Providers and their S.O.'s

I've found that when a client brings that up - it's getting too personal. However, I have the perfect situation and reply...my SO is my girlfriend youngsexxxysam and she's a part-time provider. Kinda deflates the situation and is an excellent lead into trying to schedule a double

Do you assume it must be a pimp or less of a Man who deals with our job Originally Posted by Sonya

yes

Just don't tell me his dick is bigger than mine...

Do a lot of clients ask about SOs?

As long as she doesn't have a SO who's going to create drama, her relationship status is none of my business and not something I'm curious about. When I'm about to have sex with a beautiful woman, the last thing I'm thinking about is another man.

Some providers bring up their SOs in passing and that doesn't bother me. I just don't want her to spend half the session time talking about her boyfriend or husband.

With my select regular clients, after trust and rapport have been established, it is very refreshing to talk like friends, like normal people about our lives. I trust them and vice versa. I talk about my real friends, family, tennis matches, kids, pets, parents, anything I want. They do the same. I usually don't talk about the 'hobby' world anymore with my regulars. It's more like friendship with benefit just between each of them and me.

I have been with several ladies that have SOs both the female and male SOs. I don't ask but if it comes up I don't mind. I have had the opportunity to meet a couple of the SOs and made what I consider to be friends. I would never want to get in the situation where I got between a SO and his wife. I have also met several pimps that control the lady. I will never see a lady that has a controlling pimp if I know.

Great topic, Sonya!

I usually get the overwhelming feeling that many guys think any provider who has a male SO has a pimp or a wuss for a mate. Absolutely no concrete data...just my gut.

I've spent years in and out of swingerville, so I have different outlook.

Though I will say...if a guy is only ok with his lady being a provider because of the money, not because they have an open relationship, I start getting a little suspicious.

I tend to not think about it really. As long as I am not getting sloppy seconds. Always shower before appointments.

I don't care if you have one or not. If I find out you have one during general conversation...doesn't bother me.

I know of one well known provider here that is married. She said he knows how she is bringing $ into the family and it's a don't ask don't tell situation. Originally Posted by oldman

There is nothing wrong with both husband and wife having jobs, if he accepts this as a 9-5 and it doesn't interfere in home life why not? Don't ask don't tell is the best way to keep a relationship and have normalcy outside this profession!!!

When he bitch slaps her, and takes her money, that's a pimp!

I hate to bring real life into the fantasy. When I hear of a boyfriend of SO i immediately think of exploitation. I know its a stereotype but most stereotypes are based on some level of truth. Originally Posted by peabody

I agree Peabody. I'm okay with knowing she has an SO if she tells me. But I'm not okay with it if I suspect the SO is not equally supporting the household and is staying at home while requiring (key word: requiring) her to sell herself to support him. That makes him a homeboy pimp. And that's when I walk away. Don't want that type to get any $ from me.

Brought it up with one lady - she took off her ring and dropped it in her purse. She said he knew and they just didn't talk about specifics. I thought it was odd but forgot about it as soon as she started blowing me.

Im very into the BDSM lifestyle so it mildly annoys me when someone offers services they dont understand. Not your fault Amy, I blame 50 shades of grey. And once upon a time i didnt know about kink either. So forgive me if I sound snobby. BDSM stands for bondage & discipline/ Domination and submission/ Sadism & masochism. So you dont need to say BDSM and submission. If you really want to learn about that id be happy to help you learn more about it. Its more than being forceful or buying BDSM toys.

Interesting thread with all good varied points of view. Personally, it makes me no difference if a provider has a SO. Long as her attention is concentrated on me during our time. I do not like the pimped scenario but to each his/her own.

Long as there is no drama with the situation I'm cool. Being single with no SO is my preferred lifestyle. If there is no "lead poisoning" involved toward me (guns). Lol

I have many providers yet to see that I'm interested in and hope they find me interesting as well! Again good thread!

Note: No judgement by me toward the ladies profession and none wanted!

It's okay.....as long as he's not barebackin' her.