The difference in upscale and not is IMHO about the ability to function as a host. This profession was born out of the roots of hosting. Whether we know them as escorts, oiran, geisha, companions or courtesan, it all started with a skill set that was not based strictly with what was between their legs. They understood the art of welcoming a person and entertaining them. In short they understood the art of hosting.
When I come see a provider, I am often amazed by the lack of basic courtesy that occurs in our transaction. And maybe this is the difference in price point. I've not seen it yet. But maybe someone will read this and take some it to heart. So here is some minor rants on some of my experiences and suggestions for universal improvement.
Welcome: When I show up at the door, I am probably a little nervous and apprehensive. You have 3 seconds to set the tone for the whole session. Smile, invite me in, and then guide me in. It's your space. I have no idea where to stand, sit, crouch, kneel or whatever. Bring me in to your place and tell me where to go. If you happen to have a couch, lets go sit on it together for a moment. Standing around awkwardly in the door way just is terrible. It does nothing to set the mode or build a connection.
As a corollary to this, if you are meeting me at some back door of your hotel, for god's sake, cover the @#$% up! Don't come meeting me half naked in some hallway where anyone can see us. Which leads me to attire.
Attire: Try to look put together. A little bit goes a long way. But your sweatpants and t-shirt is just not going to cut it. Maybe for a quick appointment, but for an hour or more, take the time and get it together. As much as anything we are here for a fantasy and rarely does that fantasy involve a woman who doesn't give a crap about her appearance.
Drink: Seriously. I don't expect you to offer me a glass of Glenmorangie 18 Year Single Malt, but would a bottle of water be too much of a courtesy? It's a little thing that goes a long way.
"Make Yourself Comfortable": You've left me standing in the doorway of your hotel, with no directions, no idea where to stand, sit or even where to put my coat. And you want me to make myself comfortable? Nope. You are responsible for my comfort. Take off my coat for me (maybe even hang it up?). In essence, help me get comfortable. Focus on me, not the thousand little things you have suddenly found to do around your room.
Your Phone: I have paid for your time. If you start messing with that thing during our time for any reason, I swear I am going to snap it in half. Seriously.
Conversation: Please try and expand your conversational capabilities beyond how awesome you vagina is. I am fully capable of making that decision on my own. And please, if I mention I am a healthcare worker, don't show me some terrifying thing on your body and ask me what it is. I'm not offering free services anymore than you are, and it really shatters the illusion.
Donations: Can we try and keep the menu simple? I really apreciate providers like Lariyah, Destiny and Dahlia (I'm sure there are others) who lay it all out up front. There are some providers out there whose menu's are so complex, they need an actual menu to sort it out. After working all day, looking at spreadsheets, the last thing I want to do is carry the zero through long division to figure out where I can put my penis.
The End: Walking off while the cover is still on and telling me that there is wipe in the restroom is a sure way to end this time on a low point. Even once that is over, there is still stuff to do. Everything I have said about the welcome applies in reverse. Help me get my stuff together, escort me out, etc.
Wow this got a little long. I could come up with more, but no one is reading all of this anyway.
In short, if you are a provider who understands and provides this level of service, I really want to meet you. I guess I'm really looking for the Madame de Pamapdour hiding on these boards and I'm not meeting her (If that's a reference you get without looking it up PM me right now!).
