The SO and I have played with a couple of providers and both times it was quite a lot of fun. We communicated enough so that everyone understood it was to be a true "three ring circus" and NOT individual centric.
Being introduced into the swinging LS has made it possible to have such varied experiences pretty much whenever we like
We no longer pay to play but have enjoyed some good times with providers that also swing in private.
It is not for everyone but one nice thing that many in the LS have in common with providers especially (but not exclusively) is the concept of "its just sex". Jealousy and worries about commitment just don't enter into it IF you do a bit of homework first.
Maybe we'll see some of y'all "out there" . . .