What do you look for in a strap-on session?

Agree with everyone that the most important thing is that the partner really gets turned on by it. Also, I tend to like rather slow, rhythmic motions rather than hard pounding, especially if we are trying larger toys.

quote---I look for three things:
Good attitude. I could write paragraphs explaining what I mean but I think this means something different for each guy. I know it when I see it.
Short fingernails. Seriously... any provider with long nails is usually off my list for ass play. I'm not going to let a provider push a letter opener up my ass. Besides, I take this as a sign that the provider doesn't engage in FUMA very often. I want someone who does it, loves it and can't wait to do it again. (See point #1.) Even if she's wearing a latex glove, she still needs short nails.
No upcharge for fetish. When a provider charges extra for a fetish session it puts us both in a legal grey area. I'm paying the provider for her time, not for any specific activity. The price for her time should be same regardless of what we choose to do during that time.



rules to live by for "ass reapers"! Amen!!

{and do NOT wear glitter nail polish....I had a client get glitter in his bum once and he got asked about it by his wife...so no more glitter polish!} Originally Posted by DallasRain

When she's doing it for herself as much as she is for me.

2nd rule....its not what's in you that counts it's who is on the other side. Originally Posted by Zhivago52

This so true.

When she's doing it for herself as much as she is for me.

2nd rule....its not what's in you that counts it's who is on the other side. Originally Posted by Zhivago52

Totally agree but in reality hard to find. I think the really good ones actually wish they had a real dick.

When she's doing it for herself as much as she is for me.

2nd rule....its not what's in you that counts it's who is on the other side. Originally Posted by Zhivago52

Amen to this! It's important to enjoy and get pleasure from being on the other end...the strap-ons that have a "nub" to do clitoral stimulation is great and readily available at Adult Novelty stores.

Also, I like to do some humming on the boys and taint/anal massaging before easing on in .
Great thread!

I found a vibrating strap on that I put on my "next new toy" list!

I like for things to start out with a get acquainted drink and conversation moving to GFE as our drinks empty. As things start to heat up my lovely lady friend starts to assert herself more and more and once she locates the "I'll forget my name" button (neck & ears) and uses it without mercy I'll agree to anything which ends up with me tied up and at her mercy. Following would be a good healthy dose of oral pleasure for her, teasing me to the edge, insertion of a preparatory toy then repeat steps one and two over and over until she decides it's time to remove one toy and replace it with another, only this one is connected to her. After her climax she finishes me with CIM and forces some snowball action.

I do like a hot girl with big tits wearing the strap on. Incorporating some fantasy like she's my horrible boss or an angry girlfriend helps set the mood. As far as size, I've had medium sized strap on before so would like to move "up" a size. Definitely lube up so you pound as quickly and deeply as the guy could a pussy, that's a turn on. In between pounding me, forcing me to wear a large butt plug while I obey you in other ways will keep me nice and wide. By the end, it'll be so gaping you can slip in and out. Never tried the CIM then exchange to my mouth with a snowball but curious About it or other forced cum eating.
This is more personal, but I've always wanted to be bent Over a chair or a table in front of a Mirror so the dom can watch me wince in pain and humiliate me visually.

Totally agree but in reality hard to find. I think the really good ones actually wish they had a real dick. Originally Posted by RAMP

RAMP baby, you're so right. I like to put in work the way it's supposed to be done. Fuck you to sleep, I mean, really is there any other way? When you've got rhythm like me, how can you not do it right?

Yes you should. It's no different than showering. Cleanliness is important, inside & out. As for the spontaneity, you'll know you're clean, she won't. So if she decides to go that way, you'll still be surprised. Clean & prepared, but surprised.. Originally Posted by papadee

Hmm, I too have only dipped my toes in this part of the kinky pool, but so far I tend to agree with the idea of she has to be into it and her attitude matters more than looks.

When she's doing it for herself as much as she is for me.

2nd rule....its not what's in you that counts it's who is on the other side. Originally Posted by Zhivago52

Yeah...what he said! So much better when both are equally into it and not just doing it as a request! A little harder to find than you might think!

If you are interested in this, get hold of DallasRain and turn your body over to her. Tell her to use your body as she wishes. You will not be disappointed.

My wife "does" me . . . and so gets into it. Loves to describe it going in and out. She has had orgasms just from the hotness of pegging me. She actually doesn't go for the femdom aspect as much as the "sensual pegging" style. But sometimes she does pretty much assrape me Yummy did a pretty good job too!

I enjoy being prepared. She opens the valve that floods my ass and starts my prep. She demands I suck her cock and service her pussy until she's been satisfied. I want her hands pushing the various-sized toys up my ass until I'm ready for her cock. I want to be pushed and directed into the position she desires when taking a man. I want her to slap my ass and play with my cock, squeezing my nuts hard. I want her to decide when it's time for me to cum. I want her to have my load all over her hand so I can lick it clean before she pulls out.