Very generally, You pretty much covered it... Given my age, education, career, family, etc,... Of course I consider it.It's unfortunate, but in many cases, the single moms here with custody do not always have that custody because it is challenged. A majority of the time here is a deadbeat dad in the picture that could care less and so long as he is not being bothered for more than what he considers a mangeable amount he is not racing to rescue the kids from a hooker mom. If mom is not seeing clients in the home with the kids there or have other issues Family Protective Services will make any decision based on the safety of the kids. The system is over worked and placements are in short supply. I've seen many kids returned to mothers that hooked.
I read your use of demographics to compare who has 'more' to lose or risk as a quantitative one whereas others, and myself, are adding the qualitative dimension to it. Do I have more to lose given my age, education, career, etc, (new car, house, job) than a single mom, little education (used car, apartment)? Quantitatively, sure.... Maybe.
Try this... Do I have less to lose than another gentleman who makes more money than I do? I may risk my ability to park my ford in a 3 car garage and ability to enjoy a steak at Texas Roadhouse while he risks parking his lexus in a 6 car garage in one of his 3 homes and miss out on Smith and Wolensky. Sure, quantitatively. But we both risk prestige, family, a place to live, money, etc... Qualitatively similar risk I propose. Given my age, children (custody) aren't an issue but a single mother living in a small apartment who risks losing her kid(s), apartment, etc, qualitatively I think has more to lose than I do. We both, however, apply similar importance to our own risks.
Of course, these are broad generalizations and I haven't even addressed the legal risks but suffice it to say, if I were outed, I'd probably not be able to visit san antonio as much as I do, if at all and that, too, would suck. Originally Posted by Netx9
Now if we are talking about the affluent young lady that turned to prostitution because she wants new toys and was cut off from daddy's money.... well in that case the father and families may want reason to get involved but that type is not as well represented in the demographics.
Society is much more forgiving of the young lady that errs than the guy that owns the local McDonald Franchise and leads his kid's Sunday School classes.
So when a hooker with a couple of preteen sons is discovered hooking and her pictures make news she is not going to be welcome at the PTA meeting or his boyscout gatherings and the kid is going to deal with some humiliation but a relocation and new school can yield a fresh start.
A guy suddenly living alone with the expense of supporting himself as well as the family he has for years to come because he was outed by the jealous ex wannabe boyfriend of some hooker that shared too much during pillow talk is possibly financially ruined and carrys a mark that could damage him for years to come professionally. It could set him back or even require a total reeducation and change of career paths.
One of the pimps here in Austin was known to gather information on clients as well as use that information to threaten those very same people. people carry hobby phones but drive their personal cars to an appointment and have their life opened up when pimpdaddy or boyfriend snaps a quick picture of the license plate for future reference...
There is no possible way we can ever totally alleviate the risk. We can however take every opportunity to nip in the bud any transgression where information about us is misused by those we interact with.