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Keep trying to justify it...you've almost got me convinced...no, really...

You never loved your SO...if you did, you'd never have married her...

I'm still scratching my head at how hardhat thought that futile was admitting to being gay on the forum when CLEARLY he was bringing up hypothetical examples of what to say to THE WIFE/SO not the eccie board.

#readingcomprehensionskills

You're going to play the "Gay Card"? Unless you have a history of homosexual behavior, you'll have a hard time pulling that one off. Originally Posted by H.Hardhat

I'm still scratching my head at how hardhat thought that futile was admitting to being gay on the forum when CLEARLY he was bringing up hypothetical examples of what to say to THE WIFE/SO not the eccie board.

#readingcomprehensionskills Originally Posted by wreckshop

yes. yours. he addressed your concern.

3- You are little confused about your sexuality and started questioning yourself if you are gay (after seeing naked man at Gym or whatever). You just have to find out if you still into women
Really? That's where you're going to go when backed into a corner? You're going to play the "Gay Card"? Unless you have a history of homosexual behavior, you'll have a hard time pulling that one off. If you do have a history of homosexual behavior, Why The Hell Would You Post That Here? What the fuck were you thinking? . :facepalm:.

That last part confuses me..

You never loved your SO...if you did, you'd never have married her... Originally Posted by Wakeup

Well as we used to say... There is three type of Man; Monk, Adulter and Gay. I do not know any man, who I know well, being with one woman for life. I am sure there are some asexual who ended up married and easy for them to stay with one woman.

So, from your logic, most married men or men living together with their SO, never loved their wife/SO if they ever been with another woman. It is hard to accept that people went through all these trouble being under same roof with another human being without loving each other. Why do you think they do that except they fell in love? So your conclusion is faulty.

Holy Tebow, your rationalizations are sickening. If you want to cheat, cheat. But if you cheat, you better own up to it.

That last part confuses me.. Originally Posted by wreckshop

he's just covering the other side of the coin. the last part is in case the OP's last answer isn't hypothetical.

basically, he's assuming the answer is hypothetical but on the off chance it isn't.

Holy Tebow, your rationalizations are sickening. If you want to cheat, cheat. But if you cheat, you better own up to it. Originally Posted by pyramider

Leave futile alone, he should go with whatever works for him. Originally Posted by pyramider

ha, ha!

I can't believe what I am hearing from some of you. You are saying I do not love woman A because I had sex with woman B, C, D etc. You guys should be last people for me to tell you love and sex are not the same things. In fact I believe we can love more than one woman at the same time. It must be true if you can love more than one kid at the same time. So I at least am capable of loving someone dearly while sleeping around with several other women.

How about, "Oh, I thought she was you! Have you seen my glasses honey?"

Really, just suck it up and move out.

I can't believe what I am hearing from some of you. Originally Posted by futile

You ask these kinds of questions on a SHMB, this is what the fuck you get.....still think you should've taken my advice earlier.....your already fucking around anyway, she can't possibly mean that much eh?

Your response is simple.

"I chose to cheat on you. I don't regret it. I'll do it again. What do you want to do?"

Anything else is the guy being a lying, hypocritical pussy...well, more so than he already is... Originally Posted by Wakeup

There's a chance that it was your father cheating on your mother, but with that kind of anger, my money is on an ex-wife/love your life finding greater happiness in the bed of another. It's not your life he's talking about so who cares?

Unless she actually catches you in the act, tell her you are volunteering for the hooker outreach program at church and you're only chatting these girls up to get close to them and win their trust. Then you're gonna bring them to Jesus.

Or tell her you're writing a novel and the main character is a whore monger. You're just doing some research.

Hiccup.

I do not know any man, who I know well, being with one woman for life. Originally Posted by futile

And there's your problem. You, and your friends, have no idea what it means to make an emotional and legal agreement, and actually hold up your end of that bargain. You have no frame of reference for what it means to actually love someone. It's not a surprise that you have no idea what that word means, or what responsibilities come with it.

So, from your logic, most married men or men living together with their SO, never loved their wife/SO if they ever been with another woman. It is hard to accept that people went through all these trouble being under same roof with another human being without loving each other. Why do you think they do that except they fell in love? So your conclusion is faulty. Originally Posted by futile

Yes, that's my exact contention. If they truely loved them, they'd have seriously thought about what they would do if, someday, their sexual needs weren't getting fulfilled by the person they were thinking about proposing to. If their answer was that they'd cheat on their future wife, and they still got married, then yeah...never loved her...they were just doing it because it was expected of them...and they knew they would have no problem lying to their wife in the most heinous of ways for the rest of their life. That sound like love to you?

It's not your life he's talking about so who cares? Originally Posted by citizen44

He does...he started the thread. You suggesting that no one should comment in any way? Or just no contrary replies are acceptable? Does that apply to you as well? Methinks that you being disparaging of my negative opinion of cheaters says more about your life situation than it does mine...