I always have my make-up, hair and nails (fingers and toes) done for all of my dates. I wear no fragrances due to my own allergies and not to leave a lasting scent lingering with gentleman friends.
When hosting incall dates I generally wear lingerie and heels, unless I receive a specific request. I do not often wear stockings only because I've been unsuccessful at finding the correct size. At only 4'11 and 98 lbs, I find that most are too long and too loose in the thighs. If anyone has any suggestions for such in very small sizes, I'd love to hear them.
When going to an outcall date, it really depends on where I am going and what we are doing. For dinner I may wear a little black dress and heels. Lunch nice dress pants and cute top with kitten heels or possibly a sun dress. Sometimes I wear nice jeans, cute top and heels. Again, it all depends on who I'm seeing (if I know what they prefer), time of day and planned events.