Those last awful unexpected last minute cancellations.

You've been a stable and reliable fixture long enough that no reasonable person could fault you for having to cancel for personal reasons. Originally Posted by Hellion437

Which is why I am thousands of times more likely to schedule with someone of your reputation than someone who is constantly flaking out on appointments. If you, or someone with a similar rep cancels we can be pretty sure it is for a legit reason. Hope you're back to normal soon !

Just be honest, don't try and fake it to get through a session. The good clients won't hold it against you. I would much rather have a genuinely enthusiastic partner than someone who fakes it just to get through.


I was with a provider once who just wasn't feeling it at the time. She admitted she was having a difficult day and asked if I would be upset if we stopped. She said she wouldn't charge me and would make it up to me on our next session (if I didn't hold this against her). So we stopped activities and snuggled naked for a while. She really appreciated it, and gave me much more on my return visit.

Yeah this irritates the fuck out of me. I have this major high sex drive and I only see eccie guys. I don't do bp or any other sites. Also I work too with a real life day job. When I take lunch or take time from the clock and I'm taking a trip and paying for a room. I expect to get some action. I enjoy this as much as the guys lol maybe a little more but I hate it at that very minute oh.I just got rear ended. OK yeah there are dumb drivers and but I am not a dummy. Oh here is my favorite one " the family dog died." I have had that told to me and that was an automatic block. Anywho sometimes I think that a lot of guys here are full of bs when there is no reason to be like that. So I hope that will get better and put a list of time wasters.

Kaylee, I will be the first to admit I've been somewhat notorious this last year for cancellations. I have apologized to those and offered a discounted session upon a rescheduled visit. Whether it was that I simply was ill or that family came first, I have honored those discounts or offered extended time.

I absolutely sympathize with your situation as I have been going through something similar myself with the recovery of my recent breast augmentation and a hormonal imbalance.

I know the last thing these gentleman want to hear is an excuse but hopefully they will be understanding. Sometimes it's out of our control and I certainly will not go into a session where I half ass it. That just doesn't make for good company.

Life Happens...

Hope you feel better Kaylee

What ticks me is Providers who scream obscenities when I have an emergency and have to cancel. The last one- hot water tank burst. Guess the Provider never had it happen.

I never explode when I get the cancellation- shit happens, people. J

Just had one this afternoon. And I am praying her baby will be ok.

Discounted session is the correct answer here. Take 20% off the rate.

Being known as a provider who goes the extra mile to please her clients is also good for business.

Life happens!

If you have to cancel, do so in a timely manner. Most of us will understand, so be honest, but don't give out too much RL info.

None of us like being stood up, a simple email, text, or call is lots better than going silent.

It's not life or death people ...I always tell my regulars if you get a better offer go for it. They know where I will be when their done. It's called play save, have fun and keep in touch.

NM

Just reverse things and think about how it makes you feel when someone cancels on you last minute. What do you need to feel we aren't just wasting your time but had a legit reason for canceling. Personally all I need is " sorry honey, something has come up and I have to cancel but I would love to see you some other time if you still would like to see me ".
My personal opinion is cancelation fees are bull shit and should not be paid or expected. If the hobbyist cancels it would be nice if he offers to pay a little extra at the next appointment but it should be his choice and not her insistence. Conversely, if the provider cancels it would be cool if she offered a slight discount or extended time on the next appointment but the hobbyist really shouldn't expect it.
This is a hobby, just a little break or getaway from our reality but sometimes the reality gets in the way and neither side should be punished for handling our real life situations as they arise.
Now if canceling becomes habitual the that's another story.

Kaylee/SexyPlatinum,

Life happens to the best of us sometimes, with respectful, reasonable people this is as easy as rescheduling but the the frustration might possibly cause some behavioral quirks to manifest themselves, the right thing to do is to offer an alternative time before the person leaves for the appointment. The earlier the better....

IMHO , if the appointment is set days in advance, there is always higher chance of something unexpected occurring so we should have that in mind, on both sides. The shorter the time before actual appointment , the more unpleasant can be because of the long hours of anticipation. At the same time, since compensation did not take place no one can claim of being tricked, it is only an issue of diminishing trust. Sometimes , as I was told by a very nice lady yesterday, you can be surprised by"Mother Nature calling" . You do not want to play against Mother Nature! Communicating upfront the chances of a cancellation, makes the situation much easier to reset. If anything, the provider side has a monetary incentive not to cancel... Short, clear, to the point communication is the classy way. Being understanding and gentlemen like should be appreciated.

Cancellations happen...but I think if a girl has to cancel (especially last minute) I would think or hope that she would set up a re-scheduled day/time.

Cancelling is one thing...blowing someone off with no responses or a N/S is another...

It all boils down to communication

Thanks guys.

These last few days has been a bumpy ride but thankfully things are getting back to normal.

I appreciate the great feed back.