No voice no pride.

Thank you. As I have received many emails and support I will never stop sticking up for what is right. If I get banned for that we all know I was banned for trying to make this place fun instead of bully infested.

You GO girl!.....

I am happy to see that many are on board to make this place fun and not a bully board. I for one desire to have fun sexual banter and not waste time on calling out B and S. This is not sappy it is real people with a desire for fun times not for trolls to sit around waiting for their next victim. Those guys and gals are probably hurt souls and they take their anger out on here behind fake names. We are not a mental health board here so take it elsewhere! We are all sexual beings here and that is what it is about......adult sexual fun. Originally Posted by Chloe

Great going, Ms. Chloe.

You may notice that a couple of curbside bullies are still around, despite their alter egos/alternate handles being banished.

I have no doubt they will be hounded out sooner or later, with their stool pigeons in tow.

I have seen this coming a long time ago and was roundly mocked then in public, by these awe-inspiring intellects.

You have notices the groundswell of opinion against this type of behavior, and many more who do not post do not approve of misanthropy or misogyny, and simple rudeness in public.

Hiding under the fact that providing is a "crime" and casting aspersions on any member's state of mind or moral fitness is an issue that the Moderators need to stamp down upon. I seriously request the moderators to weigh this carefully:

The term moderator means to THINK, to moderate. The meaning is obvious.

Suppose their is a friendly, happy exchange going on among members that is increasing fellowship among ECCIE, contributing to a spirit of camaraderie. Why is it the moderators' business to close down threads, to watch whether something is off or on topic? That is like monitoring content like a schoolmaster, an overzealous master watching over a bunch of infants, an authoritarian excess.

However, there is a time when the content and tone of the content does matter. That is when people begin to throw mud at each other. Say things that are presumed, e.g assumptions about the state of the mind of 5 or 95% of the members. I can equally propose that anyone who claims anything that specific in statistical terms needs to put up, OR shut up for a month. Completely.

Because someone's right to swing his arms stops exactly when it hits my nose. That is a long-standing American principle. When you are including ME or OTHERS in your comments, your freedom to do so MUST become subject to moderation and scrutiny. That is the issue. If you don't like it, go away. Others have been made to go away.

[Another 2 or 10, including axing me will not matter at all, if the ECCIE gains, and more ladies are encouraged to participate as a result.

We need 10X more ladies writing in; otherwise we are becoming too concentrated on just a few posters regularly posting, and few with anything useful to say, especially me. So, axe me first, if that will help ECCIE, and the ladies. I shall be very happy.]

Do not become aggressive and think another cannot respond pithily in the same vein, and that you are the only miraculous clown in the Universe, the sole source of infallible wisdom. You are not, and not admirable at all. Take a blind vote. Clipped wings should have warned you.

That is when moderators MUST moderate, i.e. gently tone down the spirit of the exchanges, turn it away from the negative element. I liked it when DDarkness wrote in a comment, "This discussion is rapidly going south", in the thread about "Arab..". That is to my mind an example of what MODERATION MEANS. Not shutting down a thread in a fit of pique! That is a huge NO! NO! called censorship, and GOVERNING CONTENT without just cause. Sorry to be emphatic.

I am not one of the absolute clowns who make a profession of abusing the moderators as a reflex. That merely speaks of a social instinct, the hoodlums who are hanging on as a group yet within this board.

However, I am politely able to suggest to the moderators that there is need for introspection and continuous modification of their methods. You are NOT censors of content, when members are not being acrimonious but friendly and joyful. You are our peers, not our bosses. Please remember this very important point that is being forgotten lately. We are not scared children to be punished for minor infractions. Not good. It militates against all that is good in this country.

Please allow members to decide if threads are on or off topic. When people are happy on a cold winter day, adults being nice to each other, engaging in banter, why does it matter to anyone what is being said?

Is there a moral contract to a greater power that content will be held against moderators? NO.

So long as sensitive issues are not being thrown around carelessly, people are not being defamed/attacked/mocked, bad language is not being used, let members pipe up and say, stop this nonsense, get back to the OP's topic. Let us self-regulate. MODERATE, NOT GOVERN, is the idea, behind the word "moderator". Thank you all.

Chloe, Bullying is not an easy subject for me. Throughout my Jr. & Sr. High School years (now 30+ years ago) I was bullied by classmates because I was overweight. I was tossed in the showers , had phony love letters from the pretty girls put in my locker.
10 years ago I had gastric bypass surgery. I'm now at a normal, healthier weight for my age and height. I jog regularly. Went to my 30th High School Reunion a few years ago and confronted one of my bullies. He did not remember anything about it. I was the one left with the scars. Mean people suck !!

Chloe, Bullying is not an easy subject for me. Throughout my Jr. & Sr. High School years (now 30+ years ago) I was bullied by classmates because I was overweight. I was tossed in the showers , had phony love letters from the pretty girls put in my locker.
10 years ago I had gastric bypass surgery. I'm now at a normal, healthier weight for my age and height. I jog regularly. Went to my 30th High School Reunion a few years ago and confronted one of my bullies. He did not remember anything about it. I was the one left with the scars. Mean people suck !! Originally Posted by DickDastardly14450

No offense, DD, I understand this completely, but do not agree, which is why I push back against many anti-bullying blowhards. For one, usually the anti-bullys are fine with bullying that is in their favor, for example when their company squeezes a competitor out of existence or when their government imposes a sanction on a weaker nation. Then it is winning. Big picture, might does make right. Bullying is unpleasant but essential.

Bullying and being mean does suck but so does whining. I'm not accusing DD of that, his post is literate and has a point; but all this generic unsubstantiated crying about how the website isn't what it should be is for the birds.

Bullying tactics is what our very own government thrives on. Local, state, and federal levels. My daughter said her whole school watched a bullying video today. I wonder how much money our government spent on the production and distribution of those videos.

Bullying is for junior high students who are insecure. We are adults. We do not need to resort to that way of being. I personally let out the truth. Any alert or concern I have had is true and said to save others from going through the same situation.

chloe try NN
for some advice?
she used to beable to man up around here



wheres the BAT?

Haha JB! Consort a crazy stalker for advice? You must think I really am bonkers lol.

'crazy stalker'?

Isn't name calling and baseless accusation a form of bullying?

But who is NN? We have no idea. That person does not exist here. Please do not draw attention to those who do not exist here for reasons they need not have to tell us. We all deserve annonimity. She or he needs their privacy and they deserve that.

place has never been sappier

jump into all the wonderfull thought inspiring and fascinating thrADS


happy thoughts Originally Posted by JONBALLS

You don't like it? That is okay. I suggest you go somewhere else to hurt people or stay here and be a good guy

You don't like it? That is okay. I suggest you go somewhere else to hurt people or stay here and be a good guy Originally Posted by Chloe

you don't like it?

I suggest you stop being overly sensitive or stay here keep crying , or don't , or do whatever you like

but the faster you stop trying to banish everyone you don't agree with

and try a little tolerance

the happier inside you will become

try love and exceptance not hate

it matters not to me what others have to say about me or others as its generally out of my control

so if someone wants to freely express their thoughts about a subject I may not agree about it, that is ok with me
they don't even have to do it grammatically correct, I cant change that and will except them without wanting to ban them

I would never ask them to go somewhere else

its usually a lot more fun having the people that don't aspire to fascism

This is evolving to a bunch of old has beens spending their days trying to recall what it was like to get two boners in the same hour. Originally Posted by wmnotell

My feelings are hurt. Don't be bullying us old guys who can't get it up two times in an hour.

Chloe I'd love to see you sometime and remember the ignore feature on here is your friend.

Well, this thread is getting entertaining. :-)