Have we forgotten ?

To the OP, keep in mind that this site is full of rule-breakers. So, let's call it a rule (even though it may be a guideline or just good advice); it's almost guaranteed folks here will break it. Originally Posted by emptywallet

Good post.

Some people have a difficult time grasping reality and letting go of the fantasy part of this hobby. I just love the fact that I can meet someone pop off one or two and go, without coming up with a reason why I'm leaving. It's all part of this world we have chosen to participate in. You can get your fantasies fulfilled and have sex with no feelings or attachments, now that's what I love ! Getting emotionally attached to someone who wouldn't have spoken to you if you hadn't paid them, and thinking they love you. . . . . now that's the fantasy part !

Yep I did it! I'm younger somewhat attractive I had been seeing my ATF for like two years and feelings devolped both ways she brought it up first so I said alright three weeks later we were living together and and it seems like the more time we spent together the more the magic was gone so she moved out that was that. every now I do go pay her a visit she's still my ATF . But don't think if your going to date a provider she will stay your fantasy women for long they just become another woman with there typical bullshit to deal with and that's why I love the hobby to avoid all that just saying

You seem to be arguing against dating ANY woman, not only an escort.

If this site was about " finding love " the ladies wouldn't have a price list, and the guys could leave their donation in their car. I like this site for what it's " really " about, sex with no attachments ! Why change what we came here for just to get what we are avoiding ? The ladies want the money and the men want the sex, without that it's a freaking marriage !

It's natural for people to get feelings for each other. I wouldn't say it is a good thing in the hobby. Sure, there are Richard Gere stories out there but are many more "He tried to take over my life" or "He/She changed once we took that plunge".

For many men, the donation is about more than just sex. It's to make the fantasy of an idealized woman become reality.

She doesn't make you wait and values being on time just as much as you. She's in the mood all the time. She really listens to you and is empathetic. She tries to keep things new in the bedroom an makes you feel like you the greatest thing since sliced bread. She never nags or complains. If you don't call her she does not mind and just assumes you are busy. She doesn't get jealous and appreciates the female form just as much as you do. Sure the sex is fantastic, but the whole package of this woman who is everything you want is rarely available IRL. I'm not saying women like this don't exist but they are generally attached or have no interest in pursuing a relationship with you.

The hobby makes this unicorn appear in front of you with a smile. Then she goes home and takes off that horn.

It's natural for people to get feelings for each other. I wouldn't say it is a good thing in the hobby. Sure, there are Richard Gere stories out there but are many more "He tried to take over my life" or "He/She changed once we took that plunge".

For many men, the donation is about more than just sex. It's to make the fantasy of an idealized woman become reality.

She doesn't make you wait and values being on time just as much as you. She's in the mood all the time. She really listens to you and is empathetic. She tries to keep things new in the bedroom an makes you feel like you the greatest thing since sliced bread. She never nags or complains. If you don't call her she does not mind and just assumes you are busy. She doesn't get jealous and appreciates the female form just as much as you do. Sure the sex is fantastic, but the whole package of this woman who is everything you want is rarely available IRL. I'm not saying women like this don't exist but they are generally attached or have no interest in pursuing a relationship with you.

The hobby makes this unicorn appear in front of you with a smile. Then she goes home and takes off that horn. Originally Posted by SAangel27

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Great topic. You all make a good point.

thatsme67003 and SAangel27, you two nailed it, I couldn't agree more.

If this site was about " finding love " the ladies wouldn't have a price list, and the guys could leave their donation in their car. I like this site for what it's " really " about, sex with no attachments ! Why change what we came here for just to get what we are avoiding ? The ladies want the money and the men want the sex, without that it's a freaking marriage ! Originally Posted by Gucci

Exactly!

As far as I'm aware, there isn't a Moses-esque story that has given us hobbyists 10 commands, including this apparent rule that no feelings can/should develop.

At its core, we all know what the hobby is about, and it has nothing to do with paying them to leave. To the contrary, 9/10 guys here (totally made up, sure, but probably accurate) would lovingly visit a provider that said, "on second thought, I want to stay awhile. Spend the night with me? I'll pay for this hotel room all weekend and you can come fuck me when you want. This pussy is all for you baby!" ... you're paying them to leave my ass. Let's be clear: you're paying them to accept your hot beefy injection.

Naturally, you may choose to keep it impersonal, but I bet in most circumstances its because one of two things (i) for the provider it really is just a job; or (ii) because the hobbyist is married/has an SO. Maybe I'm wrong after all and you do want them to leave and you're single. That is your choice, but again there is no rule that it must be mine, and honestly I would be shocked if most single guys weren't open to feelings developing with a gorgeous woman with mad crazy good skills in bed.

Maybe I'm just more of a "Carpe Diem" kind of guy, but I think that overestimate people's desire to watch her leave.

Forgotten what??

I had to tell off my ex because I told him that I wasn't interested in pursuing a serious monogamous relationship with him...or anyone right now and told him the reasons why I felt this way. He then accused me of being pimped out, not caring about his feelings and that I've given up on love and loving relationships. I've never been monogamous and he knew this well before I hooked up with him. I was acting like an adult and not flipping out while he spazzed out on me on FB and started saying craziness that had me backing off and ignoring him. This is the main reason why I'll never date a client again.

I have had a few gentlemen allow their feelings for me get out of hand. It's unfortunate, and it ended our relationship all together. I am not here to find a boyfriend or husband. And I enjoy being paid to leave
I can understand how it happens, but that is not why we all participate in this hobby.

I role play . The donation i pretend is alimony.And we will just get that out of the way up front !

I think there have been some great points made in the previous post, but to be honest I had to go back a read the original post a couple of times to make sure I understood the purpose of the post.

I broke the post into 3 general statements in hopes to streamline the comments.

1. I've noticed lately that a lot of people are making posts about falling for and dating...

2. I think some people confuse the girlfriend experience with an actual girlfriend.

3. There is nothing wrong with picking up a " friend " here and there but to go at these situations and fall in love . . . . . . Nah ! Originally Posted by Gucci

I didn’t include the eHarmony comment. I dismissed this as hyperbole. I don’t think they were suggesting that anyone joins the site or enters the hobby with the intention of finding a girlfriend or a relationship. I also removed statement I know what it is and what I'm here for, this is highly subjective and personal for the OP. (Everyone experience & reason will be unique).

Point 1: I really have not noticed the increase in post about falling for or dating, but I mainly stay in the local section.

I interpreted this statement mainly as a way to introduce a topic that others have been discussing lately and not as a commentary suggesting this phenomenon is occurring more frequently than it has in the past. As long as this has been a profession relationships have formed as a result of these encounters.

Point 2: Yes, absolutely! This isn’t a new phenomenon. The lines can get blurry in this hobby and a sense of connection with another person can occur.

Point 3: This is a little unclear to me. Did you intent for this statement to mean:

A. You understand that friendships can occur but you will never let it go any further (O.K. – Good for You.)

B. In your opinion no one should let things go beyond a friendship, because in the long run these relationships have a small probability success (O.K. – I get it, sure there will be exceptions to this, but as a general belief I would tend to agree)

What was the intent of the Post?Was this posted so the OP could share their personal observation and judgment or did they intend to have other’s participate in some form of discussion on a topic?


OK – So here comes a post hijack! If the intent was to generate a discussion around a topic then the two topics I think would be the most interesting would be:


1. How have the lines been blurred for you in the past? Did you recognize that the lines were becoming blurred? Did you care? Did you do anything about it? Did you find a way to resolve the issue, etc.

2. Did you ever have things move into what could be considered a serious relationship? What your story? How long did it take for things to move into a relationship? Unfortunately, by the very nature of this topic it’s going to be biased towards short term relationships and failures. After all to a certain extent those that are in a successful relationship are more likely to have a lower participation rate on this site.