do you guys really want honesty from a provider?

Rocky that is honesty at its best, lol. Try the women Tigerfan mentioned, I have only seen one and I can vouch and say you will certainly be pleased with the one I saw and I hear great things about the second. you know there has not been a day I have awakened and said to myself I do not want a BJ today, so pretty much a standing request here.

Maybe, what I am hearing is that ladies thinking we want to hear that stuff and might not be so true. At least not for me. Now I like dirty talk and flirting, so ladies when I see you do not just remain quiet, please.

While I agree with the consensus that it is better when the provider is having a good time as well as the hobbyist, as a realist (and someone who has been hobbying a while) I know that this will not be frequent, especially if you like trying different providers. Just the fact that a person you just met has to be comfortable enough with you to let go (after she has done it with 2 other guys that day) is a challenge in itself. Of course, there are those sex machines that keep cumming and cumming and making you feel like you are the best lover on earth, but they are the exception and not the norm.

If you do your homework, and find the provider who seem to be in this category, you have a better chance of achieving this result. But in no way, is this a given! I had an experience with a wonderful provider, who everybody swore by and we just did not click. So even for those of us who go through a lot of information, stuff happens sometimes. And it will happen to you. At that point in time, do you want honesty and have her tell you, "Look, you don't so it for me? Try doing this, or that"? Not me. I'd much rather have her focus on me.

Besides, when you think about all the BS we are telling each other (Provider/hobbyist) how do you know she is telling the truth? I don't.. So, I'd rather not hear it.

HH

I think you should just live in the moment. I gave that guy a hard time on his post because he has some crazy stuff going on. I think if a provider/client have established a rapport over time then yes be honest. Believe it or not I have a very kind heart and I would not want to hurt his feelings if he wasnt well endowed or lacked sexual knowledge. Sad truth is that a lot of men really dont know too much about a womans body. Their past partners havent let them explore or learn. It takes openmindedness and experience. Also open communication. To be put down in the sack is the worst feeling ever, trust me I know! Ive had that experience of a bf telling me that I was horrible at giving a bj. I actually am still self conscious of it today, and always ask if Im doing it right. So my advice, if you ask for honesty, be prepared for the answer.

Its something Ive often told people..."Never ask a question that you dont want the answer to."

Im ok if you lie to me, tell me Im the most beautiful woman and I rock in bed. In that moment Im #1, and it feels pretty damn good! Reality sux sometimes.

Chella no comments on my top ten list on BP? THought you would have chimed in by now!

LFG

You should cater to what your customer wants. If he wants the truth, give it. If he wants a fantasy, give it.

Honesty, as in she delivers as promised and provides excellent service is good.

Dishonesty, as in she acts like I'm the only/best man on the planet and I mean the world to her (for the alloted time and then politely leaves or watches me leave), is also good.

If I wanted honesty, I'd just go home.
agree with juan2fork.
Sex Lessons? wow Genius!

Due too so many long years of life.......Please Please Please,
Just do it, Lie to me flat out.......... Just like a three year old sears bathmat. yes Thank you.....

So, to move further into this, I've seen this in discussion... How many of you would be more turned on by a girl who shared a likened situation to yourself? Committed relationship that she was sneaking around on because she liked providing in the hobby? Or, would you rather that you lived in the fantasy that you were the only man in her life? Would you be turned on by her polyamorous nature?

I've often gotten something along the lines of, "You're so pretty. Why do you do this? Why don't you have a boyfriend [that I assume would keep you from doing this]?" ...Because I used to be a proponent of not telling men that I had a boyfriend when asked. Though I've come to find that it's a turn on for those that do ask.

Personally I do not understand the whole monogamy thing. If I want to run around why shouldn't my SO, go have fun, bring home the cash,lol. I remained monogamous for too many years in my relationship and I was honest I was only monogamous because she insisted upon it and I loved her enough to give that to her. But did I desire other women, you betcha!! If my SO would have come to me and said she wanted to stay together but sleep around, woohoooo, would have been my reaction. It is sex, it is fun and pleasurable and why would I not want someone I care for to experience that.

In my massage sessions we are both open for honesty--I encourage it. Ive had guys ask me if they are average, is it a "pretty one", if they look good for their ages, etc. Well for one, I have no idea what average is...5-6 maybe, and when a guy is huge he will ask me if Ive ever had one that big before too. Most of the men I see are very attractive, and if they arent then usually the personality makes up for it. Ive only see a few older men, only because we have talked and they have been impressive to me, generally just respectful and gentleman-like. I did have one incident a long time ago, about 2 years, older guy, he turned out to be an ass while naked, just being mean spirited towards me for no reason, and I ended up referring to his cock as " that lil thing" oops! Did I say that out loud? He went limp immediately. OH WELL! Never heard from him again. Thats the vindictive side of me at work, if you try to hurt me, Ill come out with claws and drawing blood. Otherwise, I would never want to hurt anyone as I said before.

Id like to have an open relationship too Outdoorsman, if they just didnt end up getting so full of drama. Someone always ends up getting jealous or falling in love! Kinda sux.

It all depends on what it is. I'd rather you not fake an orgasm to make me feel good. Instead, show me what you like so it's real. If it happens, it happens. If not, let's be honest, I'm not there to get you off, I'm there for my own self-gratification, but I'd prefer it to be a two-way street.

Honestly, I'd love to have (a) longer dick, but it's thick. Tell me what you like and how I can work with what I've got to please you better. Don't tell me "you're in so deep."

If she's honest about it, I'd love to hear if she thinks I'm a good lover or not. If not, what can I do differently to change that?

Of course, if I just don't please you (or any guy) politely suggest ways that I/he can improve by telling me/him "You know what I like..." and make requests that will change my/his actions the next time and hopefully things will improve.

I'm not here to get my ego stroked. Something else needs the stroking. But if there's something I can learn to please other women, providers or civilians, then let me know. It'll only be better for all of us. The fantasy isn't that I think that I'm good, it's that I'm with a woman who normally wouldn't give me the time of day, let alone all the other good stuff. Originally Posted by pornodave69

I've posted the following addressed to the complainer.
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I've quoted all of what pornodave69 said because I agree with all of it. However, I've found that I really enjoy treating my Provider of the moment very well and bring her to multiple orgasms if possible. I learn from every experience what I can do to bring a woman to a clear and definitive orgasm. It makes things twice as much fun for me knowing I actually really did bring her to an orgasm. Recently a certain Provider told me she doesn't want me to lose more than 10lbs because she likes my 'extra padded' tummy. She can more easily rub her clitoris, during cowgirl, against me by leaning just a little forward. At the same time doing that her g-spot should also experience more excitation.

Yes

I get off...when she gets off...

If she is not happy, I am not also. We must click.

...Because I used to be a proponent of not telling men that I had a boyfriend when asked. Though I've come to find that it's a turn on for those that do ask. Originally Posted by Jacquie

And those of us who don't ask usually realize that you probably have one but we just don't want any thought of him to be a part of our session. I guess you could say I like for a provider to tell me the truth, but not necessarily the whole truth.

I actually am very happily a single lady. It's nice having multiple boys in different area codes to share a bed with. This lady need variety too.