There is no reason to dispute a negative review as long as it is not done for the wrong reasons. If the man truly feels that I deserve a negative review that is true, then by all means I need to take it as constructive criticism. Negative comments will for sure hurt my feelings but they are not the end of the world and I would use them to better myself.
4 Years ago I retired from the hobby and was a provider for a few years before that. During that time and my current time as a provider I have never (knock on wood) had a "NO" review. There have been things mentioned that hurt my feeling (such as saying I would look better if I lost a few pounds) but I take that as something I need to work on, and I am.
Arguing a bad review only brings a negative light to the provider, unless of course the review is fake or done for revenge or something along those lines.
Originally Posted by Ivy Chick
Very well said. I might add that when a bad or "no" recommendation review is posted, and the session did take place, yes, it is the OPINION of the reviewer, are there are 2 sides of the story, then there is mostly always the third side, which is what really actually happened. But, what many of the providers do not acknowledge or some even care about, is the fact that it is the hobbyist who pays the donation and he wants the session he wants. Now, if he does his homework and/or uses some diligence in seeking out a provider, he should have at least a good session. Also, given the fact that said hobbyist has clean hygiene, is respectful of the provider's time and boundaries and has the proper donation, the provider SHOULD give the guy a great session, there should be no YMMV crap, as that will cause a guy to write a bad review, and will not see her again, and she SHOULD have absolutely no one to blame but herself. Calling out/posting and alert thread on a hobbyist just for writing a bad/"no" recommendation review sheds a very bad light on said provider. To keep ladies from getting the bad reviews, they should not see a hobbyist at a time when they have even a remote chance of them not being able to do a great session, be it because they are having personal problems they cannot push to the side, they are tired from seeing multiple guys that day, lack of sleep the night before or whatever, or because they feel that the "connection" is just not there, however they determine that rationale. Sure, you lose whatever money that would have been, but, in the long run of provider reputations, it is better to no to see a guy/reschedule than a hobbyist be treated as if he were nothing but a wallet, and a provider "going through the motions" if even that.
To the OP statement on what a provider does about a negative review states alot about the provider.