcomedy

sure, but its probably not the smartest move to do so in an escort forum where clients also read.
i do not take clients money and complain about them. Its simply not possible in this job. I do so for one timers. Who i never see again for exactly that reason. But someone i see regularly? Its not possible in a helping profession . Its against work ethics. And i do see escorts similar to therapists. If a therapist has problems with a client he refers him to someone else. Backstabbing is a trait that does not go well with the profession of selling intimacy. I could not do it. How intimate can you get with someone like that? I would betray myself and the clients. So i rather tell them in the face and problem solved. Everyone can move on.

@Nina

What you've said makes you sound like a mean bitch. This board is a lot nicer than that (mostly).

If that's the attitude you bring to the USA, please stay in Europe. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I am shocked that Charles even said this.

Nina many people in this business DO wish to offer up their soul as part of the arrangement, regardless of how offensive or disgusting a guy is. I could never do it, but that's just me. Different strokes ya know? Originally Posted by London Rayne

Very true and it's sad.

i thought real mistresses, girlfriends, SO's and wives were MORE expensive. Originally Posted by ..

well.. why do you think i have two boyfriends.....

Depends on who you are with. I don't marry a man for his money...I get that here.
Originally Posted by London Rayne

right. neither do i . in my private life i do not combine love with money.

sure, but its probably not the smartest move to do so in an escort forum where clients also read.
i do not take clients money and complain about them. Its simply not possible in this job. I do so for one timers. Who i never see again for exactly that reason. But someone i see regularly? Its not possible in a helping profession . Its against work ethics. And i do see escorts similar to therapists. If a therapist has problems with a client he refers him to someone else. Backstabbing is a trait that does not go well with the profession of selling intimacy. I could not do it. How intimate can you get with someone like that? I would betray myself and the clients. So i rather tell them in the face and problem solved. Everyone can move on. Originally Posted by ninasastri

Agreed!

well.. why do you think i have two boyfriends..... Originally Posted by ninasastri

lol

Hi Lauen S., and thanks for responding. I really appreciate what you have to say, particularly because I know (based on what you've said before) that you've been involved in mistress-type relationships before. Thanks for weighing in. Again, it's not as if the two *hate* one another (then it wouldn't be a complcated issue at all), it's just one aspect of a relationship that is causing the lady distress. Thanks for your comment.

& Nina, (I'm too lazy to find the quote), but I take clients money all the time and complain about them. I just don't do it to their faces. Originally Posted by atlcomedy

so..you mean you actually bend over and moan your complaints in a pillow? so in missionary position , you would not complain?


(sorry was just meant as a joke......;-)....no offense.....)

Edit:

A hobbyist once told me "The best providers could be award-winning actresses" and he was right...was he? The last thing I want to do is get into an argument with my client while on a date. He is paying me for a service...I'm not trying to kill his hardon lol. My regulars and I get into debates all the time. I disagree with them and they still continue to see me. Does it make me upset? No. Why should it? As long as I am able to voice my opinion I don't have a problem with it. I'm just not going to sit there, look pretty and stare blankly. Guys love hot chicks with brains.

I personally wouldn't say "no comment" because I have a big mouth lol. i would say something along the lines of "Well we're all entitled to our own opinion", smile, chuckle a bit and change the subject. This way he knows that it bothers you. If he brings it up again just tell him that you don't want to talk about that that it puts you in a bad mood.

Unfortunately I'm not that great of an actress. One can only take so much. I'm all for preserving your sanity and not having to do anything and everything for the dollar. I KNOW that is the secret to happiness and success in this business. If your friend was really bothered by this client then she would stop seeing him. Why go through all that when there are other guys that will respect you/your opinions AND go above and beyond to make you happy?

~Naomi Originally Posted by Naomi4u

completely and a 100% agreed.

Blunt & lacking in diplomacy...sure...but isn't that sometimes the beauty of a message board: someone may actually give you an unvarnished POV....isn't that better than a dozen "Yes-(Wo)men" telling you what you want to hear? Originally Posted by atlcomedy

no, only acceptable if you "like" the personality. otherwise, fuck off my territory! Originally Posted by ..

Altcomedy: sure, but along with doing that also means opening yourself to someone objecting to the tone.

..: nothing to do with the person; there are people on this board I have known for a while, have met, and who I like that I have objected to the tone of some of their posts. Of course the person may not give a fuck what I care, thats ok too.