Another thing I've learned...if you really enjoy yourself with the one you are with, they come back...and they eventually become a real life friend. I have gentlemen that I lay down with that we will talk about everything and nothing and we both end the session feeling high on life.
This even happens on first dates too....and it's awesome when it does.
I have learned to be comfortable in whatever skin I am in and just worry about me and all will be fine. People will say what they want. It is what I think that matters.