Question -- For the reviewers, is the review & reliving and sharing the details (in all their glory) an integral part of your overall experience?
Originally Posted by atlcomedy
No.
To some degree, though, it's a
different experience. That is, there is some degree of pleasure not from reliving the tryst but from doing something well -- composing something that effectively conveys information to the reader. [*] Call that a very minor example of what Rawls called the
Aristotelian Principle. I say "some degree," though, because in recent years I have become increasingly dissatisfied concerning a review's ability to do that. When I first started writing reviews, back in 2002 on ASPD, I also probably got a kick out of a review that was read by a lot of members or that got positive comments/feedback. Standard (and fairly shallow) ego-gratification. That feeling also faded fairly quickly, the more I realized that views and comments bear very little relationship to the quality of the review.
Overall, there is perhaps some small personal benefit from writing the review but nowhere near enough by itself to justify the time and effort to write one. I don't do it for BCD/Premium Access either -- I either pay, or do without.
I write reviews today (descriptive rather than explicit or graphic, and focus on the person more than the body parts) primarily because they're a sort of
expectation or
obligation in P4P. The client's contribution to the information sharing process, and something that the ladies often need to run their business effectively. But I'm not particularly altruistic, and I am particularly lazy, so I normally only do one if the lady requests. (It'll still be an honest evaluation rather than a white-wash, though.) I don't mind doing one if the lady asks. But if the lady prefers no reviews or isn't interested in one at the moment or prefers reviews from other clients, I am absolutely OK with that.
------------------[*] Effectively conveying information as in
a "sense of the session" (a mod's expression). That vague phrase goes to the lady's personality, enthusiasm, intelligence, communication skills, etc., all of which make or break the mental connection that some of us find important..
Originally Posted by notdeadyet
That's what I
try to do, along with perhaps a subtle sense of her approach to sensuality. But it ain't easy, and I rarely hit the mark.