The horny level of your provider: Hit the ground running or...

slow build up works best for me and her. so long as the chemistry is right.

It really depends on what mood I'm in that day...

AND if I'm tying myself up to the bed prior to our session, leaving the door unlocked for him... In that case, it's all up to the gent -the desired pace to unwrap this present!!


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ItalianaPrincess

I think I want her motor running when I get there. Since I love DATY, that will bring her that much higher!

Not every time, but for a change of pace - I call a lady I've seen before to verify and let her know I'm going to be 5 minutes late - and tell her to unlock the door and get started before me.

(I'm not really late.) So when I walk through the door, I can see directly into the bedroom and there she is - naked, on her stomach, legs spread wide and fingering herself - what a sight !!!

no small talk - we get busy real quick

I guess it depends on both our moods. I have shown up to extended sessions ready for the long slow passionate build-up, just to be mauled at the door (which I did not mind a bit). I like both.

for me, sometimes the thinking about, planning, confirming, and ancitipating the encounter is enough to get lil delites hard and horny for the actual encounter and ready to get it on as soon as i walk in the door.

sometimes, all the above, but then to walk in, hug, talk for a bit, slowly remove clothes, and start with soft sensual erotic kisses all over ... that's nice, too.

soemtimes, all that, but i'll plan what she'll be wearing, where she'll be in the room/apt/condo when i arrive, what we'll do, what she'll do, etc.

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i've also experienced those treatments from the woman's side - she attacks me as soon as i walk in; she slowly but surely leads me in to her web of erotic sensations; she calls the plays.

as long as the end result is a delitefully enjoyable encounter, i'm fine w/ any of these positively fun approaches. Originally Posted by pmdelites

+1 - I am with PMD on this. It all depends.

What really matters to me is getting Jr. at full attention before all the clothes are off. Getting that to happen is approach agnostic.

It really depends on what mood I'm in that day...

AND if I'm tying myself up to the bed prior to our session, leaving the door unlocked for him... In that case, it's all up to the gent -the desired pace to unwrap this present!!
Originally Posted by ItalianaPrincess

IP - In my experience, when the lady "leav[es] the door unlocked for [me]" with a self tie up and/or self blindfold, the result is such an intense and rewarding session.

I have to go with choice B, getting her there myself.
That said, a pleasant surprise is that once you have chatted, kissed, rubbed, etc, you discover that the lady is MORE than ready, well I won't ask when she started.....

+1 - I am with PMD on this. It all depends.

What really matters to me is getting Jr. at full attention before all the clothes are off. Getting that to happen is approach agnostic. Originally Posted by aflac

aflac, thx for the thought. at least i'm not alone in my thoughts. oh, wait, was that my echo? :^)

IP - In my experience, when the lady "leav[es] the door unlocked for [me]" with a self tie up and/or self blindfold, the result is such an intense and rewarding session. Originally Posted by aflac

and i'll send a +1 back to you. i have experienced that kind of scenario several times. restraints and/or or inhibiting any of the senses [whether on her or me] make the playtime much more intense, imo.

italiana princess, sounds like we might have a plan in store :^)


one of my first experiences with a submissive woman was kinda like that. a good fav [who was submissive] recommend her to me, so we were all cool about trust, etc. i requested she leave the door to the hotel room open [fortunately, none of the housekeeping or maintenance staff walked in on her], she be naked and blindfolded, and she be kneeling on the floor facing away from the door. she did as i requested. i asked her for her safeword, then put in Flents 29 dB reducing ear plugs and proceeded to experience 50 mins of intensely deliteful pleasures with her as my submissive. yummmy deliteful!!!

before i left, i had her snuggle against me on the couch to thank her for being such a good submissive partner. she asked if she could remove the blindfold. i said "no, i'm going to leave and you will not know what i looked like. is that ok?" she said with a somewhat dourful tone "yes." she had been so good to me, i relented. i got up, pulled her off the couch, then kissed her, hugged her, and finally removed the blindfold. she was most appreciative and got down on her knees to thank me and lil delites!!! we had many many dominant/submissive encounters over the next two years [in dallas, austin, san antonio] until she moved to an atlantic coast state.

one of my first experiences with a submissive woman was kinda like that. a good fav [who was submissive] recommend her to me, so we were all cool about trust, etc. i requested she leave the door to the hotel room open [fortunately, none of the housekeeping or maintenance staff walked in on her], she be naked and blindfolded, and she be kneeling on the floor facing away from the door. she did as i requested. i asked her for her safeword, then put in Flents 29 dB reducing ear plugs and proceeded to experience 50 mins of intensely deliteful pleasures with her as my submissive. yummmy deliteful!!!

before i left, i had her snuggle against me on the couch to thank her for being such a good submissive partner. she asked if she could remove the blindfold. i said "no, i'm going to leave and you will not know what i looked like. is that ok?" she said with a somewhat dourful tone "yes." she had been so good to me, i relented. i got up, pulled her off the couch, then removed the blindfold as i kissed her and then hugged her one more time. she was most appreciative. we had many many dominator/submissive encounters over the next two years [in dallas, austin, san antonio] until she moved to an atlantic coast state. Originally Posted by pmdelites

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Outstanding! Thanks for sharing. Big time style points for creativity. Never have considered noise canceling devices.

I've only been dabbling in this area for a short while. You've given me ideas. I'll credit you in any reviews.

just remember, paramount for a deliteful D/s encounter is trust, trust, trust.

I'd probably lean more to Option B (slow-n-easy); however, one of my most memorable option A's occurred in California.

I had a regular, almost weekly, outcall. One night she came to the door dressed in an knee-length overcoat and high heels. Upon entry, she immediately removed her coat only to be sans clothing. The thought of her driving over, walking through the hotel lobby and up to my room butt naked were too much to handle.

There was no Option B that night. Just raw action.

I like the build up...Sex starts with the mind....as a provider, I like the illusion of BFE as much as the gents enjoy the illusion of GFE. While I have a high sex drive and enjoy my own body often, I prefer we engage in a little and sometimes a lot of foreplay when getting together. Having said that, I do know a gentleman or two that sometimes just thinking about our upcoming visit gets my motor running and am ready to go upon arrival....LOL Originally Posted by M A X

+1, my dear Miss Maximum Pleasure. Every once in awhile it is nice to know that one is anticipated/appreciated enough to get the juices flowing aforehand, but generally the buildup is at least half the fun. Not that we would know anything at all about that, would we?

+1, my dear Miss Maximum Pleasure. Every once in awhile it is nice to know that one is anticipated/appreciated enough to get the juices flowing aforehand, but generally the buildup is at least half the fun. Not that we would know anything at all about that, would we? Originally Posted by topguntex

I have no idea what you're talking about, dear, unless you meant, when we were sitting and having a glass of wine and then....uhoh Guess I shouldn't Kiss and tell....LOL xoxo

If your poll is still open, I prefer to bring my lady to the peak of her desire myself - foreplay makes a session.

SAS

I have never had this, but I always wanted to see a provider that at the moment I entered she attacked me. She grabbed me, kissed me hard, and immediately started talking dirty to me and letting me know how horny she is, how bad she wants me, and she wants me to f@#k her brains out.

I know it would be an act, but I think it would be cool to experience.

I also do not mind the build up as well. I enjoy pleasuring the provider and seeing that she enjoys herself as well. I do not mind taking any direction from her (I have no ego there) and performing so that she builds up hotter and hotter.

But in this world of fantasy fulfillment, I am not going to lie that experiencing the immediate attack would be nice as well.