I'm probably the exception to the rule. The ladies usally take a lot of time and put in a lot of effort to look nice for us. Since I'm not retired and am in a business environment, it is not unusual for me to be in coat and tie. I try to find time to shower and shave, especially if it is an evening appointment, so that I am my best.
Again, I appreciate the extra time the ladies put into making things special for us. Maybe I'm overdoing it? Ditch the coat and the tie? Just button-down and slacks instead?