What Makes It a Great (or one of THE Best) BBBJ's?

From a Non-Provider scenario, one of the best I EVER received (multiple times) was a girl I was living with while earning our Masters degrees. We'd lay in bed all morning talking, kissing, watching TV and in between performing oral on one another. Since we were both Type-A personlaities, there was always a sexy bit of competition regarding orgasm denial and we'd bring one another right to the edge repeatedly and then stop..leaving one another shaking with frustration. It was incredibly sexy and we both relished being in control of the other's body and final release. Special times.

MrCrowe and Catie Mae, you have hit on the one essential underlying quality of all great blowjobs.
As for you, txcwby6, you were shacked up with a jewel beyond price. How did you ever let her get away? Wait, lemme guess:
I too had a long relationship during college and grad school with an insatiable cock-loving woman like your roomie. I left because she was manic depressive and the mood swings were life-threatening. Sigh...

To me, the BBBJ is the most important part of the session. I'd rather have a great BBBJ than fuck most of the time, because a great BJ will relax the hell out of you. Sex is great, but if you can give a man that "Calgon" experience (where the whole world falls away) while you're blowing him, that's worth a whole hr session.

I hate when chicks try to get that first nut so quickly...unless it's an hour session and you have time. Other than that, give a man some oral therapy. Let me look at that ass and touch those tits while you suck it. Let me look down and see you running your lips up and down the shaft. That constant head bobbing get old...quick. Work the tip. Give it that head twist. Let me see those lips really pucker on it.

Damn...now I need to make a drive. Haaahahaaaa

My two cents: The best thing about a BBBJ from a provider is if she makes you think she wants to do what she is doing. Originally Posted by MrCrowe

Exactly what I was going to say. If I sense that a lady is really not interested in it, then it's really difficult to finish, which then makes me think "OK I need to finish because she's not into it" which almost guarantees I won't, LOL!

So, I like a lady who seems genuinely interested in it versus just trying to get it over with, makes some eye contact (doesn't have to stare, but looks up now and then) and situates herself where I can watch her go at it (ladies, we don't want to look at the back of your head!) As for technique I have to admit I do like it sloppy and wet, spitting is a nice touch. Some DT now and then, not constant. Gagging is a turn-on too. Playing with the boys with your hand while down there is a nice bonus, and BLS is even better.

Quick side comment, I like it when a lady bothers to situate me and herself to put herself in a comfortable position, that let's me know she's preparing for a nice, long stay down there

Even simpler. Both of us received incredible employment offers in the fields of our choice. She moved to Seattle and I was off to Boston. Life's choices.

MrCrowe and Catie Mae, you have hit on the one essential underlying quality of all great blowjobs.
As for you, txcwby6, you were shacked up with a jewel beyond price. How did you ever let her get away? Wait, lemme guess:
I too had a long relationship during college and grad school with an insatiable cock-loving woman like your roomie. I left because she was manic depressive and the mood swings were life-threatening. Sigh... Originally Posted by King MoMo

Caitie is on the thread and a welcome sight for this old geezer and my teeny weeny.
Having had the CME more than a few times I'd have to say the best part was what went on afterwards.

Caitie has the most endearing way of showing just how much she relishes the gift.

As for the actions enroute to the finish, Caitie is good at reading the signs and varying pace, depth, slobber factor and pressure to maximize my pleasure - which I think she fed on (really).

Bottom line, go with the girls who are on a mission of pleasure, not just a scripted part of the session.

Note to self - be available next time my email gets that CFM note from Caitie.

To me, the BBBJ is the most important part of the session. I'd rather have a great BBBJ than fuck most of the time, because a great BJ will relax the hell out of you. Sex is great, but if you can give a man that "Calgon" experience (where the whole world falls away) while you're blowing him, that's worth a whole hr session.

I hate when chicks try to get that first nut so quickly...unless it's an hour session and you have time. Other than that, give a man some oral therapy. Let me look at that ass and touch those tits while you suck it. Let me look down and see you running your lips up and down the shaft. That constant head bobbing get old...quick. Work the tip. Give it that head twist. Let me see those lips really pucker on it.

Damn...now I need to make a drive. Haaahahaaaa Originally Posted by str8.2.bbbj

^^^^^ my thoughts exactly!
we must be brothers from different mothers. or something like that.

Exactly what I was going to say. If I sense that a lady is really not interested in it, then it's really difficult to finish, which then makes me think "OK I need to finish because she's not into it" which almost guarantees I won't, LOL!

So, I like a lady who seems genuinely interested in it versus just trying to get it over with, makes some eye contact and situates herself where I can watch her go at it ... Originally Posted by RideFreeInTexas

for me, lil delites has cum even when the woman was not really interested in it. but i agree, it was way less deliteful than any oral delites encounter when the woman was really interested in providing a bbbj tc nq!!

... Bottom line, go with the girls who are on a mission of pleasure, not just a scripted part of the session. ... Originally Posted by mtabsw

^^^^^ most definitely agree!!!

I love to build up to the finale. ..just to think about sucking a man until he reaches his peak just makes my mouth water!! A man wants to feel as if his penis is in an incubator just waiting for his load to form and explode in your mouth!!! Sorry if I make you come too quick it's natural! ! ~~Nyna

3. Lastly, and this is just my personal opinion, she has to know how to close the deal. She needs to swallow. In my experience, too often, a girl who does not swallow will stop moving at the wrong moment in an attempt not to, turning the whole thing into a frustrating excercise. Originally Posted by daty/o

Exactly right - any fear of cim will almost always leads to a disappointing experience. While I prefer a swallow finish, as long as the lady welcomes the grand finale WITHOUT removing the fun stick from her mouth, I am ambivalent about where the evidence finally goes.

I equate this to an honest conversation with a lady about her enjoying playtime - if I change my postition or stroke about 4 pumps before she pops, or decide I have had enough daty 3 licks too soon, she is not going to be happy either...so please persevere !! I promise to try to! :-)

To me, the BBBJ is the most important part of the session. I'd rather have a great BBBJ than fuck most of the time, because a great BJ will relax the hell out of you. Sex is great, but if you can give a man that "Calgon" experience (where the whole world falls away) while you're blowing him, that's worth a whole hr session.

I hate when chicks try to get that first nut so quickly...unless it's an hour session and you have time. Other than that, give a man some oral therapy. Let me look at that ass and touch those tits while you suck it. Let me look down and see you running your lips up and down the shaft. That constant head bobbing get old...quick. Work the tip. Give it that head twist. Let me see those lips really pucker on it.

Damn...now I need to make a drive. Haaahahaaaa Originally Posted by str8.2.bbbj

100% agree. It's like your own personal porn shoot, the star of the show is the dick.

A great blow job starts before she puts her mouth on my cock. For me, it's the kissing that really makes a blow job great.

It could be GFE-type kissing - soft, sensual - nothing like a really good make-out session to kick things off before she works her way down. I think of it as her making love to my cock with her mouth.

It could be PSE-type kissing - tongue-fucking, animalistic, ravenous desire - that culminates in her attacking my cock with all her energy with a desperate, urgent need to have it.

It could be a combination of both. Come up for air and kiss me some more and then go back down. When it comes to the big finish - it's gotta be CIM or COF to be a great blow job.

If you want to give me a great blow job, kiss me like you mean it and do the same to my cock.

A great blow job starts before she puts her mouth on my cock. For me, it's the kissing that really makes a blow job great.

It could be GFE-type kissing - soft, sensual - nothing like a really good make-out session to kick things off before she works her way down. I think of it as her making love to my cock with her mouth.

It could be PSE-type kissing - tongue-fucking, animalistic, ravenous desire - that culminates in her attacking my cock with all her energy with a desperate, urgent need to have it.

It could be a combination of both. Come up for air and kiss me some more and then go back down. When it comes to the big finish - it's gotta be CIM or COF to be a great blow job.

If you want to give me a great blow job, kiss me like you mean it and do the same to my cock. Originally Posted by Reacher

Absolutely right! The only exception is when the girl has huge tits. In that case I prefer trying to glaze as much of them as possible. Kinda like marking my territory: JAKE PERMAN JIZZED HERE!

I prefer soft and delicate, but two of my ATFs savaged my cock and showed no mercy. What really makes a great blowjob is enthusiasm. If I get the sense the girl loves my cock then it doesn't matter where my special sauce lands, or whether she was hard or soft on my dick.

My three favorite for BJ's are
Bliss
Spikebaby
Jessica UTR
All these ladies are great and will leave you well spent and crawling back to your car!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When I cum go down on the shaft because the head gets way too sensative.

txcwby, for me, it's taking her time, teasing, slurping, holding it in her mouth so i can feel the warmth in there, nibbling, licking the shaft and balls, letting me pump it in and out, having her suck it in and out.

most importantly - staying with it until the end.
not switching to manual finish.
not taking it out and let it finish on its own.
not going "eeewwwwww!" when lil delites spurts.

staying with it until he climaxes and spurts.
in her mouth, on her lips, wherever she wants it.
but staying with it until the end!!!

she can continue to suck/lick/slurp him - unless i shove her away due to increased sensitivity.

but staying with it until the end!!!
that's when i know it's great, scratch that - DELITEFUL!!!
Originally Posted by pmdelites

LOL--- right--- this is my fave too. I consider this a job well done, especially if you are giving encouragement the whole time! And lots of eye contact!