Racism should be at least hidden

If her behavior was a reflection of fear from the alerted Tman/slinky/all his other 5 handles, she is also doing herself a disservice. And insulting potentially good clients in the mean time.

Some people are just newbies. Originally Posted by Ebony Jasmine Love Austin

I didn't say her screening method was right or wrong I just simply said that if her were Arab or Hispanic, given recent events that may have been the reason he was put through the ringer that's all. agree or don't agree that's up to you

I think it comes down to the actual context of the interaction between you two.

The Austin provider community is on full alert that Kingman is on the prowl for his next victim. Not might be. He IS hunting.

Her response could very likely have been based upon your accent needing some form of proof that you are not Kingman who would indeed have every intention to rob her. Thus her request for e-mail/ID which has been passed around. Also you've recently joined.

She didn't turn you down. She asked for your ID as you stated. It really sucks but I fully understand her position if this is the case.
She is doing what she needs to do to feel safe. That is primary and takes priority over the risk of offending a newbie.

This is assuming your accent is either Hispanic or Middle Eastern. While there may be grammar and slang differences I've never heard of an Afro American accent. Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Bingo! You win the prize!

I have absolutely NO problem with Middle Eastern clients. I have a screening issue with a guy who just joined, with a Middle Eastern accent, asking to see me. And now here he is, beating his chest.

I've not exactly been quiet on all of the Kingman threads - I've probably egged this guy on, and now he wants revenge, and maybe that makes me a little paranoid and a LOT more careful, especially since I'm newbie friendly. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with race. Jesus.

I've not exactly been quiet on all of the Kingman threads - I've probably egged this guy on, and now he wants revenge, and maybe that makes me a little paranoid Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

Or maybe being a little paranoid is causing you to see and hear things that are not really there?

For example..... What makes you think the guy "wants revenge" and would seek you out?

So far the only ones he has chosen to interact with are those that appear oblivious to what has been going on. The next alert will probably come from another that does not read the boards or check anything here other than her Pm box for responses to her ads.

You appear to be grandstanding a bit for attention ma'am..... Perhaps you should check out the "desperation" thread...

Alright guys, let's stop it right here. This went too far. Sorry all for this hectic thread. Claire, no hard feelings and have a good night

And just for the record, I have been a member for almost a year. However, My previous handle is disabled (Fbsm08)

Alright guys, let's stop it right here. This went too far. Sorry all for this hectic thread. Claire, no hard feelings and have a good night Originally Posted by fbsm07

LMAO!

yeah.... Sure.....

Since you asked so nice it will stop......


LOL!

This is assuming your accent is either Hispanic or Middle Eastern. While there may be grammar and slang differences I've never heard of an Afro American accent. Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Call is accent, call it slang, but just like the Texas slang, I do believe that one can detect Afro American speak (not from all, obviously).

Call is accent, call it slang, but just like the Texas slang, I do believe that one can detect Afro American speak (not from all, obviously). Originally Posted by fun2come

That's pretty much what I said isn't it? The parties referred to "Accent" not certain Afro American Speak which would be grammar and slang. They are distinctly different so it does indeed matter which was referred to.

One can speak perfect grammar with a foreign accent.

Interesting. When alerts pop up against white males, you don't see providers starting Non-Caucasian policies or implementing stringent screening policies against Caucasians...

I wonder why.

Edit: Nothing against Claire, it is just something we, as providers, need to think about before get on these race issues and think that, by generalizing, we are making anyone safer.

Or maybe being a little paranoid is causing you to see and hear things that are not really there?

For example..... What makes you think the guy "wants revenge" and would seek you out?

So far the only ones he has chosen to interact with are those that appear oblivious to what has been going on. The next alert will probably come from another that does not read the boards or check anything here other than her Pm box for responses to her ads.

You appear to be grandstanding a bit for attention ma'am..... Perhaps you should check out the "desperation" thread... Originally Posted by Whispers

To be fair the OP didn't deny having an accent which means it likely wasn't her imagination.

Also Kingman has been anything but rational in his behavior. Anyone who would continue to rip off providers knowing that everyone knows his RW identity is not someone who is going to be rational in choosing his victims.

My feeling is that this is not Kingman but then again I don't have to schedule BCD with him either.

Let's say Claire ignored her instincts and blindly scheduled with him.

Let's say something very unfortunate went down.

She would be getting reamed on the board for not screening strongly enough as a veteran provider.

Why would any provider have to defend herself when it is a personal safety concern? Her history shows she is no bigot.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

To be fair the OP didn't deny having an accent which means it likely wasn't her imagination.

Also Kingman has been anything but rational in his behavior. Anyone who would continue to rip off providers knowing that everyone knows his RW identity is not someone who is going to use rationality in choosing his victims.

My feeling is that this is not Kingman but then again I don't have to schedule BCD with him either.

Let's say Claire ignored her instincts and blindly scheduled with him.

Let's say something very unfortunate went down.

She would be getting reamed on the board for not screening strongly enough as a veteran provider.

Why would any provider have to defend herself when it is a personal safety concern? Her history shows she is no bigot.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Thank you.

To be fair the OP didn't deny having an accent which means it likely wasn't her imagination.

Also Kingman has been anything but rational in his behavior. Anyone who would continue to rip off providers knowing that everyone knows his RW identity is not someone who is going to use rationality in choosing his victims.

My feeling is that this is not Kingman but then again I don't have to schedule BCD with him either.

Let's say Claire ignored her instincts and blindly scheduled with him.

Let's say something very unfortunate went down.

She would be getting reamed on the board for not screening strongly enough as a veteran provider.

Why would any provider have to defend herself when it is a personal safety concern? Her history shows she is no bigot.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Originally Posted by Windinhishair

+1

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Interesting. When alerts pop up against white males, you don't see providers starting Non-Caucasian policies or implementing stringent screening policies against Caucasians...

I wonder why. LOL.... No you don't....

Edit: Nothing against Claire, it is just something we, as providers, need to think about before get on these race issues and think that, by generalizing, we are making anyone safer. Originally Posted by Camille Fox

And it is something y'all should discuss out of the general public eye.....

Correct me if I am wrong......

But just as there are clients that take offense at ladies having a policy by which they do NOT see certain groups of potential males..... there are those that will contact you and tell you that THEY will not see YOU because you DO see those certain groups?

"YOU" simply being a provider.... not any particular provider....

It's a bit of a "lose-lose" situation I would think....

To be fair the OP didn't deny having an accent which means it likely wasn't her imagination.

Also Kingman has been anything but rational in his behavior. Anyone who would continue to rip off providers knowing that everyone knows his RW identity is not someone who is going to be rational in choosing his victims.

My feeling is that this is not Kingman but then again I don't have to schedule BCD with him either.

Let's say Claire ignored her instincts and blindly scheduled with him.

Let's say something very unfortunate went down.

She would be getting reamed on the board for not screening strongly enough as a veteran provider.

Why would any provider have to defend herself when it is a personal safety concern? Her history shows she is no bigot.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Originally Posted by Windinhishair

A provider can and should protect herself for sure. But making statements like "You might rob me"?
You could have kept that part to yourself.

Claire did you initially explain to the guy what had been going on and why you were suspicious? Otherwise you can at least admit if you had been careful with your words and informed fbsm07 of the recent climate, he would have understood you are not prejudice and this thread would most likely not have started.

Alright guys, let's stop it right here. This went too far. Sorry all for this hectic thread. Claire, no hard feelings and have a good night Originally Posted by fbsm07

I don't understand why discussions which might not be exactly be dinner party chatter are considered hectic. The only two where were hectic were you and the lady you were booking with (Claire I'm assuming).

These discussions need to be had and are very informative.
If you didn't want us to discuss what's happened here you and Claire could have reached this conclusion like the grown-ups that you are. You to had a miscommunication and we can all learn from this.

You are asking us what we think, and we are letting you know.