There is a difference between "Trashy" and "Elegant". A garter belt, stockings, a lacy bra and a tasteful pair of heels can be VERY "elegant". Of course the woman wearing those items dictates the differentiation as well.
Give me this persona, subtle make-up, a nice hair-do, a glass of champagne, a little smile, a fun toast...I'll be a happy man!
Cheers!