Color be damned, I don't like ghetto, black, white, brown, etc. I was a confused kid growing up having a racist father and a ultra-liberal mother. I have 7 mixed-race neices and nephews. Watching my father go from racist to loving grandfather was quite a shock.
My sisters' scales of choice were equally disturbing, from ghetto to well educated. My half sister chose ghetto and has three children from different fathers. Once asked why she chose those "gentlemen", she said she didn't see color. When asked if she would date a white man, she said she didn't date white men. So, she in fact did see color, which eludes her.
My step sister chose educated and had one child. They stayed together for some time. He cheated on her, then beat her up. He was in jail for a year and hasn't been back to see his child nor does he pay child support. Another step sister also chose ghetto. She is co-dependant also and her "boy-friend" spends her money on drugs beats her up and they are still together. While I was in the service, he refused to even meet me. Now, she has isolated herself from her family and is still with the a-hole. Has it affected me in my perceptions? Of course it has, but it doesn't change the fact that I love my neices and nephews.
While I was in the service, I knew one black woman I would have dated, but her sense of family prevented her from dating outside her race. In my life I have seen one black provider. She appealed to my sense of attractiveness. Would I see another black woman? Of course, if she appealed to me. However, most of the black providers I would find attractive in my area do not offer the services I prefer. Am I a racist? To a small degree, I am. I like educated women and I believe that some women who act ghetto are educated, but come across as ignorant to me which is a turn-off. I've met some great black women who came from Africa who are much better educated than even some white women from America.
I personally feel that the American society is regressing to some degree. Recently, I've watched several historical POV's where black athletes who became famous pre-civil rights laws were well spoken, had great careers and prosperous futures. The current crop of athletes do not appear to be in the same league and it's a bit disheartening.
Where am I know? I try to base my opinions on people after I've met them. I hate stupid people, especially those that blindly follow fads and talking points, which includes hypocrite religious people. There is my opinion. It is not meant to inflame nor incite. If I offend anyone, then you are offended, it is not my intention.
We had a guy who was going to rent a room for the weekend for her, and we thought we had it all lined up, but it didn't happen. There is also a girl in Toronto that I would love to see and I do get to Detroit now and then. 
. I think it's most definitely an individual thing not a race thing.
. Originally Posted by Naomi4u
