Black women in the industry

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Very nice thread Naomi and a thought provoking question. No matter what position one takes in regards to black providers, I think there are sprinklings of truth (for lack of a better word) from these positions. First off, I do think there is latent racism involved as evidenced by the comment by the agency owner from N.C. I find this a bit hypocritical given the history of our nation. From Thomas Jefferson on down, the sexual relationship between white men and black women has been tacitly accepted. Also, I don't buy into the "stereotypical" non-sense that black providers are "ghetto" (whatever that means). There are just as many if not more white trailer-park trash providers that have their own "stereotype". It cuts both ways. There are high quality providers regardless of race. Personally, race doesn't matter to me when it comes to seeing a provider. Sure, there is a certain look that I go for, but that "look" can be achieved by a provider of any race. Now having said that, I"ll be honest. I have not been with a black provider. This is due to three primary reasons. 1) lack of opportunity in my area. 2) lack of quality in my area (and this really cuts across all providers). 3) Holding out for Naomi
FYI: Some women of color who state they are "exotic" or "mixed" are indeed biracial. Perhaps they enjoy embracing their white (or Latina) side just as much as their black side even if others think they should not. Or they may find that it gives potential clients a better picture of whom they will meet. Of course plenty of ladies (no matter race) lie about their backgrounds in general. This isn’t isolated to AA ladies who state they are “exotic”.
Originally Posted by Joie Estelle
Just to clarify, I agree with you and don't feel there is anything wrong with anyone embracing their heritage regardless of what that may or may not consist of. I was referring to those that posted earlier in the thread about how they disliked it when an AA lady who isn't of mixed heritage chose to use the title exotic.
Great thread. I mainly see black providers and never had to deal with this "negative" stereotype. As a matter of fact 90 %of my positive reviews were of black women who have at least presented themselves as smart sexy and most importantly genuinely enjoy what they do. I.e. Nikki b...Mocha Nicole..and more recently Sparkle and Amazon Alexa etc.. The worst I've gotten is robotic cold lackluster performers, but those come in every race, shape and size.
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Great thread. I mainly see black providers and never had to deal with this "negative" stereotype. As a matter of fact 90 %of my positive reviews were of black women who have at least presented themselves as smart sexy and most importantly genuinely enjoy what they do. I.e. Nikki b...Mocha Nicole..and more recently Sparkle and Amazon Alexa etc.. The worst I've gotten is robotic cold lackluster performers, but those come in every race, shape and size. Originally Posted by Danieldiaz
Robots.... hummm I never would have thought! Recomended lub...
WD-40?
Robots.... hummm I never would have thought! Recomended lub...
WD-40? Originally Posted by Still Looking
Actually I tried this once. She sprung to life before calling her very real pimp.
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Actually I tried this once. She sprung to life before calling her very real pimp. Originally Posted by Danieldiaz
Ouch!
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...So glad to be moving back there in August!!!!! Originally Posted by SimoneLove
Mental Note: Get to Denver this summer. Originally Posted by GenesisNicole
Make sure to welcome Simone and Genesis (and any other lady/ladies) to the Mile High upon their arrivals
It's been said a couple of times, but here in Denver, we just don't have many Black providers. To be honest, Denver doesn't really have many Black people. The AA providers who advertise on our local boards are (I believe) are booked constantly. The AA's on BP are the 'fly by night' girls.

Colorado is very liberal so, most clients could care less the providers color. White trash, ghetto talking and TyP!nG LiKe thIS in ads, is where you won't get my Benjamins, no matter how fine you may be! Originally Posted by BigBaldBlk
I went to college in Denver, and have been going at least once a year since I was a kid. There are not that many blacks there, and it is indeed a very liberal state not to mention fun as hell.I did very well when I was there, and even met a few celebrities.. I'd rather move altogether than lower my rates ever again. Too bad I didn't get a chance to see you last New Years' when I was out there BBB, but I'll be back before the end of summer for you. Maybe I could get Genesis Nicole to come with me.
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I went to college in Denver, and have been going at least once a year since I was a kid. There are not that many blacks there, and it is indeed a very liberal state not to mention fun as hell.I did very well when I was there, and even met a few celebrities.. I'd rather move altogether than lower my rates ever again. Too bad I didn't get a chance to see you last New Years' when I was out there BBB, but I'll be back before the end of summer for you. Maybe I could get Genesis Nicole to come with me. Originally Posted by Luxury Daphne

OOOO! Road Trip!

Daphne,

I'm about to be able to move around as a single person next Tues....(kiddo leaves for the summer)

I had put some feelers out to the local providers that I know in Austin to travel with me. But the (2) that I know and trust are not able to go.

I would be more than delighted to have a partner in crime! *hehehe*

Matter of fact....calling you now.

Genesis Nicole
Make sure to welcome Simone and Genesis (and any other lady/ladies) to the Mile High upon their arrivals Originally Posted by BigBaldBlk
Thankyou BBB mauhh
Also @Naomi, thankyou for that link u had for Alisha. I loved it very helpful.
Thankyou BBB mauhh
Also @Naomi, thankyou for that link u had for Alisha. I loved it very helpful. Originally Posted by SimoneLove
Agree a very interesting read and also a great topic with some very interesting responses.
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My experiences in the hobby seem to be vastly different with black woman compared to others....although most of my experiences have been good mostly. Being black myself, I feel less scrutinized at times when I'm screening and guaging a ladies personality prior to screening. The session at times.....not always are much different physically as well which more so feeds into my preferences.

I will admit for the most part.......in a lot of citiesthere are very few ebony ladies to choose from.....and in those same cities ....fewer ladies are actually verified and reputable.
This is such an awesome and timely discussion. I for one love black women and they are my only choice of provider. I love it when I've only been there for 10 minutes and the conversation is so good fluid it seems like we've known each other for years. That's what I love about our black providers; their natural ability to make you feel at home. My biggest disappointment is that the black providers in my area which I really want to see......don't see black men. (I know that story has been there and back.) Sisters, keep it coming and don't settle.
This is such an awesome and timely discussion. I for one love black women and they are my only choice of provider. I love it when I've only been there for 10 minutes and the conversation is so good fluid it seems like we've known each other for years. That's what I love about our black providers; their natural ability to make you feel at home. My biggest disappointment is that the black providers in my area which I really want to see......don't see black men. (I know that story has been there and back.) Sisters, keep it coming and don't settle. Originally Posted by taliafreak
You mean they are very down to earth and laid back?
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I think it has been said before. Most white women know how to make love, most back women know how to fuck. Balls to the walls type sex is what I'm taking about.