It happened! I ran into a client at Oysterback AND...

This is a no brainer. You see your favorite bartender outside the bar and you or he/she is with somebody,nod and move on. When you walk into an incall with an ATF or your preferred bar, expect them to know you and just how you like it!

Guys and Girls, just remember you are not invisible. Fun people seeking fun tend to be drawn to many of the same places. I always expect discretion but have learned that a pocket excuse is a necessary tool for my toolkit.

This is one of those topics which seems to surface every often. I guess elements of the community need reminding (or educating about what should be obvious. And the rules are not hard. If she's with anyone, no acknowledgment at all; if she's alone, you can try circumspect eye contact, and go further only if you get a green light. Even then, in public language and activity should always be discreet.

Acceptable: "Hey, great to see you."
Unacceptable: "Hot dayum, I can't stop thinking about our last BJ."

Ladies, a wise provider once told me she used a line with her non-hobby friends when recognized. She of course denied any knowledge of the jerk, but pretended puzzlement, because this was the second time some stranger had called her "CCCCC", so there must be a "CCCCC" who looked like her.

Happened to me once from a dancer who saw me at a club with my gf. Called me out and boy was that one hell of a night. I was like, "WTF?!". I come to you for fantasy; to escape my reality for a couple of hours a week. I feel ya.

Standard Protocal has been breached. He must go back to first grade course in lingo and appropreant public meeting gestures. I am so sorry that this happened to you.

Smooth move jackass!

The first rule of fight club is....You do not talk about fight club.

If you can't tell the difference between fantasy and reality, you don't deserve to be on this board. The end.

says Arriana

Well said Arriana... ! San Antonio is a small town and from time to time it will happen that you cross paths with a "friend"...and when it does it is never cool to even acknowledge that the two of you know each other.....and it works both ways..

It is always common courtesy to call a provider by their middle name. That guy should be ashamed of himself.

Wow, that sucks big time!!

Damn sorry to hear. I have never had that experience happen to me, but I'm sure it will present itself some day, and I only hope to be reminded of exactly this thread when it happens.. Sucks to be that guy but clearly it looks like this time his purpose is to serve as the example of what NOT to do.

If you can't tell the difference between fantasy and reality, you don't deserve to be on this board. The end. says Arriana

Well said Arriana... ! San Antonio is a small town and from time to time it will happen that you cross paths with a "friend"...and when it does it is never cool to even acknowledge that the two of you know each other.....and it works both ways.. Originally Posted by handyGiraffe

AGREE 100%

During a session a provider (I won't say who) and I discovered we had similar interests and that there could be a potential that we would run into each other in the real world. We came up with an agreement on what to do in that case. It hasn't happened yet, but I would feel awkward if we did!

Good Topic..Thats happened to me before and iwas with some relatives

Since he is an eccie guy, if you haven't already I'd send him a polite, yet firm, PM reminding him that what he did can carry very serious consequences and don't ever do it again.

I would not automatically assume he's reading this thread.

Since about 1986, I run into about 10 or 12 gals active or retired in this thing of ours at the oysterbake. Don't know what it is about that oysterbake.

Any, ignore is the rule, maybe a polite nod. Maybe not even that, depending on circumstances. Any idiot should know that.

And if you are a little gun shy stay the fuck away from the oysterbake.

LOL!!! You guys are toooooo funny!!! It's bound to happen, since ASPD days I've seen, SEEN (from far away) a certain # of gents outside in "the real world" some alone, some with their wife or gf, kids ect. Either way, I steer clear...I WOULD NEVER want to harm any of ya'lls outside lives or relationships because you are a member of a board that happens to appeal to us and we may share things in common, have fun, and whatnot.

So I agree, works both ways. I'd NEVER want to harm one of my genuine clients that are really just here to "live a little" and "enjoy their life." I SEE NOTHING wrong with having ya'll as buds IN THE HOBBYLAND.

Once it goes outside of that, I believe that just as I should have the respect and etiquette to NOT go and make a mess out of your personal lives with SO's asking questions, ppl wondering "why'd he call her that?", friends bringing it up later like "hey ____ that creeper was all up on your grill, sure you didnt know him from somewhere?"

AHHHHHHHH!! NO!!!

Yes, BUT NO!!!! lol

and YES, he read THIS WHOLE thread is VERY embarrassed and apologized. I kindly told him I did not want to continue our eccie relationship and that as a provider I have that right. He understood and has not contacted me in any rude or ugly manner. He is NOT a "gentleman" as Mokoa said, he in fact lost that title that day. A true ECCIE gent is all ya'll above that KNOW the difference between what it is to play and have a fantasy life, and when it's time to be a dad, a husband, a boyfriend ect.

With that said, Happy Fiesta to all ya'll and please, if you see me out, or any provider for that matter...think about that "naughty" fun time we enjoyed together....and move along We'll get together soon enough

Cheers fellas!

XoXo,

~Arriana~