I'm surprised that no one has mentioned how clients don't make good sugardaddy's either. Since the relationships are essentially different, the terms can't change mid-stream. When they do, things tend to go wrong.
When discretion is at the forefront of any relationship, things are better left discreet. When a clients wants to turn things into a SD/SB relationship, I respectfully decline. There are certain things SD's get to do and know that a client never will.
Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson
You could not be more right on that one. The guy I was dating in a SD relationship was actually not married and I was his GF (ok, he came up for all expenses , and yes, he was aware of that..., so strictly speaking I was a SB in love :-), and we had a good thing going for a while though.
Bad for me, I made some mistakes after dating that guy, because I assumed all clients turned lovers/SD are like him - a decent person , honest and helpful. That said I agree that clients generally speaking don`t make good SDs. Most of them either turn into non-sexual friendships or they expect services for free, because ... because .... well, I did not figure this out yet ... it`s mindboggling
Since I am not directly approaching a SD relationship for me this happened accidentally, and was directly involved with loving that person, and we had an offical open relationship (He was my first step into Polyamory...;-)...)
But I have to say guys like him are rare.
For me, anyone that is married does not qualify as SD either. Simply, because I would never make any changes in my life to suit a married guy and then be .. hmm .... just a secret.
A SD relationship is more time consuming and intricate than a client-escort relationship. Most often it is in favour of the guy. Only when you establish soe legitimate relationship it is really also about the girl.
Sorry, no offence, but I know this more often to be true than not. And I know plenty of women getting "sweet talked" and then used, either for free or for - well not much respect.
And after a certain age GUCCI is not important. It`s legitimacy that counts
So let`s cut down to the core:
Married guys dating SB are good people, because they know they need to pay for subserviants of marriage, since marriage is a financial contract and no legitimacy is to be expected.
However, once the guy is married, it very well resembles an escort-client relationship with a few degrees further, as the SD is most often totally financially dependent.
Unmarried SD entertainign some legitimate relationships are what I`d call "real sugar daddies". It`S almost like a real relationship, most likely though with an age gap and the guy takes care of the women`s education.
No offence, but my ex never bought me GUCCI. He bought me education. And helped me thru university. I think that is what a true SD is about. A mentor.
If I wanted GUCCI he would have lost all respect , sorry