I have this issue frequently and I hate it. Sometimes you just want to take your partner for a quick spin and it's not possible. Sometimes the girl thinks she did something wrong when this issue strikes. It also gets in my head during sex and can ruin the moment. Mine is most likely because of beating off too much. I guess my dong is used to a certain grip and friction level a woman's box simply can't match. However if a woman has great hands or mouth action, she'll get me to finish in no time. Sensuous Latina comes to mind....as does Carlisle.
Originally Posted by Meoauniaea
I'm in the same boat. Too much porn, too much idle time... you know the rest.
I have came only once during penetration (covered no less), and that was eight years ago. I usually come only from BJs or HJs. Amy (bestoralintexas) is the only recent provider to get me off in a session, and she had to work for it, LOL. I think it's all in my mind, not relaxing and thinking about it too much.
My recommendations for those who can't get their rocks off is to relax before and during the session, tell the woman what you wants and desires to help you out, and more importantly... cut the jacking-off to 2-3 times a week.