DATY, should I overwhelm giving O's or hold back and stop. Are multi O's 2 draining or 2 intimate 4 providers in session. Is their a limit?

Great thread & I agree that yes for the orginal poster it is a fetish & issue of control most definitely
& has not been addressed yet

Hermosa & KarmaPolice make great points

All women are different. Personally, I thoroughly enjoy long DATY sessions as I'm multi-orgasmic. The only way I'd ask a guy to stop is if his jaws locked up...LMAO Originally Posted by KarynKumming

I love daty😋. Two hours of me feeding you is fine, depending on how you eat it. If you are trying to get me to cum fast then I can last an hour and 30 minutes maximum. Lol. I still want to cuddle and taste myself off of your tongue. Originally Posted by anita

God bless you ladies. I love that kinda vibe. Its what I seek and hope to discover in every lady I see. But I guess according to this thread, you type ladies vibes are a rarity. Defintely keeps me motivated.

My clit becomes hyper sensitive after I orgasm externally. The kind of sensitive that feels like electric shock if any stimulation continues. Generally I need a cool down of 10 to 15 minutes and then I can either repeat or move on to more in depth explorations. I tend to use the cool down time to offer some reciprocated affection. Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

This is understandable and I could work with this especially the reciprocated part. That to me is GFE. Its the total isolation after which I don't enjoy.

Again what people are not taking notice of in my post are the words and actions of the provider after she achieves orgasm. The old DON'T TOUCH ME, NO CUDDLNG, YOU CAN'T FUCK ME for an hour or two after I cum. That time frame to me is a service liablity.similar to lades who prefer to smoke immediately after sex. Me I enjoy cuddling for at least thirty minutes after sex, I like to bask n the glow for just a little while first. Gfe stuff. I don't want to play second fiddle to an immediate and constant cigarette break.

The whole don't touch me mode really makes me feel as if my efforts to please her to her preference beforehand were unappreciated (I'm not a vibrator you can just toss aside, this is still the illusion of gfe and companionship.........yes I feed my ego knowing she achieved and got hers maybe, but I don't have the satisfaction of seeing and feelng her visibly appreciating I'm there being ostracized. Can't hold her close and feel her heart beat and observe her heavy breathing. All the while while recovering from her apparent orgasm mode....she's on her phone posting on facebook.....or quick to say, I'm gonna go smoke this cigareette (playing second fiddle to her vice) "fourty more minutes baby......its still sorta orgasmy." Palease......this has nothing to do with control, a fetish (maybe, but I could certainly refrain from doing it if I wanted too....so not so much), or the BDSM control stuff.

If You ladies saw your real life boyfriend ... and you helped him achieve orally to a strong orgasm.....and he told after to get off of him and don't touch him......your telling me that wouldn't effect the vibe of what just occurred at all. A client is different......you might stop because he requested it and you want to please him cause he's paying for the service........its not the same situation with a client from my perspective. I seek gfe/pse experiences. So being told no touchy no fucky definitely strikes a cord of beng less GFE with me.

The less sensitive the clit the more likely she can enjoy multiples, though she is likely more challenging to get there. Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

I enjoy that challenge and welcome it. But admittedly if I put in the tme and effort to try to get her to achieving and. Can never get her there....or she just doesn't ever cum by her own admisson from oral, probably wouldn't venture to see her again. I know its weird, but what's the point if there is no end result. Id probably assume she was so numb to cumming because she was so jaded to it.

The more sensitive the clit the more likely it's a one and done deal. She is likely to also come to completion faster and easier. Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

I have noticed this as beng very true most times unfortunately. Especially in regards to ladies who have large clits. One good orgasm is usually draining for them...at tops 2. Which sucks because I really enjoy doing daty on ladies with large clits.

Instead of going for multiples what about prolonging the enjoyment? Tease a little. Caress other highly sensitive parts of her body before bringing her to the finish line. Maybe even get her to the edge and move........ Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

Well I don't mind teasing at all. Telling her not to cum and bringing her close and stopping right before she acheives.....I can do that all day. But will that be more annoyng for her...... bet it will in bulk. If someone kept getting me close to the point of orgasm orally continuously, and started gong back to kssng my stomach or sme other trival stuff other than the money shot, cim or cof, that would annoy me at some point. Certantly if she has skills she can take as long as she wants......but most ladies complain about having sore necks and jaws and needing to stop after fifteen 20 minutes tops....so dont tease just appease please. Save the teasing for the other guys who cum once and can't get it back up. I have multiple orgasms.....Id rather just get mines now if your there. Lol

Now case in part.....the sugarbaby I cut off who had the rule of needing 1 to 2 hours breaks after achieving orgasm from daty..... offered to do that same teasing thing to her. Where I would continuously through the night get her close to cumming....but never achieve so she wouldnt have any service liabilities after. She was in no way interested in that obviously. It can be annoying.

And I do try different things orally other than clttoral stmulation and such. But when ladies are in their zone and telling me via body language wise not to stop the flow of what I'm doing......I think the tease part can be an annoyance. If I'm personally doing daty, I've already covered other areas..........get to the main event already lol.

Just MY .02...I don't think it's either GFE/PSE but either a fetish or a control thing (BDSM)... Originally Posted by karmapolice

Not a fetish I don't think. Could easily go without the use of doing daty and just get mine through her doing just oral on me or prolonged intercourse via overnights.

Don't think I'm being dominant in bdsm mode either. If anything m servicing her and being submissive to her pleasures. That doesn't mean based on those pleasures though that. Want her services given to me after havng and orgasm to be limited.

Maybe too much porn and such makes us guys think women are only what we want them to be! Ran into this situation once. Really appreciated her openness, she relaxed even more, and it was really a great time. Originally Posted by Hermosa

Have no isssue with ladies beng honest in what they offer. After screening Ill ask beforehand in clinical detail for the things and services I prefer. She can be hnest and open then.....and assuredly if her lmitatons weren't to my preferences I wouldn't see her. Her honesty would lead me to another provider who could accommodate me moreso than her......ts just Karma......no police needed.

Great thread & I agree that yes for the orginal poster it is a fetish & issue of control most definitely
& has not been addressed yet Originally Posted by CiaraCaress

No issue of control for me, just smething I like to do. Want to do it.....I don't need to do it....and certainly could got without it. But I'm sure that would make me less BFE.

Do agree with you this topic hasn't been addressed yet for the most part. Think for guys who mostly book an hour or less.....this sounds sorta sappy. But I like to book multihour overnights moreso to overwhelm myself sexually for a night. When a lady allows me to match that vibe. I tend to have more fun on overnights. I seek fun. Nothing more satisfying than seeing a top notch pro and having her reach her points of pleasure too.

(Shrugs)

I don't blame you at all for not wanting to see a SB that refuses to even cuddle after you give her a orgasm after an extended DATY session. Heck, if I was dating in my civilian life and my SO pulled that on me they would no longer be my SO.

If the lady is comfortable answering intimate questions then I don't see anything wrong with your approach. Open communication is very key.

I adore DATY, giving and receiving. Generally, I can avoid the problem of over-sensitivity if I'm vaginally or anally penetrated at the same time. After six or so pure clitoral orgasms I need another point of focus or my lady bits will need to take a break.

Of course the ladies love DATY, that is time they do not have do anything but moan a bit and check facebook. If you taint chewing you taint eating. Multiple O's? Nope, she is faking ... women do not orgasm.

unless they are paying me, I do not DATY on the 1st date. I like to know the girl better before I dare.. who knows the guy before me could have shot a 5 day load of many gravy in her....