Oh boy, english women ;-).... there are jokes in portugal about germans and english women having the worst taste when it comes to dress code.I saw some of that ruddiness to women while I was there. My buddy and I was in Glasco Scotland at this bar. We were talking with a group of girls & 2 Scottish guys join are conversation. We were discussing movies and the industry. They were studying acting at the uni. The guys out of the blue flicks a lit cigarette butt at one of the girls face. She had not provoked him an any way. *She laughs it off. I was utterly disgusted with this act of unkindness to another person. It was out of instinct that me and my buddy jumped to the defense of the young woman. The 2 guys back down quickly. Later we found out that the UK has a zero tolerance for fighting. Both parties will go directly to jail. Me and my friend are not *fighters, but we do not tolerate that kind of behavior. That was the worst case.There're several other incidences on are travels where the man would act out their elementary school yard behavior. They new that we where foreign & felt threatened. I always am encouraged by a little bit of competition. I feel it makes me a better man. But I guess some of these men were not touched enough when they were children. So the lashing out on women was a result of this. I think you and I would enjoy each other's company & I don't mean in just a sexual way either. You sound like a really cool cat. Who knows, maybe we'll bump into each other one day on the street. Or I will approach you at a café. Or you would approach me. Serendipity!*
this " stretch skirt" pulling down sh*t is so annoying. If you have to pull it down just buy a longer one, right?
I realized that women who can`t walk in stilettoes are the ones who use "plateau heels" , who are thick and look as if you are a drag queen doing a show..
worst is small women thinking they are tall and dressing in boots and skirts and plateau sandals that go above the ankle (makes the leg even shorter).... yikes... I mean I am tall but I am very careful how I wear such things...
If nothing else .... at least Escorts have taste and the guy knows what he will "see" when he books one))..
As to the date and expense thing. Maybe if you`re in the "super spoiled brat league" a date costs that much , and maybe the guy wants to not only get laid but married.
I have heard (in europe we have rumors or prejudices as well... ;-)...) that many men in the US complain that the women in general are more financially or let`s say "status" oriented. Job with money or such.
As to the comment that american women give too much to american men. I think that in europe women are generally more "giving", and I find - usually - and from legal status - women in USA are more emanzipated and angry about their rights and status.
I am not talking about the occasional dumb bimbo getting laid and offering herself for nothing - self esteem wise - (which you will find here and there, not only in US territory) , but generally business wise and relationship wise US women are more protected. As to sexual harrassment at work places (I used to get comments from men in regular jobs in europe, that probably will get you fired or sued in US terms...) Also stalking laws, divorce laws, women in USA have more self esteem than in europe where it`s ok when someone gives you "cat calls" on the street, and when you complain they look at you as if you have the problem.
So, all of this gives american women a different sense of entitlement.
Then comes the education aspect. We witness many so called HDHs that brag about being educated as if this is something they should get a noble-price for. In Europe it`s normal. In USA not. You are a completely different league player if you went to some spoiled brat Ivy league university, because it is highly expensive. Also this gives a sense of entitlement, a sense of self esteem, a sense of difference , which may make some people (in this case women) more comfortable with themselves.
The american women I got to know all have a lot of self esteem and know wht they want and how to get it. European women still suffer a lot from male chauvinism. As much as this is not "really" out in the open, european men tend to be more macho than american men, who tend to be more like eternal kids.
(Just my personal experience.... and reflections of other women who dated both and lived both continents. Americans sometimes lack on the reality level and european men lack at the respect level). Of course all generalizations. Not to be taken too serious. Its just a little "direction".
American men also tend to find mediocre women more appealing than european men. I mean this in terms of compliments. AMerican men generally make more compliments, and are - IMHO - easier to impress, or at least they pretend to be like that. I never figured out if they really mean what they say or if its just a general way to make a woman feel good. European men are nasty, hard to give compliments and take you for granted. Its not "stylish" to tell a medicre looking woman with fat legs and short skirts who obviously behaves stupid that she is looking really good and is bright and intelligent. In the USA they do that out of politeness, which explains the inflated sense of self some women seem to have.
In Europe If you behave stupid and look like shit, they tell you in your face. Not directly but at least making some hints. That means european men expect women to be "equal sparring partners" while americans still do the "old style courtesy " thing. In Europe if you make big words you have to deliver, while in the USA there is always some excuse for why some women cannot be held responsible for their actions, as if growing up seems to be a male- only thing to do .
I am for sure generalizing, I know but it`s an interesting observation for sure ;-). Originally Posted by ninasastri
Originally Posted by Rezo
Which is also interestng in the discussion (for me) why escorts charge. One charges for secrecy and one charges to support a financial contract between others (and for that support you are entitled to get paid , too). And I see unpaid secret lovers of married guys as the poorest and most to be pitied fellows on the planet ;-). Because they have nothing, while others have it all .
Originally Posted by ninasastri
Originally Posted by bladtinzu
, and lost sight of your own values?