Is Good Ole'Fashioned Intercourse Becoming Obsolete?

Ah, if only I were in Dallas this morning...

My most intense orgasms occur from oral, however, there is something to be said for holding a woman in your arms and giving her a good fucking.

Excuse me, I have to go to the bathroom...

If you were in Dallas today, it would be my absolute pleasure. I'm in such a mood this morning!

Hugs,
Elisabeth Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

This is my reflexive response whenever anyone comments about changing sexual patterns and practices: Porn did it!!! Porn loves the visual aspect of fellatio which highlights the outrageous size of the males and contrasts it with the facial beauty of the women. It's harder to photograph the bump and grind of intercourse where that damn penis keeps hiding in the vagina.

But I am an old fashioned guy, snapping my suspenders and adjusting my bow tie as I type this curmudgeonly response. I like intercourse and I almost always prefer to have my O's (okay O) through intercourse. My preference is largely grounded in the visual and overall gestalt of great intercourse. I am thinking back to one of my early great loves, a young nurse with a nubile, glorious body highlighted by a fantastic ass. I can see her now, ass up, back concaved as she placed her head on the sheets, her face in profile with her long dark hair splayed in a halo. Her eyes were closed and her full lips were parted from the pleasure.

I would slide my cock in just a bit and our sole point of physical contact was the circle of her vagina gripping my cock. I always thrilled at the reality that I had 102 pounds of perfect female flesh before me whose sole purpose was to to make me cum. And I always did, deeply and with such intensity that my scrotum would be sore the next day.

There are other examples that I could share but I do not want to belabor the point. Oral sex is a great sexual aperitif, but the main course for me has always been intercourse.

On the other hand, I am perhaps overly fond of DATY. Does that make me a more modern sexual guy?

Blame it on rubbers! You can't get a good fuck wearing a raincoat so the only alternative is to kink it up a bit. Hell, I can do the straight fuck at home - sans coat. Why pay for the same thing?

Regular intercourse is for couples. Hot stinky nasty sex is the kind you pay for

Blame it on rubbers! You can't get a good fuck wearing a raincoat so the only alternative is to kink it up a bit. Hell, I can do the straight fuck at home - sans coat. Why pay for the same thing? Originally Posted by John Bull

John,

I am completely shocked at your language. Seriously, I have NEVER seen where you've written the word "fuck". I might faint!

All of this, though, makes sense.

I don't MIND the kink, or the oral, or anything. Just sometimes, I do wonder how I can go so many days without the good old in and out and still be a relatively busy working woman.

Hugs,
Elisabeth

I can say that I have grown more fond of the bbbj due moreso to the fact that I have had few 'connections' with providers. I absolutely love the good ole in n out, but for me it needs to come with the eye contact, affection, dfk, etc. When that kind of connection isn't there, I honestly can't perform worth a hell. But the good ole bbbj is always a satisfying time

This is my reflexive response whenever anyone comments about changing sexual patterns and practices: Porn did it!!! Porn loves the visual aspect of fellatio which highlights the outrageous size of the males and contrasts it with the facial beauty of the women. It's harder to photograph the bump and grind of intercourse where that damn penis keeps hiding in the vagina.

But I am an old fashioned guy, snapping my suspenders and adjusting my bow tie as I type this curmudgeonly response. I like intercourse and I almost always prefer to have my O's (okay O) through intercourse. My preference is largely grounded in the visual and overall gestalt of great intercourse. I am thinking back to one of my early great loves, a young nurse with a nubile, glorious body highlighted by a fantastic ass. I can see her now, ass up, back concaved as she placed her head on the sheets, her face in profile with her long dark hair splayed in a halo. Her eyes were closed and her full lips were parted from the pleasure.

I would slide my cock in just a bit and our sole point of physical contact was the circle of her vagina gripping my cock. I always thrilled at the reality that I had 102 pounds of perfect female flesh before me whose sole purpose was to to make me cum. And I always did, deeply and with such intensity that my scrotum would be sore the next day.

There are other examples that I could share but I do not want to belabor the point. Oral sex is a great sexual aperitif, but the main course for me has always been intercourse.

On the other hand, I am perhaps overly fond of DATY. Does that make me a more modern sexual guy? Originally Posted by awl4knot

I don't know if you're a modern man or not, after all you do wear suspenders (at least figuratively), but reading your above post was ... with the descriptions ... damn hot. And super well written.

Your response was sincerely appreciated!!!

Hugs,
me

Kink and BBBJ's are good but you can not beat
DOWN HOME FUCKING in the missionary position.

Im gonna agree with the connection angle. My hobby is mostly for the fantasy of making a connection for an hour or so, if for nothing else, than for my ego. I dont always pop with every encounter, so I dont make that my goal.
As far as BJs go, Im still learning DATY myself, and becuase I dont feel like Im very good at it, I dont judge the girl on her skills.
As far as Im concerned, I could be spooning a girl, have my manhood in her hands stroking it, and if we make that connection from just holding her there, I would feel half way towards being worth the experience, LOL.

For me it takes awhile to be comfortable with a Provider.
I have to see them a few times before my body/mind is acclimated (sp) to their touch. Until than, it is practically impossible to complete in coitus.
It is nothing on the Providers part.

But when I am at ease with her, it is not a problem.
Hence, I like an ATF.

Most men can have sex with their wives but their wives don't want to give blowjobs anymore. Oral, both giving and receiving, as well as kissing and conversation are the main reason I do this. Also, I can never get off for a second cup with just plain old fucking. So yes, most men are in it for something other than plain old-fashioned intercourse. Originally Posted by pipefitter73

well said. nothing further to add for me!

I know that most of my female friends would prefer oral sex to penetration. Which is something that I don't believe that I will understand in this lifetime. Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Is this a matter of personal preference or professional expediency? FWIW, in my happy experience a great O from DATY usually is followed by a healthy craving for some slam bam-thank you ma'am intercourse. Maybe I only see really slutty (in the kindest sense) women?

I don't know if you're a modern man or not, after all you do wear suspenders (at least figuratively), but reading your above post was ... with the descriptions ... damn hot. And super well written.

Your response was sincerely appreciated!!!

Hugs,
me Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

This thought may change your image of me. Don't the Brits call garters "suspenders?"

I am glad that you appreciated the imagery but this was an expurgated version. The memories that I hold have much greater texture and deeper sensuality. I was afraid that they would be too wanton during the holiday season. But the point remains the same: oral sex doesn't give me that full body participation and experience that I get from intercourse.

Elisabeth, as always, you have the most provocative thoughts.

Awl4knot

Certain "safer" fetishes become drastically more popular with the outbreak of incurable STI's. Take, for example, the foot fetish. It became popular in Europe during a gonorrhea epidemic. It also became more widespread in the 16th and 19th centuries during syphilis outbreaks.

Blow jobs cannot be classified as a fetish, but perhaps the lower rates of transmission of STI's have some effect on people's desire for it in relation to their desire for intercourse.

Perhaps it could be that this type of relatiohip is extremely impersonal and it, therefore, requires more extreme types of stimulation to achive satisfaction.

*Achive