Good DATY...

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Nope. I don't even remember the debate, so not an issue, and I generally don't take debate personally, even if it might sound like I do. I just turned off PMs because so many channels of communication were hard for me and my assistant to keep track of... so we just decided to funnel as much as possible to email. If you get to my area again, give me another try.

On subject, I guess it's pretty obvious that a willingness to please and open communication go a long way on both sides. I think we'd all benefit from being willing to say what we do/don't like.

Ladies: what makes good DATY? I've always gotten compliments on my abilities, but from what I hear every guy ever has.

Is it like pizza or a blow job? You know, even the shitty ones are still good? Or is there some technique that you prefer that is what brings you to climax?

Personally, my technique is as follows.
- I start slow, never with the pussy. Generally, it's DFK because I'm into the whole GFE thing. I like to kiss necks, and barely touch the nipples, to where it almost tickles. I give lots of massages and kisses all over the body to rev the engine.
- When its time to go down, I generally, spread my lover's legs wide, and I start kissing her inner thigh as I massage. I wrap my hands behind her waste and massage her ass and her lower back under her.
- My hands slowly pet the inside of her legs, slowly moving toward the promised land.
- I gently touch the outer lips as a tease. I alternate massaging her legs and teasing her labia.
- Then its time to go in. I normally start by light kissing directly on the vagina. I use a little tongue. I suck on the labia and pull them a little bit. I piss her pubic area above the pussy, and I work my way down.
- I generally don't stick my tongue in, but I will if she's not wet.
- Like many, I use the alphabet/random character technique on her clit, spelling random shit that pops into my head.
- I suck on the clit.
- I'll penetrate with my fingers. Depending on the feedback I'm getting from body language, I may or may not continue to do this. Sometimes I go for g-spot massage. Sometimes I penetrate the ass too. Sometimes I trace the leg. It's all in the feedback.
- I alternate between the last several techniques. After I'm getting the language that she wants to get off, then I pick whichever of the above techniques made her moan and thrust to the hardest and start doing that one exclusively, with any variations I think will make her cum hard.
- Then I use that technique to push her to climax.
- As she comes, I slow down, and generally end with very light clit and labia sucking.

That's my road map. Tell me what I can do to make it better and make you ladies cum harder. Originally Posted by sketchball82

It gets me all hot and bothered. You sound awesome! Before I can help you with your technique I will have to try you out in person.

No, the bad ones are not good, and the worse ones are endless torture. You seem like you have a pretty good plan in theory though, I'm sure the execution is even better (:

A few observations:

Don't suck on anything. Our down yonders are tender and delicate and anything rougher than a tongue flick might not feel good. No biting, of course. And to the guys that are seemingly compelled to aimlessly "play DJ" down there - don't. Fingers require special attention to moisture and technique. Don't put your finger on anything between the labia majora that isn't wet, friction without lubrication is quite uncomfortable and sometimes even painful.

I've never had anyone "piss" my pubic area; I can't imagine how that might contribute much to achieving the desired outcome ha! Originally Posted by Johanna

Whoops! That is *kiss* not piss, lol. Naw, peeing on my lover during DATY is so not me, haha. ... but you never know in this hobby I guess, haha.

It gets me all hot and bothered. You sound awesome! Before I can help you with your technique I will have to try you out in person. Originally Posted by HeatherDAngelo

Rawr!

Read all her reviews and most of the time you can spot what she likes. Also start slow, soft, and let her come to you with her actions. Works most of the time for me. Applying pressure slowly and trying gentle different technics will normally let you know when you are getting the right spot.
Just my take from my on personal experience.

What are you talking about? Women do not orgasm. Originally Posted by pyramider

Don't be silly - female orgasm is a myth!!

Probably the most common mistake, for me, is that the gent just dives right in and attacks right away. Slooowww down, buddy. You have to be sweet to the kitty, coax her to come out and play. Originally Posted by CarolineDavenport

+1

As for the OP's technique, it all sounds good except that I don't want to be spread wide when you get going. I want one leg bent, and the other leg straight and held down under your chest/arm.

As for fingers - none in my ass, please. A tongue on the outside or a cock on the inside, but for the love of god, keep your fingers out of my ass!

With your dominant hand, palm facing up, insert your middle finger and with slow, gentle 'come hither' motion (slow and gentle! Have I mentioned keeping it slow and gentle?! Your finger is not a dick - I don't want it to fuck me!), find my G-spot, while your index and ring fingers are pressed against my labia. Use the other hand to apply pressure to my pubic bone (mons something - mons pubis? Fuck, I can't ever remember what it's called). And all the while keep your tongue moving on my clit. It's the DATY trifecta. You're welcome.

I'm amazing at eating pussy mm the taste is phenomenal! ! From experience I would say body language is definitely the key. I also love having mine ate and i don't mind a little biting and sucking.

As for fingers - none in my ass, please. A tongue on the outside or a cock on the inside, but for the love of god, keep your fingers out of my ass!
Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

+1

Except I don't like a tongue or cock near my ass either. Tongue on clit, cock in pussy, nothing in my ass!

I use no standard technique.... just follow the body language or perhaps even ask how she likes it done and I follow suit....but always a surprise or two .... the benefit of experience. Best results for me are those times where there's a lot of discussion prior to the appointment as to what is desired.

One of the better experiences I had was a lady who agreed to pose blindfolded while waiting in bed. She left the door unlocked. No words were spoken...our first contact were a very gentle kiss from my lips to her pussy. Her orgasm shortly followed....didn't take long and it was the first time she had ever squirted in such a quantity. I've concluded the environment one creates and the mental state one is able to achieve makes the technique itself a secondary consideration.

One of the better experiences I had was a lady who agreed to pose blindfolded while waiting in bed. She left the door unlocked. No words were spoken...our first contact were a very gentle kiss from my lips to her pussy. Her orgasm shortly followed....didn't take long and it was the first time she had ever squirted in such a quantity. I've concluded the environment one creates and the mental state one is able to achieve makes the technique itself a secondary consideration. Originally Posted by Zhivago52

Now that's hot! But good god, that requires a lot of trust!

+1

As for the OP's technique, it all sounds good except that I don't want to be spread wide when you get going. I want one leg bent, and the other leg straight and held down under your chest/arm.

As for fingers - none in my ass, please. A tongue on the outside or a cock on the inside, but for the love of god, keep your fingers out of my ass!

With your dominant hand, palm facing up, insert your middle finger and with slow, gentle 'come hither' motion (slow and gentle! Have I mentioned keeping it slow and gentle?! Your finger is not a dick - I don't want it to fuck me!), find my G-spot, while your index and ring fingers are pressed against my labia. Use the other hand to apply pressure to my pubic bone (mons something - mons pubis? Fuck, I can't ever remember what it's called). And all the while keep your tongue moving on my clit. It's the DATY trifecta. You're welcome. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

anyone else waving their hand around in the air?

anyone else waving their hand around in the air? Originally Posted by txman123

Hell, yeah. Took me several seconds to untangle my fingers so I could use the mouse.

+1

Except I don't like a tongue or cock near my ass either. Tongue on clit, cock in pussy, nothing in my ass! Originally Posted by JessicaKnightly

Prude! What about your taint? Your taint is real close to your ass.