I don't know how I got nominated for the position of Eccie's Scapegoat. But I would like to resign from the job.
World English Dictionary
scapegoat (ˈskeɪpˌɡəʊt)
(n.) A scapegoat is an event person or object that is used to lay the blame on for all that goes wrong, regardless of the contributions of others. This will usually carry on until the scapegoat has gone, or has managed to successfully defend itself against the arguements presented to it.
The word comes from Judaism. During mass reconciliation the rabbi would bring a goat to the alter. The sins of the people would be absorbed into the goat, and it would then be killed, its' blood staining the alter until cleansed.
Threepeckergoat this has nothing to do with you so don't take it personal.
Originally Posted by KittyLamour
Was not taken personal.
You know kitty, I dont know why, because I've seen way more level headed folks then I try and explain some things and it has not done any good. It always seems they are just wasting their breath. Maybe because I'm drunk, maybe because I kind of believe you would like all of this shit to stop, I am not sure. But I'm gonna say a few things and try and not be a smart ass. Just take it for what it's worth or don't, either way it's up to you.
You have got to get this idea that everybody is just out to get you out of your head. You have got to open your eyes and see that you and you alone have created all of it yourself. And you were exactly right in an earlier post when you said this all started a long time ago and just kept snowballing. It snowballed because you didn't stop it then.
One problem turns into 2, 2 into 3, 3 into 4 and so on. You have zero credibility because of past bullshit, and then wonder why nobody believes you when you are telling the truth. For example the whole issue with boss lady. Nobody believed you. And when the truth finally surfaced you considered it a victory. But thats not a victory, that was a loss regardless. Look at where you ended up when it was all said and done. You weren't in a better place. That's what makes a victory.
Why were you even there? If I remember right it was because of another bad situation. Some dude had kicked you out with nowhere to go and she saw an opportunity to take advantage of you and decided to "help you out". And why were you at his place? Because you were down and out and didn't have a place to stay so he helped you out. It was a whole chain of events that put you in that situation. Not one single bad thing but several leading to that point. Until you learn how to pull some good out of every bad situation you continue going down and not up.
I am not going to speculate, I have my ideas but I am not going to put them out there, because I could be dead wrong, but there's something wrong in your life that is keeping you down. And it is not all of us. I hear you say over and over again that you have all these haters because you are so successful. But you are not successful. You are a fucking mess. And nobody hates you. But everybody hates to get on here once a month or so and see more stupid bullshit. I would like to see you get it together and turn it around. But you can't do it by not fixing the big problem that allows these little problems to get so out of hand without you stopping them. But only you can do that. Not some dude feeling sorry for you, not some other girl here that wants to give you a helping hand. Only you. And you won't ever fix it by pointing the finger at everybody but yourself. Quit denying it. Own it and then fix it. If a person has a good heart, always does what they think is right, and gets rid of of anything in their life thats holding them down, good things will start happening to them. I have seen people change their lives around first hand. You are worth it underneath the bad shit.
Like I said, I dont know why I felt the urge to spill all of that out. I will probably sober up and wonder what in the fuck made me think it might change anything, but there it is. Now I gotta pass out, I got to get rested up so I can continue being a smart ass tomorrow.