Shouldn't there be a (better) way to screen us ladies for the guys ???

That's a lot harder then it seems. I knew of a provider much the same situation. So I decide I'm not seeing providers that her clients see. That works up to about 5, then it gets crazy cause you're tracking the clients she sees, the providers they see, and all the clients and providers they see. A bit like counting to infinity. Originally Posted by krinklesack

This is exactly what I was trying to get at by starting this thread. There should be an easier way even if it takes extra work, staying healthy and safe should be a #1 priority so we can all enjoy and have fun in this hobby lifestyle.

Since I am a very picky hobbyist, I do a lot of research before I see a provider. Once I do decide that I am interested in seeing a provider, I will communicate with them. I think we all have our ways of making sure we stay safe just like you ladies do. As far if the ladies are on a list because of NCNS, I don't always go by those. RW things happen all the time. Some people can be understanding and some people can't. You either try to see the lady again or you more on. I will say that some times I will give the lady another chance. Depending on how I felt at the time and her reason. Crystal, I am sure we could always find a way to get together!!!

So...

First off... it would be IMPOSSIBLE to make EVERY Hobbiest write a REVIEW on every PROVIDER... and even if that was a requirement... Who is going to POLICE this activity and then we have to extrapolate out what is going to be the PUNISHMENT for NON REPORTING of said SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS?

So, that in essence is a ridiculous statement. What seems to be the REAL ISSUE is that you have a CONCERN about a PROVIDER and instead of just having the GUTS to WOMAN UP and say what is on your mind... you would rather ALLUDE and cast HINTS of some MACABRE BEHAVIOR by some UNKNOWN PROVIDER here in SAN ANTONIO...

This type of thread is a GOOD EXAMPLE of BAD DRAMA that I simply detest... MOST PEOPLE would respect you more... and take your concerns more seriously... if you would simply STATE YOUR CONCERN in a concise and non judgmental manner... and then leave it at that... and let the debate begin...

Otherwise, this appears to me... to be yet another way for you to ATTACK providers that you do not like or care for... There is NO ONE more OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE then myself when it comes to hygiene ...

However, instead of wondering and speculating what OTHER people are doing... I simply focus my attention and energy on what I CAN CONTROL... I focus on providing my men with a clean and safe environment... I practice exceptional personal hygiene... I ALWAYS have a minimum of 6 styles of condoms... laid out in plain view in every room of my in call... and every month I invest in routine STD test's to ensure that I am safe and clean for the men and women that I play with...

So, if you have something to say...

Then just SAY IT...

Your straightforward slave,

Guinevere Originally Posted by Slave Guinevere

seems like the only one upset and trying to start drama is YOU lol. If I wanted to attack someone or start drama I would of just called her out like you are trying to do on me. *DER* Should of drank a V8 Slave!!! lol but no that wasn't my reason for this thread. I had a serious deep thought and wanted to share it openly. I have the right to do that on here. And I also wanted to see if anyone remembered that crazy list back from 2010. You have your habits that make you feel safe and protected and I respect them, and I have mine would you please also respect them?? And whatever you think about me not having respect already or having a bad reputation I already stated I don't care about my reputation on here. I am an escort I obviously don't mind being judged . If you don't like my style or the things I have to say please just ignore them like a grown adult

Ma'am , would you truly want honesty? We, at one time, set up an early appt. You didn't respond until late in the day, at which time your "Earlybird" rates were no longer valid- you did, kindly, offer me your regular rates. Staff edit JJ Originally Posted by nerdy123

I'm sorry Nerdy, that WAS my mistake and I may of been getting too many requests for my special rate even by those contacting me after the required time limit and it usually gets me very flustered. It is a bit of a cut to the ego when I get more requests for my cheaper rates than what I believe to be my already low rates for the level of service and all that I provide. Despite all of my worries I shouldn't of conducted such behavior and kept better track of already offering you the previous rate. I am glad the guys have their locker room and us ladies have our Powder room . It just makes it hard when we have to be moderated on posting alerts on health threats but I understand it is about posting correct legit information and not just trying to attack a individual for malicious reasons. Even if such posts are kept in the locker or powder rooms, we still can't post the threads and that just makes it harder I believe imo. I was wondering do you gentleman have female moderators in your locker room? Because we have male mods in our powder room lol

Since I am a very picky hobbyist, I do a lot of research before I see a provider. Once I do decide that I am interested in seeing a provider, I will communicate with them. I think we all have our ways of making sure we stay safe just like you ladies do. As far if the ladies are on a list because of NCNS, I don't always go by those. RW things happen all the time. Some people can be understanding and some people can't. You either try to see the lady again or you more on. I will say that some times I will give the lady another chance. Depending on how I felt at the time and her reason. Crystal, I am sure we could always find a way to get together!!! Originally Posted by Blckpr

I have always looked forward to a message from you. I have also been curious about your avatar, whoever that is , has a very nice tan, figure and gorgeous hair !!!

That is fine, I am not every gentleman's cup of tea and I am OK with that. I really don't need to be. Just as there are a lot of providers on this site, there are even more gentleman. The situations in which I did NCNS, I did not text or call because I did at the last minute feel unsafe, and worried about the situation. So for my protection I chose to immediately end contact with the client. In some situations it could be selfish and for personal reasons such as when I did communicate with them they didn't know how to talk business or be discreet or accept the word no or just couldn't be turned away without harassing me, or maybe I didn't want to give them the reason as to not deal with a awkward situation. I honestly don't like having to tell a guy they appear dirty. There's no real nice way of going about that situation when you're on a time limit. ALSO THOUGH it could be for reasons to protect the client as well as me. Yes it may come off rude to not provide any warning or notice that the appointment has been cancelled but say I do feel like I am suddenly in risk of being spotted or watched by LE. This is a situation where I completely erase all our contact history and turn of my hobby phone and therefore end all communication so I can best avoid any hassle. It is a risk I am always willing to take so I can best protect not only me but you also. Then later when the gentleman has contacted me at a later safer time I explain to them what happened and do my best to make it up to them. Please I am not excusing my behavior but please keep those reasons in mind .

Pretty good Screening Statement for a hobbyist right there darlin. I won't your time or mine after that statement.

If for ANY reason you decide to cancel an appointment a PM or Text saying simply that something came up and you will not be making it will at least give a legitimate guy caught up in your suspicious, worried, nervous, fearful, apprehensive thinking an opportunity to salvage some of his time and it might mitigate what he has to say about you later.

never a good reason for a NCNS.... Feeling suspicious, worried, nervous, fearful, apprehensive is a reasonable reason so simply state it.

Those are "synonyms" by the way for the word I would have used but it may have been misinterpreted. Originally Posted by Whispers

I was wondering do you gentleman have female moderators in your locker room? Because we have male mods in our powder room lol Originally Posted by crystalwhite69

You are misinformed. That is not correct.

The Infoshare forums are moderated by both male and female Staff members. The Powder Room forums are moderated by only female Staff members. The male private forums are moderated by only male Staff members.

Bush Pilot is right. Although the system we currently have is not perfect, it is the best we have and usually works well.

Requiring a review be posted after every visit is simply not practical. There is no way to enforce it. We are not the Hobby Police. What we do here is provide a place where information may be shared within a set of established guidelines. That's it.

Crystal, it is against the guidelines to link a member to an ailment openly. It is not fair to those individuals. The majority of us are not medical professionals with the power to diagnose someone. You may share away via any other means, but posting it here is not allowed. Period.

Please understand that.

No system is perfect so I either go with me gut or there are a few guys that I trust their reviews. If a few of them like a certain provider, then the likelihood I'm going to like that provider is very high.

So....shout out to the gents (san antonio only): JJ, Promdate, Footlong, Salsaman, PDid, Hornbill and Toadivine. When these guys review, I read and listen. If it wasn't for these guys, I probably would not have discovered & seen (staff edit JJ ) and she's an ATF of mine now.

Hell, I've wanted to see SA Lover (savannah) for a few months now b/c of these guys. Too bad I don't see her around anymore.

I would like it to be understood that I didn't have any concern or alert or expectation of change in policies by posting this, it was just simply a sharing of my thoughts to see how others could relate

Thank you sweetie! I change my statement, I guess if we could just keep track of each others friends list that in itself would make me happier but the way things are is still cool, again I am just stating thoughts and ideas. I do wish though I could post my thoughts in a coed non alert section without people getting super defensive or taking what I say too seriously . I am only in my mid early 20's I still have a very immature and laid back sense of humor. Can't anyone take a joke on here?

yeah, it is, sometimes we just have to decipher the recon based on the trust we have of the client reviewing and on how frequently the provider's reviews indicate she will provide the kind of service i am seeking.

I admit, I've had some providers I've seen that are misses and wish I hadn't seen and probably should have done a review of my lack of enjoyment.

But, doing a review for every session we have with every provider is a pain in the neck. And I prefer to review providers that provide me a remarkable experience. Also, there are some sessions that I want to just keep to myself cause I hate to have a provider's review list say "me", "me", "shmuck 38", "me", "shmuck 40".

oh yeah, and nice avatar crystal Originally Posted by savak

Back to your original question,

There is a way to find out if there is an ALERT on a member. Simply go to the alerts section, click on the SEARCH THIS FORUM drop menu (at the top right side of the page). Type the member's name in the text box. You should receive a selection of posts where that member's name is used.

It is up to the researcher to read the posts that are generated. Read the threads to see how the subject's name is used and in what context.

Your cavalier attitude about NCNS will not serve you well. Safety is one of the reasons we are all here and the surety that an appointment made is an appointment kept is another. Never think you cannot be fired!

JJ unfortunately the search function on this site gives you a ton of results that have nothing to do with what you are researching. That is why some guys took the quest for easily obtained info off site.

As for not being fired, sometimes you're simply just not hired.

it is very well known by now that there are a lot of white knights out there or that a gent will sometimes be afraid of posting a bad review or speak down on a girl who actually might not be clean or safe, due to a fear of having others come out and attack Originally Posted by crystalwhite69

I know exactly what you mean!
That's why it's good to go to attend the gatherings so you can see and get a feel for things for yourself!! You'll find yourself quite surprised sometimes

Besos.
Nova