Sweet n sassy, will you marry me and knock my socks off.
IB
Just because he cheated he is a horrible father? Sorry but I don't understand that. He didn't bring the kids along. He didn't leave them in the car while he ran up for a quickie.+1
this should not reflect on his parenting abilities. Was he stealing from their piggy bank to hobby? . Originally Posted by Sweet n sassy
Eh maybe this is real, maybe it's a troll. I'll play. When something like this happens you need time to digest all of this before you act. The choices you make now will impact the rest of your life and everything you care about. Take a few weeks.
He lied to you about something important to you, that's bad. EVERY man lusts after other women from time to time. He acted on it when he (literally) swore he wouldn't, I can see why you're pissed. It's not some perverse unnatural act though. It's called the "oldest profession" for a reason. If the urge weren't normal, it wouldn't need to be something you double dog swear on the bible not to do. Sorry that happened. Sorry he did not choose to forego his natural urges for your benefit and for the benefit of your marriage...or even just talk to you about his desire to, um, branch out and see if there might be agreeable terms (maybe he knew no way).
Some things to consider once you cool off:
What's best for the kids. Really best...forgetting either of you. You indulging your rage at their expense isn't any better than him indulging his lust at their expense. You shouldn't need a judge to tell you that.
Some men have sex with pros because there's no chance of emotional entanglement (see fatal attraction) on either side to threaten the marriage. Most men do NOT see all sex as a sacred bonding religious experience. Many men segment. Sport sex is not the same as relationship sex.
Were you happy before you learned of this? Really? Lots of relationships survive cheating because it happens a lot in various forms. We're all sinners in some manner. People with relationships to save talk. They explain their reasons. They get more honest. Sometimes they improve. They redefine the relationship and rebuild trust. You sound like someone who finally has the excuse and the upper hand to bail on a situation you were tired of while feeling justified and empowered to grab all you can get along the way.
There's more, but right now your best move is to not act, let it sink in, cool off and think things through. You're entirely justified leaving him, but even if you do, the decision should be a thoughtful one. Also if you do there are much worse and much better ways to go about it, and you lawyer will NOT explain that to you because he's trying to make a buck. Originally Posted by irishlad
I'd opt for the demo version first at 180/hh or 280/hr
Originally Posted by fun2come
Eh maybe this is real, maybe it's a troll. I'll play. When something like this happens you need time to digest all of this before you act. The choices you make now will impact the rest of your life and everything you care about. Take a few weeks.+1
He lied to you about something important to you, that's bad. EVERY man lusts after other women from time to time. He acted on it when he (literally) swore he wouldn't, I can see why you're pissed. It's not some perverse unnatural act though. It's called the "oldest profession" for a reason. If the urge weren't normal, it wouldn't need to be something you double dog swear on the bible not to do. Sorry that happened. Sorry he did not choose to forego his natural urges for your benefit and for the benefit of your marriage...or even just talk to you about his desire to, um, branch out and see if there might be agreeable terms (maybe he knew no way).
Some things to consider once you cool off:
What's best for the kids. Really best...forgetting either of you. You indulging your rage at their expense isn't any better than him indulging his lust at their expense. You shouldn't need a judge to tell you that.
Some men have sex with pros because there's no chance of emotional entanglement (see fatal attraction) on either side to threaten the marriage. Most men do NOT see all sex as a sacred bonding religious experience. Many men segment. Sport sex is not the same as relationship sex.
Were you happy before you learned of this? Really? Lots of relationships survive cheating because it happens a lot in various forms. We're all sinners in some manner. People with relationships to save talk. They explain their reasons. They get more honest. Sometimes they improve. They redefine the relationship and rebuild trust. You sound like someone who finally has the excuse and the upper hand to bail on a situation you were tired of while feeling justified and empowered to grab all you can get along the way.
There's more, but right now your best move is to not act, let it sink in, cool off and think things through. You're entirely justified leaving him, but even if you do, the decision should be a thoughtful one. Also if you do there are much worse and much better ways to go about it, and you lawyer will NOT explain that to you because he's trying to make a buck. Originally Posted by irishlad
Were you to be caught would you expect a chance to explain? If you caught your spouse at this would you be forgiving?Here's a thought. Since you're bent on ruining your (ex) husbands life, tell us who it is. You shouldn't care. This will add validity to your story and let us see his reviews over the years.
For a little over 21 years I was clueless.
It's been a couple of months now since he left behind a very unwanted clue.
He's the one that is clueless now. He and his lady friends.
I really wish I had never found this place and his adventures but now I have what I need.
I don't understand how you all are so nonchalant knowing that you can destroy families and futures. Originally Posted by faithfulforyears
Who are yall preaching too exactly? Elvis has long since left the building. If not then it's just a troll as most suspected.If it's fake, than we're responding to the hypothetical.
"I'll confront my husband when he gets back on Friday but maybe I'll log in for shits n giggles days afterward to just see what kind of unwanted advice a bunch of Johns and hookers are giving". Originally Posted by Windinhishair
If it's fake, than we're responding to the hypothetical.True their marriage issues won't play out in a day or two. What has that to do with my comment?
If it's real, than you're a fool if you think this is all going to play out in a day or two rather than months. Originally Posted by irishlad