Friendly Warning/Advice

I can understand her anger with him, but to tell his young daughters exactly why mommy was leaving daddy is inexcusable. I'm sure they don't understand the concept of daddy paying other women to have sex with him. No wonder they despise him, they can't even comprehend the situation, and I'm sure their outlook on men will be clouded the rest of their life. Shame on her.

Never keep pictures around, DUH!!!

I spend all my disposable income on hookers. That way we have nothing to fight over in the divorce.

Bad situation, sounds like he was very careless and didn't watch his back, guess he just got to comfortable in the game. Anyone with that much to lose seems to become careless in the hobby. i.e. Tiger, Bill Clinton(sic)

Wish him best of luck in the future, 1 word of advice is play down the money, there are alot gold diggers just following the $$$$. His ex saw a way out and probably suspected something was amiss and ha is why she started looking in the first place.

just my .02

Oh as far as the kids, tell him to stay in touch they may come around they may not. I know my ex soured the girls against me during and after the divorce. 20yrs since the divorce and the girls still won't talk to me, it hurts but I have gotten over the situation and hope that some day before I go to the hobby room in the sky they come to their senses.

I totally disagree with that blanket statement. The money did not lead to the financial disaster. His actions caused the issue. This type of person would have these issues regardless of income. Originally Posted by Boltfan

Yes, it was his mistakes that did him in, but he had no business being married. He so much more is at stake for this guy than Joe Sixpack. When most people get divorced, they divide up mostly debt. This guy had serious equity. He can be married with with some risk a great prenup in a no alimony state if, and only if, he's 100% sure he won't father a kid. But absent that, he's just a walking time bomb waiting to go off.

He doesn't have "fuck you money" so that it doesn't matter that you chop it up, but he's got enough that it will really, really hurt to give half, plus up.

My wife and I are swingers and enjoy variety. We both play and have each others permission. I don't agree that marriage has to shut down play. Originally Posted by Boltfan

And there is no guarantee that if and when you get divorced that the judge will view that benignly. He or she may decide that she wouldn't have played but for your pressuring her and then give her 2/3 of the money. Then you're fucked.