sugar baby/sugar daddy

Oooooh.
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Why do women over 30 look for SDs.... Should they know not better.. nonetheless string their kids along??? I am just asking because I am dealing with it...and a 1488 brother who adorns me... Originally Posted by manuatu
For as long as you want to "deal with it" you will find chicks like that in the mix. All you need to do is set your limits and stick to what you want. The abundance of young pretty ladies looking for help is phenomenal.

You have 1083 options in San Antonio on one website alone that are 18-25
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Feelings are always a part however, for some it is just a symbiotic relationship almost a contract. Both want something, hammer out the details as best as you can and give it a go. Some connection is almost required as not to fight as much. That connection can be almost anything.
Why do women over 30 look for SDs.... Should they know not better.. nonetheless string their kids along??? I am just asking because I am dealing with it...and a 1488 brother who adorns me... Originally Posted by manuatu

Can u please put that in other words for me because I have no idea what you mean. Lol.
I always thought a sb/sd relationship was almost exclusive.
Similiar to a gf/bf relationship....lots of fun, great sex, shopping, trips, etc....everything BUT the headache. Leave the drama for your momma!!
But wait...am i off base here?
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No it is not strictly an exclusive relationship.

It is all agreed to when the details are hammered out.

I would think if a guy agrees to pay all expenses the SB needs, then he could expect to ask for an exclusive arrangement. There are alot of different types of SD/SB arrangements.

What i'm surprised that has not been mentioned yet, and Sarah should be aware of, is the "trial run." Guys will want to know if the BCD is what they are looking for.
Ah yes..... ive heard of that!!
"Sampling" ....
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Ah yes..... I've heard of that!!
"Sampling" .... Originally Posted by MsPrittiKitti

or "Trial Run" as some might put it.... Getting to know each other..... determining compatibility...... etc.....

Being a SB is a different gig and trust has to evolve on both sides of the fence..... At some point in time each party has to make a leap of faith...... Ones that come together and last are not remotely transactional in nature.....

In a SD/SB relationship the dynamics are totally reversed from what a hooker is used to with a John. I have yet to hear a story involving a provider successfully make the transition and I'm aware of a lot of guys that start in this environment and cannot shake the transactional concept and fail on their side as well. If I had not already had a few successful relationships with mistresses over the years I would have probably had more difficulty.....

For the first couple of years I maintained a scorecard based on how much I spent vs # of pops I got always striving for the most bang for the buck....

Then I let go of that and came to just enjoy what life brought my way.
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It's not "sampling" at all.

You don't make a deal if you are not compatible.

In the Hobby world, I know Providers that won't do an over night for fear they'll be up for murder charges
I have a sugar baby...I get in her as much as I want and she loves to stay wet...

My boat!...lol. I would never do that, way too much BS and drama that can ensue. There are too may real life women who can fit that bill and leave my money where it is. In the bank..Just saying. I will just stick to the pay as you go model if I see a good toy on the shelf that catches my attention. Good for you if you happen to obtain that...

T-1
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In my experience I would explain it like this ... (please forgive the length)

It is not like being a provider or a relationship that you develop with any type of client. Nor is it something you blindly go into either. You should both be looking for the same type of relationship generally and you don't start off by him handing you big Ole stacks of cash so if that's your ideas you have to change your thinking lol. But you don't meet and give him a "sample of the goods" on the first date either lol. Look at it like any other real life relationship that happens to be with someone who likes to spoil You. You know it will be the sd/sb relationship when he is taking you to nice dinners, maybe light shopping and then you start taking care of him and then the relationship grows and he gradually begins to do more for you and you do more for him. Until a natural comfort level for both of you forms. I don't want a sd to say here's X amount of money for spending the night with me but you are a wonderful part of my life and I want to make you happy why don't you go shopping today. Or here's a present. Or pay this bill for you.

Be aware of meeting a guy a right away he promises you the world. That's BS no legitimate sd will give away the farm. Especially out of the gate. But be warned when a man is taking care of you .. they expect to be number 1 priority.
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Be aware of meeting a guy a right away he promises you the world. That's BS no legitimate sd will give away the farm. Especially out of the gate. But be warned when a man is taking care of you .. they expect to be number 1 priority. Originally Posted by Naughty_Jezabelle
Well said!
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I have been very curious about the "sugar baby sugar daddy" world!!
Very good thread :-)

I have read some good articles about how a "client" should first contact and interact with an escort.... And Vice versa

Are there any good articles about how a sugar baby/daddy should "act"? :-)
Thanks ms naughty jezebelle. I needed to read that
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Are there any good articles about how a sugar baby/daddy should "act"? :-) Originally Posted by dakota123
Not really.......

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