What does it take...???

1. Availability - Everyone has a life, but in the hobby (fantasy), a provider's life "appears" to revolve around the hobbyist's wants and desires.

2. BCD time never feels like it is about money or about "time"! If a hobbyist feels rushed, like he is using a provider's time in a way that she does not desire it used.


3. The provider "appears" to really enjoy time spent with the hobbyist. She acts like when the hobbyist is with her, he never has to leave.


4. Most guys want to feel wanted and desired. Every guy hobbies for different reasons, but whatever the reason that he hobbies, you "appear" to understand, and will do whatever it takes to make him happy.


5. Make him feel special. Extra time, less money (jk), text messages......Anything to differentiate yourself from the other 1000 providers in Dallas.




The answer to this question may help some understand, "when the little head wakes up, what will make him think about you?"


Fulfill his fantasies and expand his horizons!


My 2cents Originally Posted by KRiggins

I am really digging you Kriggins. Great post.

Xoxox Mya Michelle

Agreed! Chemistry is the key. There's one provider that I see on a regular basis and to be honest the sex that we have isn't the 'best I've ever had' but she's such a great person (or great actress I don't know?) that I just can't help myself but want to be around her.
She's only in town every six to eight weeks so it's not like I'm blowing a bundle on her every week & I also enjoy the company of other providers when she's not around.

One word: Chemistry.

Its a rare thing. Originally Posted by Bad_Mojo

Convenience: I must be able to get to her easily, and (for me) not have to plan too far in advance.

Cost: must be reasonable, and probably less than the guy that is one and done.

Chemistry: we have to get along, and there needs to be some IOP.

Character: I have to feel safe and secure around her. I don't want to have to watch my wallet, worry about a pimp or BF, or look out the window to check on the car every five minutes. Originally Posted by TinMan

Bingo!

Some gents just don't come back--- they are one and done-- on to the next one...the hobby is for variety. Originally Posted by GracePreston

I agree with all the Chemistry and convenience points: Well Made.

But, to Grace's point about variety: There are some ladies who can provide variety and still be regulars...not a lot...but some.

After reading a few reviews, you can kinda get a feel for which providers have a set routine...and even worse...when you DO go back for round two...you find it's the same as round one...rinse and repeat.

Regulars are like a box of chocolates....you never know what you're gonna get!

I have a few ladies that I see on a regular basis. One that I have recently started seeing that has the best IOP I have ever seen, or she really into me and the sex. If I use my true common sense I know that it is likely IOP.

The ladies that I enjoy being with on a regular basis have to make me feel like I'm special. One point that is a must for me is a safe incall, which means they work from home or maintain a clean nice apartment. I may see a provider that works from a no-tel once in while, but not on a regular basis. I have to feel as if she is independent, I'm sure I've been wrong about this part of it before, but I don't what to know about it.

I have a few ladies that I see on a regular basis. One that I have recently started seeing that has the best IOP I have ever seen, or she really into me and the sex. If I use my true common sense I know that it is likely IOP.

The ladies that I enjoy being with on a regular basis have to make me feel like I'm special. One point that is a must for me is a safe incall, which means they work from home or maintain a clean nice apartment. I may see a provider that works from a no-tel once in while, but not on a regular basis. I have to feel as if she is independent, I'm sure I've been wrong about this part of it before, but I don't what to know about it. Originally Posted by HDnTX

You are pretty much going in the right direction as far as signs that a lady is stable or not. The lady you mentioned I bet adores you just as much you do her!

IOP is everything(of course once a man starts rubbing your kitty and caressing your boobs its pretty easy to get turned on lol no faking about it), cleanliness is everything.
Giving 110% every single time is all you can do. Some guys repeat some guys don't. Too many reasons to name them all! 90% of the time it has nothing to do with you at all. But when an awesome falla does repeat, that makes me want to aspire to out-do our last good time. It's never a challenge and always a pleasure.

XoXo Mya Michelle

Chemistry: There has to be intellectual and sexual chemistry. I prefer sessions that are a bit different and a provider I am going to see on a regular basis knows what I like and spoils me.

Convenience: I prefer to be able to get to your incall in 30-45 minutes. I don't always have 24 hours to give notice so short-notice appointments are sometimes a factor. A regular will do her best to accommodate my schedule when I call her up.

Incall: I prefer the incall to be a permanent incall and really prefer it to be her residence. There is just something about that situation that makes it feel way more intimate. Her availability for short notice appointments tends to be way way better when the incall is her residence.

Communication: A regular will communicate promptly and friendly and never make it seem like you're bothering them. Texts, PMs, emails are responded to in a reasonable amount of time.

Rates: We're compatible, I'm screened, I like you and you like me, we get along and know what to expect, very low chance of a no-show. These things should be reflected in the rate I pay.


I'm glad you brought up this thread. This was one of the strangest weeks of hobbying for me.

1. Tried to setup something with somebody I've seen many times. In PM she had given me a rate and told me that rate was always available to me. So when I tried to setup my appointment and confirm the rate she gave me in PM (and even replied to that PM with the rate) she told me that was my rate but she's just not offering any specials today. What? YOU told me "that rate was ALWAYS available to me". Then I send another PM trying to figure out what my rate was and communication stopped. You know we can see when the message was read right??

2. Tried to setup an appointment with somebody new but that I had been talking to before. Her communication was horrible. PMs were responded to a day or two later. Texts were spaced out really far apart. This was a sure sign of things to come on appointment day. I basically got a 2 hour run around and no appointment. Her response was "it was just a misunderstanding" Sure.

3. Tried to schedule with somebody I've seen several times before. I send her an email and no response. I PM'd her from here and got a quick reply and she followed up to my email and said the time and date I wanted was open. I replied back to that email to confirm and never heard back from her.

4. I was in the Dallas area after a sporting event and unexpectedly found myself alone so I tried to setup a short notice appointment with somebody I've seen a couple of times. I didn't get a response back so I sent a PM that night and the heartfelt warm response was "You know I need at least 24 hours advanced notice". and that was the entirety of the response. No response to my text and no response to a follow-up PM. That didn't leave me with such a great feeling...especially after the crappy week I had.

5. I was trying to setup things with others because my regular provider was out of town. After everything else fell apart I texted her on my way home just on the chance she was still home. I figured at the very least she would have something nice to say. I texted her and she responded in about 2 minutes. I asked her if she was home yet and she said Yes I Am! I asked if she wanted some company and I could be there in 20 minutes. She said COME ON! That's why she's my ATF and my regular provider. She saved my hobby week!

I just wanted to post some examples of why I am a regular of someone and not of some others.

So I have another question....Why should I see somebody else when I get all of this from my regular provider? Grass is greener? Just some variety? Provider not available? something about paying more and likely getting less doesn't sit well with me. So why should I "stray"?

Exceptional service!

I have been on a search for just that type of arrangement. I also know several guys here are on the same mission. It is a most difficult task. While the ladies profess to want those type customers they rarely follow through with what it takes.
(1) Preferred incall that is a permanent location. As already mentioned no searching for the place.
(2) Limited travel by the provider. If she is gone often how regular can it be?
(3) Must connect as already mentioned on several levels. It is important for me to laugh and snuggle and talk. This is GFE to me
(4) The cost must be in line. A break for regular visits is appreciated. A little extra time when the provider can spare it also noticed.
(5) Willing to communicate between sessions ( a little bit of friendly chit chat)
(6) a lunch or meal off the clock once and a while.
(7) As mentioned a smile and a real how I am glad to see you attitude.
(8) Good sex... she learns your buttons and you hers.. at least she makes you think so
(9) Available as much as possible when contacted.
(10) Don't get lazy after he becomes regular, keep dressing and looking good
(11) Let him apologize (((( well this is one I added for a situation )))))

TUMA.


Am I right fellas??!! Am i riiii... No? Oh ok.

If you can get me to a hat trick i will keep coming back

My favorites are a combination of things. Visually they have to be what fantasies are made of, for me. There needs to be mutual physical attraction as well as cerebral attraction. Though we are paying for time, I want to enjoy the company. After all I think most of us are filling in the blanks in our personal relationship whether Spouse or girlfriend. I also enjoy before or after taking her to lunch, something I do with ladies who I enjoy being with. Maybe it is like going on a date, I don't know, but for me it feels good and right. It also allows both to develop that special relationship.

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