Nina, of course we all applaude honesty, but often the realities of the World place limits on just how we are allowed to act.
For instance, I have numerous employs who depend on my expertice as a business owner to keep business flowing so that they have a steady paycheck. In short, their ability to feed and cloth their famillies is directly related to my abilities as a responsible businessman.
If it is just you, and you have no others depending upon you, the luxury of telling it like it is perhaps easier. If the customer base dries up, you have nobody doing without but yourself.
Most of us do not have that luxury. The respossibilities of being an employer and maintaining a good customer relationship trumps all personal considerations.
Originally Posted by Jackie S
I respectfully disagree. I worked hard to live in a subculture that allows me to be honest and have a decent job as well. Plus, the people who lie so much in my experience have mostly no one depending on them either. So that does not serve as a good excuse :-). But you are right. Once i have kids i will also tell them fairytales.
Other than that, i think it all depends on which people you are surrounded with. I still do think being a psychotherapist and being an escort is a little bit different than being a "regular" service provider. So - when i used to work for my telephone company i also did not tell my clients the truth, but i only worked within a small area of their personality.
Escorting - especially the SD kind of relationships involve more than jerking someone off within 15 minutes. So therefor other ethical implications apply.
In psychotherapy (which i am pursuing as career) the rule is if you have problems with a client on an ethical base and you grow somehow resistant to him - you give him away to another therapist, because it might screw up the client-therapist relationship and you cannot assist him in the long run. Or you make supervision and try to work on the issue that is bothering you with that particular client. If the situation does not improve, you refer him to someone whose skills suit the client better.
I also do not see doctors or therapists in my life that are offended by me. For example , it was HARD to find a therapist that was not OFFENDED by me being and ESCORT.
Some of them are. And have the usual prejudices. It took me years to find somene that doesn`t have these prejudices. Plus i am polyamorous, and it also took me years to establish a community of friends that are not offended by that lifestyle (hell yeah, cheating and the usual hypocrisy is soooo much more culturally adapted..) so everything is possible if it matters to you much. For me honesty matters and it is the quintessence in a relationship for me.
I do not judge people who lie to me or anyone, i just do not want to be involved with them. Period. I cater to married clients because its my duty as an escort and its more respectful to endulge in these adventures than have a secret lover... in my opinion. an escort gets paid for secrecy and not because the sex cannot be gotten somewhere else. Its a therapeutical setting.