Bitching about a problem doesn't bring attention to it, it brings attention to yourself. There are other ways to discuss issues that need attention.
edit: Semantics to some, though, as any discussion would probably equate to bitching.
Originally Posted by FunInDFW
Semantics is correct. Sometimes it doesn't matter how lightly you tread, how sweet you sound, or anything else. There are those that will blow things outta proportion and it matters not how professionally you approach the subject needing to be brought to the forefront. Mayhap, they are guilty of a topic at hand.
So, no......bringing a "problem" to others attention is not necessarily just griping about it, even if others try to make that the issue. Some of us already know others are gonna be....."snarky" and make it out to be something it was not intended to be.
We gotta do, what we gotta do in order to keep our individual biz's on track and maybe even help others while doing so.....ya know? We simply can not please all the people all the time in order to get that done. So, just because a lady says, dang, what's up with no one screening or returning requests for refs, doesn't mean she is a gripey or even an unhappy demanding ho. It might mean....If I am continuing to have a problem, I know others must be experiencing it, but I don't see it being addressed. Deep sigh and with all the courage she can muster......plop! Out comes an issue that others are gonna attack, no matter how legitimate or serious the issue actually is.
It is what it is and until you've walked a mile.......
I wonder how many late cancellations are "cold feet" disguises? that is, the guy decided he made a wrong choice, made an excuse, and will never consider seeing her in the future?
for those that are, is it better to say upfront "sorry, I made a wrong decision, just letting you know", or just cancel and never contact the provider again? if I was a provider, and was canceled, I would expect the Hobbyist to try again soon..
and if she tells the guy "hey, you canceled once, you're now on a short leash (or similar wording)", and he never contacts her again.. she wouldn't know that it never made any difference..
I imagine most ladies would say they want the cold truth, to be told the Hobbyist intends to never see her.. period.
Originally Posted by Chung Tran
I don't expect anything from anyone, other than a little common courtesy. Gents and ladies make mistakes in the biz, get cold feet, or whatever you wanna call it. And so what if it doesn't make a difference in that manner, it certainly will make a difference if he tries to schedule again and cancels. Again, it has to do with common courtesy. And no, the cold truth is none of my business, unless you care to share. No need to make excuses or give me reasons, I'm a big girl and once again just a little common courtesy is all that is necessary. It's not like we have binding contracts or we're your wives or gf's. Your business is your business, just as our business is ours. Other ladies may feel differently.
